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- Zizwe konke
- Ukuzinakekela ngesikhathi sokuhlukana
- Hlela futhi ugcine inqubo yokuzivocavoca umzimba
- Zazise
- Ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo
- Okungafanele ukwenze ngesikhathi sokuhlukana
- Cabanga ngekusasa lakho
Ngaphandle kokuzama ukulungisa izinto, wena nomyeni wakho senifinyelele eqophelweni lomshado lapho nicabanga ukuthi ukwahlukana kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokwenza.
Ngenkathi nazi enhliziyweni yenu ukuthi lesi yisinqumo esihle kini nobabili, futhi nigcwele ubuhlungu, ukudabuka, kanye nomuzwa wokwehluleka, ningenalo nhlobo ulwazi lokuthi nibhekana kanjani nokwehlukana emshadweni.
Kuyini ukuhlukana emshadweni? Kwabanye ukwahlukana emshadweni kwenzeka lapho abalingani abashadile beyeka ukuhlala ndawonye futhi omunye wabo aphume lapho besashade ngokusemthethweni. Kwabanye, uma umonakalo ungaphezu kokulungiswa, leli lungiselelo liyisandulela sesehlukaniso, kanti abanye bazulazula ngokwehlukana komshado ukuze baxazulule umehluko wabo, baxazulule izinkinga futhi babuyele ndawonye, bahlanganiswe.
Uzibuza ukuthi uzobhekana kanjani nokwehlukana emshadweni?
Ukwehlukaniswa kubandakanya ubuhlungu obukhulu.
Lapho uhamba phansi, awukaze ucabange ukuthi ukubhekana nokwehlukana noma ukubhekana nokwehlukana kungaba yingxenye yohambo lwakho. Ukusinda ukwahlukana kudlule ukuphela komshado futhi uvele njengomuntu onamandla onesifiso esivuselelwe sempilo kulula ukusho kunokukwenza.
Nakhu ukuthi ungakusiza kanjani udlule esigabeni sokuhlukana somshado wakho, welaphe amanxeba wokwehlukana, konke lokhu ngenkathi ugcina umuzwa wakho wokulinganisela, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ukubuyisa ukuzizwa kwakho.
Zizwe konke
Ukunquma ukuhlukana akuyona into elula. Lesi ngesinye sezinqumo zempilo esifinyelelwa ngemuva kwezingxoxo ezinde (futhi mhlawumbe nezingxoxo eziningi ezishubile). Kungokwemvelo ukuba nemizwa eminingi ngalesi sigameko esiguqula impilo: ukulimala, intukuthelo, ukudumazeka, ukukhathazeka ngalokho ikusasa elikuphethe nokulahlekelwa.
Ungahle ulingeke ukuzama imigoqo yakho phansi uzithobe ngokudla, utshwala noma izidakamizwa. Lokhu ngeke kube yinzuzo esikhathini eside. Thola indlela ephephile yokuzwa yonke imizwa yakho; ukucela usizo lochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo kungaba enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokuzinakekela ngalezi zikhathi ezinzima.
Ihhovisi lomelaphi lizokunikeza indawo ephephile yokukhala nokuziveza. Futhi lapho usukulungele, umelaphi wakho uzokusiza uhlanganise izingcezu ukuze ukwazi ukuphuma kulesi simo njengowesifazane onamandla, ozethembayo.
Ukuncika eqenjini elihle lezintombi ezethembekile, ikakhulukazi abesifazane abake babhekana nalokhu, nakho kungasiza. Finyelela kubo futhi ungazihlukanisi; ukwazi ukuthi awuwedwa kulokho obhekene nakho kungakwenza uzizwe ungcono. Zizungeze ngokusekelwa okuhle ngokomzwelo; awukwazi ukwenza lokhu wedwa.
Ukuzinakekela ngesikhathi sokuhlukana
Ungasebenza kanjani kuwe ngesikhathi sokuhlukana?
Ukuthatha isikhathi sokuzinakekela kuzobaluleka ngesikhathi senqubo yakho yokuhlukana.
Thumela ukwehlukana kwakho komshado, kubalulekile ukusungula inqubo yokudla okunempilo.
Hlala kude nokudla okungenamsoco nokuqhutshwa kahle; noma kungabonakala kulula ukuthatha ibha yamaprotheni ngesidlo sasemini, lena akuyona indlela ekahle yokondla umzimba wakho.
Zondle ngokudla okuphelele, izithelo nemifino ohlala phansi ukuyidla.
Izokunikeza isikhashana sokuzibeka wena futhi ikunikeze umuzwa wokulawula lapho umhlaba wakho ubonakala uqhekeka, kulandela ukuhlukana komshado okubuhlungu.
Hlela futhi ugcine inqubo yokuzivocavoca umzimba
Ukunyakaza komzimba kuzogcina umoya wakho uphakeme futhi kukusize uzizwe uqinile futhi ukwazi, noma ngabe ubuchopho bakho bukutshela ngenye indlela. Bekela eceleni isikhathi sokunyakaza okukhulu usuku ngalunye.
Qiniseka ukuthi unaka nempilo yomphefumulo wakho, ngomkhuleko (uma uthambekele kakhulu) noma ngokuzindla. Isikhathi esinikezelwe sokudambisa imicabango yakho futhi ubheke ngaphakathi sizoba yinto ebalulekile kuthuluzi lakho lokuzinakekela.
Zazise
Uma ushiye yonke imininingwane yasebhange neyokukhokha kumyeni wakho, sekuyisikhathi sokuzifundisa.
