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- Ukucabanga kungumphumela wokunganakwa okumsulwa
- Ukuqagela kubhebhethekisa umuzwa wokunqamuka phakathi kwabalingani
- Beka phansi ibhuloho lokuxhumana
Lapho impilo isinikeza ngezinto eziza kuqala ezincintisanayo nezibopho, ukusebenza ngokuxhumana emshadweni kuba yinto yokuqala ebudlelwaneni obuthintekayo.
Ngomzamo wokonga isikhathi futhi senze izinto eziningi, ngokwemvelo sincika kulokho okushiwo kunokuba kuvezwe uma kukhulunywa ngophathina wethu. Lokhu kungaholela ekungaqondani nasekulahlekelweni kwamandla amakhulu.
Kukangaki udlale okuthile engqondweni yakho futhi wacabanga ngomphumela?
Ukuqagela ukugembula ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo okuvame ukugcina kuhlanza imali yakho engokomzwelo.
Ukucabanga kungumphumela wokunganakwa okumsulwa
Kuyimpendulo ekusweleni kokucaca, izimpendulo, ukuxhumana okusobala noma mhlawumbe, ukunganakwa okumsulwa. Azikho kulezi, eziyizinto zobudlelwano obaziyo, ohlonipha isikhala esiphakathi kokumangala nezimpendulo.
Ukucabanga ngokuvamile umbono owakhekile osuselwa kulwazi olunqunyelwe mayelana nelukuluku lokushiywa lingaphenduliwe. Uma ucabanga, udweba isiphetho esingathinteka kakhulu yisimo sakho ngokomzwelo, ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Uyaziqinisekisa ukuthi bangayethemba i-intuition yakho (ukuzwa ngaphakathi) okuvela kakhulu kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwangaphambilini.
Ukuqagela kubhebhethekisa umuzwa wokunqamuka phakathi kwabalingani
Inkolelo ejwayelekile ibonakala sengathi ukulungiselela ingqondo ngomphumela ongemuhle ngandlela thile kuzosivikela ekulimaleni noma kusinikeze isandla esiphakeme.
Ukuqagela kubhebhethekisa umuzwa wokunqamuka phakathi kwazo zonke izinhlaka ezithintekayo. Manje, ukucabanga kungaba okuhle noma okungalungile. Kepha ingxenye enkulu, ingqondo izothatha okungafuneki ngaphezu kokufunwayo, ukudala indawo ephephile uma kuba nengozi noma ubuhlungu.
Yize kungokwemvelo yomuntu ukwenza ukuqagela ngezikhathi ezithile, uma kukhulunywa ngokuqina komshado nobudlelwano besikhathi eside, kungaholela ekucasukeni nasekukhungathekeni okushiya bobabili izinhlangothi bezizwa bengaqondakali.
Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa zokucabanga okuvamile okwenziwe phakathi kwemibhangqwana eholela ekukhungathekeni:
"Bengicabanga ukuthi uzolanda izingane.", "Bengicabanga ukuthi uzofuna ukuphuma namhlanje ebusuku." "Bengicabanga ukuthi uyangizwa.", "Bengicabanga ukuthi uzongilethela izimbali njengoba uphuthelwe usuku lwethu lokuzalwa.", "Bengicabanga ukuthi uyazi ukuthi angizukuya esidlweni sakusihlwa.", Njll.
Manje, ake sibheke ukuthi yini esingayifaka esikhundleni sokucabanga ngayo.
Beka phansi ibhuloho lokuxhumana
Indawo yokuqala ongafuna ukuthembela kuyo yisibindi sakho sokubuza imibuzo. Kumane kuphazamise ingqondo ukuthi kangaki isenzo esilula sokubuza singanakiwe futhi sichithiwe ngoba ingqondo yomuntu imatasa yakha uchungechunge lwezehlakalo ezilimazayo nezingahloselwe okubi ngomzamo wokungena kumodi yokuvikela.
Ngokucela sibeka phansi ibhuloho lokuxhumana, ikakhulukazi, uma lingakhokhiswa ngokomzwelo eliholela ekunikezelweni kolwazi.
Kuwuphawu lobuhlakani, ukuzihlonipha, nokuzethemba kwangaphakathi ukwamukela ulwazi umlingani wakho akunikeza ukwenza isinqumo esazi nganoma yisiphi isimo. Ngakho-ke sihamba kanjani ngokubuza imibuzo noma ngokuhlakulela ukubekezela ukulinda izimpendulo?
Isimo senhlalo yisici esikhulu kubantu abenza ukucabanga ngenhloso noma ngokuziphatha komlingani wabo.
Ingqondo ingamandla athonywa nsuku zonke ngemibono yokuzithoba, izimo zengqondo, imizwa, kanye nobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu.
Ngakho-ke, kuyingxenye yomshado ophilayo nohlala uthuthuka, lapho ungabhekana nawe futhi uthathe uhlu lwezinto zesimo sakho sengqondo ukuqinisekisa ukuthi amathonya akho angaphandle awaholeli ekucabangeni ongakwenza.
Kubalulekile kunoma yibuphi ubudlelwano ukuthi abantu bazibuze kuqala le mibuzo eyisikhombisa elandelayo:
- Ngabe imicabango engiyenzayo isuselwa kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami kwangaphambilini nalokho engikubonile kwenzeka eduze kwami?
- Yini engiyizwile abangane bami abasondelene ngokuphenya okungaziwa?
- Sinjani isimo sami njengamanje? Ngabe ngilambile, ngithukuthele, nginesizungu futhi / noma ngikhathele?
- Ngabe nginomlando wokwehliswa nokulindelwe okungafinyeleleki ebudlelwaneni bami?
- Yini engiyesaba kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bami?
- Nginamazinga anjani ebudlelwaneni bami?
- Ngikhulumisene nomlingani wami ngezindinganiso zami?
Indlela ophendula ngayo leyo mibuzo inquma ukulungela kwakho nokuzimisela kwakho ukwenza kangcono ukuqala uhlobo oluhlukile lwengxoxo nomlingani wakho nokuvumela isikhala nesikhathi sokuyizwa.
Njengoba uVoltaire asho kangcono: "Akukhulunywa ngezimpendulo ozinikezayo, kodwa imibuzo oyibuzayo."
Kuwuphawu lomshado oqinile ukubeka isisekelo sokwethembana neziteshi ezivulekile phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho.