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- 1. Amalungelo anikezwa abantu abashadile
- 2. Abantu abayizitabane abasazona izakhamizi zesigaba sesibili
- 3. Ukuba semthethweni emhlabeni wokuba ngumzali
- 4. Konke kungokoqobo
Kube yisihloko esishisayo emikhankasweni yezepolitiki amashumi eminyaka. Kuyisihloko esihlukanisayo, sishiya iningi labantu likhona noma lisiphikisa ngokweqile. Kuyinkinga yamalungelo omphakathi. Kuyinkinga yamalungelo abantu. Kepha akufanele kube yi ukukhishwa kube bonke.
Futhi silapha, ku-2017, sisakhuluma ngomshado wobulili obufanayo.
Ngo-2015, inkantolo yezomthetho e-United States ngokomlando yakhipha isinqumo sokuthi zonke izifunda ezingama-50 kufanele zivikele amalungelo emishado yabantu bobulili obufanayo. Ngakho-ke, akunandaba ukuthi uyathanda, uyazonda, noma awunandaba nomshado wezitabane, ulapha ukuhlala.
Esikhundleni sokuqala enye impikiswano phakathi kwalabo abasemaphethelweni we-spectrum, ake sikhulume ngeqiniso lesimo: abesilisa nabesifazane abayizitabane banqatshelwe ilungelo lokuthanda, ukulwa, ukuphikelela, nokuthanda futhi, enjabulweni yomshado isikhathi eside.
Manje njengoba sebenikezwe amalungelo afanayo neminye imibhangqwana engabobulili obuhlukile, ake sibheke ezinye zezinzuzo abazozijabulela manje njengamadoda ashadile nabesifazane abashadile.
1. Amalungelo anikezwa abantu abashadile
Kunemihlomulo eyi-1,138 enikezwa abantu abashadile, ngezilokotho zikahulumeni. Funda lokho futhi- 1,138! Izinto ezifana nokuvakashelwa esibhedlela, ukunakekelwa kwezempilo komndeni, kanye nokufakwa kwentela ngokuhlanganyela bekutholakala kuphela uma ubushade nomuntu onezitho zokuzala ezihlukile kunezakho. Akusekho kangako!
Ungaze ucabange ukungakwazi ukubona omunye wakho obalulekile esibhedlela ngemuva kokuthola ingozi enkulu yemoto noma ukuhlinzwa okukhulu? Uyazi ukubhola, kunjalo umndeni kuphela ekupheleni kosuku! Lokho kusho ukuthi isikhathi eside kakhulu, abesilisa nabesifazane abayizitabane basala egumbini lokulinda ngenkathi umuntu abamthanda kakhulu elulama phansi kwehholo. Amalungelo afana nalawa avame ukunganakwa ezingxoxweni zemishado yabantu bobulili obufanayo, kepha ngesinqumo sango-2015 esivumela abashadile ukuba bashade, manje labo bantu bangajabulela nalezi zinzuzo.
2. Abantu abayizitabane abasazona izakhamizi zesigaba sesibili
Ngaphambi kuka-2015, lokhu bekuyiphethini yokucabanga yangempela noma ingxoxo ebingenzeka:
“Sawubona, ubheke ukushada?
“Yebo kunjalo!”
“Uyayikhokha intela yakho? Ingabe uyisakhamuzi saseU.S. Uyakholelwa zonke lezo zinto ezimayelana nokuthi “bonke abantu badalwe belingana?”
“Yebo, yebo, yebo!”
“Ngabe niyizithandani ezithandana nabobulili obuhlukile?”
“Hhayi, cha. Singungqingili. ”
“Uxolo, angikwazi ukukusiza. Nibukeka njengabantu abalungile, kodwa ngeke nishade. ”
Kugcwala ezincwadini zaseMelika futhi kuyisiko ukuthi wonke amadoda adalwe alingana. Ukuphela kwesibambiso sokuzinikela “... isizwe esisodwa, ngaphansi kukaNkulunkulu, esingahlukaniseki, inkululeko nobulungiswa kubo bonke.”Ngicabanga ukuthi obaba bethu abasungula, nabaholi abaningi abalandele, bayikhuluma le nkulumo, kodwa abenzanga kakhulu ukuhamba. Abantu base-Afrika baseMelika, abesifazane, nabesilisa nabesifazane abayizitabane baye bahlushwa lobu buzenzisi ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane. Kepha ngokunyakaza kwamalungelo omphakathi, ukunyakaza kwamalungelo abesifazane, futhi manje yisinqumo esikhulu ngo-2015 esivumele noma imuphi umbhangqwana ongqingili ukuthi ushade e-United States, imigoqo phakathi kwamazinga okuba yisakhamuzi iye yehla kakhulu.