Akekho othanda le ngxenye yokwehlukanisa, kepha awukwazi ukuhlala ebumnyameni ngesimo sakho sezezimali. Udinga ukubona wonke ama-akhawunti asebhange, okukuwo, futhi uqinisekise ukuthi nawe usayinelwe kuwo.
Le yingxenye yokuzivikela wena nanoma yiziphi izingane onazo ndawonye.
Xoxa ngokuthi wena nomyeni wakho nizophatha kanjani isabelomali esisha semindeni emibili, bese nakha uhlelo. Bese wethula lokhu kummeli wakho ukuze kwamukelwe njengokulungile nokulingana.
Uma uncike kumyeni wakho ngokwezezimali, kufanele ulindele ukuthi izinto zizoshintsha. Njengoba imindeni emibili yabelana ngeholo elilodwa, isimo sakho asikwazi ukuhlala sinjalo, ngakho-ke lungela lokho.
Ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo
Ungahle uhlukane ngokomzimba, kepha uzoqhubeka nokuxhumana, mhlawumbe nangaphezulu kunangesikhathi nihlala ndawonye, futhi ikakhulukazi uma unezingane. Kuyintshisekelo yakho ukuthi nifunde ukukhuluma omunye nomunye ngenhlonipho ukuze izingxoxo zenu zakhe futhi zibe ngamakhambi.
Uma ukuthola lokhu kunzima, ngenisa izinsiza zobungcweti — umlamuli, noma umeluleki. Bangakusiza ukuthi uthole amagama okuhambisa inkhulumomphendvulwano phambili ukuze nobabili nibe nomuzwa wokuzwakala nokuqondwa. Nobabili niyalimala, futhi kungaheha ukusebenzisa amagama enu ukulimaza umyeni wakho. Kungakwenza uzizwe ungcono esikhathini esifushane, kepha ngeke kukutholele okufunayo nokudingayo.
Ngakho-ke ukufunda ukuthi ungakhuluma kanjani ngaphandle kokulwa kuzoba yinto ebalulekile ukuhambisa le nqubo enzima.
Okungafanele ukwenze ngesikhathi sokuhlukana
Bomama, nifuna izeluleko ngokuhlukana nendoda? Noma uma uyindoda efuna iseluleko sokuthi ungakuphatha kanjani ukwahlukana komshado, nazi izinto ezimbalwa okufanele uzikhumbule.
- Ungamenzi kabi umlingani wakho wakudala. Gwema ukumemezela ngesinqumo sakho sokuhlukana nomyeni noma unkosikazi wakho. Okushoyo kungabuya kuwe kumbi kakhulu, kunehaba futhi kufomu elonakele kakhulu.
Usesimeni somqondo esibuthakathaka. Awudingi igazi elibi ngokungadingekile ukwenza izinto zibe zimbi kuwe.
- Ukwehlukaniswa kwendoda nenkosikazi kuyisimo esibuhlungu sezinto kepha ukubhekana nokukhathazeka ngokwehlukana komlingani, ungagxumi echibini lokuphola.
Uzozibophezela enhlekeleleni uma ungathathi isikhathi sokucabanga futhi ululame emiphumeleni yokwehlukana komshado, ngaphambi kokujula echibini lokuphola futhi.
- Wokuthi ungasinda kanjani ngokwahlukana, ungabheki umoya noma izimpendulo nganoma yiluphi uhlobo lwe ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa, ukuzigqaja ngokuzidabukela, nokuhlala kude nedrama yokuceba ukuziphindiselela noma uhlele ukubuyisa lowo owawushade naye ucela ithuba lesibili.
Yiba umuntu omkhulu, yamukela indima yakho ekuqhekekeni kobudlelwano, futhi ungabambeli amagqubu. Yekela.
Cabanga ngekusasa lakho
Ingxenye yengcindezi yokuqaqa umshado wakho ivela ekushintsheni kokucabanga kwakho ukuthi ikusasa lakho lizobukeka kanjani. Benicabange ngomshado wokuphila nobabili nikhulisa izingane zenu ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa.
Futhi manje lo mbono ushintshile.
Kepha lolu shintsho olukhulu lungalawulwa ngokunakekelwa. Lesi kungaba yisikhathi esihle kakhulu sokwenza ukuzihlola. Ufuna ukuba ngubani, manje njengoba ungakahlanganiswa?
Ungahle ufune ukutshala imali ekusebenzeni kuwe futhi uchaze ukuthi yini ebalulekile kuwe ngokobudlelwano bakho bobungcweti nothando. Kulula ukubona lesi sikhathi empilweni yakho njengokulahlekelwa, mhlawumbe nokuhluleka.
Kepha ungakuqamba kabusha lokhu njengethuba lokukhula komuntu siqu kanye noguquko. Unekusasa elikhulu, elivulekile futhi manje yisikhathi sokulilolonga ngendlela othanda ngayo.
Wokuthi ungasinda kanjani ekuhlukaneni emshadweni, thatha izinhlungu zalokhu kwehlukana bese ukusebenzisela ukuchaza ukuthi yini oyifunayo ebudlelwaneni bakho obulandelayo, nokuthi (okubaluleke kakhulu) ukuthi yini ongayifuni.
Kunezifundo zokuphila okufanele zifundwe njengamanje, futhi uzofuna ukuzinaka lezi. Ungavumeli ukulahlekelwa ngumshado wakho kukwenze isisulu; ukude nayo.
Lapho ukudlula kokwehlukana komshado sekudlulile, hamba uye ngqo ekusaseni lakho, unolaka, uqine, futhi unesibindi.
Uthole.