-Delile
- Hlola
- Xolisa, xolisa, xolisa
- Ukululekwa kwezithandani
- Ukukhomba inkinga
- Ukufunda ukuthethelela
- Ukwakha kabusha ukwethembana
- Yenza umshado wakho uze kuqala
- Iyancoma
Ukungathembeki kwesinye sezimo ezihlukumeza kakhulu ezingathinta ubuhlobo bakho. Ukwethenjwa okulahlekile ngemuva kokuthi umlingani ekopelile kubangele ukuqhekeka kwesibopho somshado okunzima ukulungisa. Noma ufuna ukuqala kabusha ubudlelwano, ukukhaphela nokungabi nalukholo ozizwa ngemuva kokungathembeki sekwenzekile kungabenza buzwakale njengomgomo ongenakwenzeka. Kepha, ngokubhekana nemiphumela yokungathembeki ndawonye, imibhangqwana iba sethubeni eliphakeme lokubuyisa ubuhlobo babo. Ngeke kube lula, kepha kungenzeka ngokuphelele. Nakhu ukuthi ningahlangana kanjani ukuze niphilise ngemuva kokuthola ukuthi umlingani wakho akathembekanga.
Hlola
Kubalulekile ukuthi uqhubeke uzinakekele ngalesi sikhathi esibuhlungu. Lokhu kusho ukudla njalo, ukuthola amanzi anele, nokugcina injabulo ngempilo yomphakathi. Kodwa-ke, kunodaba olukhulu kakhulu lwezempilo okufanele ulunakekele. Uma nilwa nemiphumela yokungathembeki ndawonye, esinye sezinyathelo zokuqala ngaphambi kokubuyisana ngukuthi nobabili nihlolwe ama-STD's. Noma ngabe umlingani wakho asebenzise ukuvikela, kusekhona ithuba lokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi bathole ukutheleleka noma isifo ngesikhathi sokuziphatha kwabo kabi ngokocansi.
Xolisa, xolisa, xolisa
Ukuze kuqale izigaba zokuxolelwa, umuntu onecala kufanele axolise ngamaphutha akhe. Lokhu kungenzeka kaningi, uma kungenjalo nsuku zonke. Umuntu owoniwe angadinga imbangela yaloludaba, kanye nezizathu zakho zokuthi kungani uxolisa ngokwenzekile kuphindaphindwa kubo kaningi. Thatha ubunikazi ubazise ukuthi uyayemukela imiphumela yokhetho lwakho olubi futhi ubakhombise ukuzisola kwangempela ngomonakalo owudalile.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lowo owoniwe angaxolisa futhi nganoma iyiphi indima ayidlalile ekuweni komshado, kepha lokhu kuvunywa kungaba kude kakhulu.
Ukululekwa kwezithandani
Ukwelulekwa ngomshado kungasiza ngendlela emangalisayo emibhangqwaneni ebhekana nemiphumela yokungathembeki ndawonye. Kungenzeka ukuthi uthole induduzo ngokutshela umngane wakho oseduze mayelana nokulingwa kwakho kobuhlobo, kepha kwesinye isikhathi kuyaphumelela kakhulu ukuba nochwepheshe ovela eceleni ongachemile ozokusiza ekuqondiseni kulesi sikhathi esididayo. Ungalokothi wesabe ukuthola usizo lokusindisa umshado wakho.
Lapho uya ekwelashweni kwezithandani uzofundiswa ukuthi ungaxazulula kanjani izingxabano futhi uzofunda ngezinkinga zomunye nomunye nokuziphatha okungenzeka ukuthi kuholele ekuweni komshado wakho. Umeluleki wakho uzokuyalela nokuthi ungawuqinisa kanjani umshado wakho uye phambili.
Ukukhomba inkinga
Ungakholelwa ukuthi umlingani wakho ubengathembeki ngoba nje ithuba livele, kepha iqiniso ukuthi izindaba zivame ukuvela enkingeni enkulu emshadweni. Ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa, ukwehliswa kocansi emshadweni, izindaba ezedlule, ukuhlukumezeka ebuntwaneni, ukuzizwa ungaziswa, nokungabi naluthando emshadweni konke kungaba nomthelela ekungathembekini.
Yibani phambili ngaphambili ngezinkinga eninazo emshadweni wenu nokuthi yini okungenzeka iholele ekubeni nobabili ninikele ekwenzeni umshado wenu ubaluleke kakhulu. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ubone izimpawu ezingaba khona zenkinga ngokuzayo futhi ubhekane nazo ngqo.