3. Ukuba semthethweni emhlabeni wokuba ngumzali
Imibhangqwana yabantu bobulili obufanayo ibikhulisa ngempumelelo izingane iminyaka, kepha bekubukeka sengathi kuyindlela yamaqembu amaningi anenhloso. Lokhu akukhethi imibhangqwana yobulili obufanayo, kepha abantu abaningi (abadala, abantu bendabuko) bavame ukwahlulela labo abakhulisa izingane ngaphandle komshado. Ukushada nokuba nezingane bekulokhu kuhlanganiswe ndawonye, ngakho-ke lapho umbhangqwana ukhulisa izingane ngaphandle kwemingcele yenkambiso, kuvame ukuthatha ukujwayela. Ngemibhangqwana eyizitabane manje evunyelwe ukushada, bangakhulisa izingane zabo ngenkathi beshadile njengabantu bendabuko abangafuna.
Okubaluleke kakhulu kunombono wabantu ongabazi nhlobo, umbhangqwana ongqingili okhulisa ingane ngenkathi ushadile nawo ungasiza ingane. Ngaphambi kwesinqumo esivumela umshado wobulili obufanayo kuzo zonke izifundazwe, izingane kungenzeka ukuthi zabheka abazali bazo futhi zazizwa zihlukile ngoba abazali bazo babengashadile ngenkathi bonke abazali babangani babo bengashadile. Ngicabanga ukuthi kungenza ingxoxo enzima futhi edidayo ukuba nayo yomzali nengane lapho bezama ukuchaza ukuthi zazingavunyelwe ukushada. Kulezi zinsuku, asikho isidingo saleyo ngxoxo njengoba imibhangqwana yobulili obufanayo ingakhulisa izingane zayo ngenkathi ijabule emshadweni.
4. Konke kungokoqobo
Ngemuva kokushada, usomahlaya uJohn Mulaney wenza amahlaya ngesisindo sokushintsha isihloko sakhe somunye esivela entombini, abe yisoka, abe yinkosikazi. Ubalule indlela obekuhluke ngayo ukumbiza unkosikazi esikhundleni sentombi yakhe nje. Kwakunamandla athile ngemuva kwayo; kwaba sengathi kunencazelo ethe xaxa kuye.
Yize ukuphawula kukaMulaney kuphikisana nokushintshela kwakhe emshadweni, lolo shintsho ngolunye lwabantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo abavalwa iminyaka. Kuze kube yilapho esemthethweni umshado wezitabane, iziqu ababenamathela kuzo kwakuyisoka, intombi, noma umlingani. Abakaze babe nethuba lokubiza umuntu ngokuthi umyeni noma unkosikazi wabo.
Lapho kuyinto okuthile okukhethekile nokungajwayelekile ngokushintshelwa kulezo zihloko. Angikaze ngizizwe nginjengomuntu omdala kunangesikhathi ngiqala ukubiza intokazi yami “mkami”. Kwakungathi ngiwele umkhawulo. Kungabonakala njengodaba oluncane, kepha ukunika izithandani zobulili obufanayo ithuba lokulandela lowo mkhawulo kungaba inzuzo enkulu kakhulu eziyitholile esinqumweni somnyango wezobulungiswa.
Akekho othanda ukubizwa ngokuthi "umlingani". Kukwenza uzwakale sengathi uyingxenye yenkampani yabameli. Indoda nowesifazane iziqu ezingcwele, okungenzeka ukuthi yingakho abenzi bomthetho bezibambelela kubo kangangeminyaka. Babengafuni ukuvumela imibhangqwana eyizitabane ukuthi izwe ukuthi kukhetheke kanjani ukuba nendoda noma unkosikazi. Manje noma imuphi umbhangqwana ungaba nalolo lwazi. Ukuba yindoda nomfazi, indoda nendoda, noma inkosikazi nenkosikazi konke kuyizinto ezinhle. Lapho kuyinto isisindo kulawo mazwi. Manje yonke imibhangqwana yobulili obufanayo izoba nenzuzo yokuyikhuluma ngosuku lwayo lomshado.