Ukufunda ukuthethelela
Ukuthethelela kunzima ukukwenza, kepha kubalulekile ekubhekaneni nemiphumela yokungathembeki ndawonye. Lapho othile ekhaphele ukwethemba kwakho kungaba nzima ukumxolela futhi umvumele abuyele empilweni yakho. Asikho isikhathi esibekiwe sokuthi uzolungela nini ukuthethelela umlingani wakho. Kungathatha izinyanga eziyisithupha, kungathatha iminyaka eminingi. Umugqa wesikhathi uhlukile kumuntu ngamunye.
Ukuze uthethelele oshade naye ngobuqotho, bekufanele ngabe uthole okulandelayo: isiqiniseko sokuthi udaba seluphelile, ukuxolisa okuqotho okusuka enhliziyweni koshade naye, ukwenza konke okusobala mayelana nalolo daba nokuthi umngane wakho womshado ukuphi, kanye nemizamo eqhubekayo yabo yokuthola uthando lwakho nokwethemba.
Ukwakha kabusha ukwethembana
Uma ukwethembana sekulahlekile kunzima kakhulu ukubuyela emuva. Ukwakha kabusha ukwethembana noshade naye kubaluleke kakhulu uma kuhileleke ukungathembeki. Zilungiselele ukubonisa ukubekezela kwangempela nozwela phakathi nalesi sigaba, ngoba yisahluko esinzima kakhulu ohambweni lwakho lokuhlangana futhi. Ukuze bakhe kabusha ukwethembana, umuntu owonayo kumele akhombise ukuthi banesibopho sokwenzekile, bathembekile ukuya phambili, okuhambisana nothando lwabo nokwethembeka kwabo, futhi banesihawu ngomonakalo abawenzile emshadweni.
Ukwakha kabusha ukwethembana emshadweni ochithekile ngeke kufezeke ngamagama wodwa; kudingeka isenzo. Yilapho kusebenza khona ukungaguquguquki. Isibonelo, uma utshela oshade naye ukuthi uzoshaya uma uzofika ngemuva kwesikhathi, kungcono ushayele ucingo ubazise ukuthi ume ezwini lakho.
Ngezinye izikhathi, kungazwakala sengathi ubuyela emuva kodwa lokhu kuvame kakhulu. Xhumana njalo nomlingani wakho ukuthola ukuthi yini abayifunayo nezidingo zabo ukuze ukwazi ukubamukela kangcono ngalesi sikhathi sokuzama.
Yenza umshado wakho uze kuqala
Ngesikhathi sithandana, ingqondo yakho ibigxile kuwe kuphela. Uthathe isikhathi namandla ukufihla ukungathembeki kwakho obukade ukuchitha emshadweni wakho. Manje njengoba izinto seziqalile ukulungisa futhi indaba isidlulile, nobabili kufanele nigxile ekunikeleni ekwenzeni umshado wenu ubaluleke kakhulu. Ngaphezu komsebenzi, ngaphezu kwezingane zakho, nangaphezulu kwempilo yakho yomphakathi. Yenza umshado wakho ubaluleke kakhulu ngokubeka eceleni isikhathi nsuku zonke zokuchitha isikhathi ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo noshade naye. Khombisa ukwazisa nokubonga ngezimfanelo ezinhle zoshade naye, niqabulane nsuku zonke, futhi nikhulume ngokuthembeka omunye komunye.
Iyancoma
Manje njengoba usuthathe isikhathi sokuvumela imizwa yakho eluhlaza ilulame futhi usebenza ngamakhono akho okuxhumana omunye nomunye, sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha isinqumo sokuthi uyafuna yini ukuyeka noma uzimisele kabusha emshadweni wakho. Lokhu kuzobandakanya ukuzihlola okuningi nezingxoxo ezijulile nomlingani wakho mayelana nokuthi yini eniyidingayo nobabili ukuze uye phambili.
Ukuncoma umshado wakho kubandakanya ukuhlala uzinikele ukwelulekwa ngemibhangqwana yakho, ukukhuluma nokuba nobusuku obujwayelekile besikhathi lapho uxhuma khona futhi udale nezikhathi ezisondelene. Ugcina imigqa yokuxhumana ethembekile ivulekile futhi uhlala uthembekile ezifungweni zakho zomshado. Ngokwenza lokhu, umshado wakho uzokhula futhi uqine kunanini ngaphambili.