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- 1) Ukuthatha umoya ojulile
- 2) Ukuchaza isikhathi, usebenzisa uzwela futhi usho isikhundla sakho
- 3) Ukuthatha ikhefu
- 1) Ukuthatha umoya ojulile
- 2) Veza uzwela
- 3) Zibuze "Kungani ngizenza ngiphatheke kabi ngalokhu?"
- 4) Usebenzisa amagama akho ukusiza umlingani wakho aqonde isikhundla sakho
Ukuxhumana kungenye, uma kungeyona ingxenye eyodwa ebaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni. Yini nokuthi kuthiwani izinto zidlala indima enkulu ekuphiliseni kobudlelwano. Ngisho ebudlelwaneni obunempilo kakhulu, kukhona ukungaboni ngaso linye. Abantu ababili banokuhlangenwe nakho nemibono eyehlukene ezintweni futhi ngenkathi kungenzeka ukuthi bakhuluma futhi bakhuluma ngakho, okushiwoyo kungalahleka ekuhumusheni.
Ukuphawula kwenziwa emuva naphambili, umuntu oyedwa uphatheka kabi futhi umlingani wakhe athi, "Yehlisa umoya." Amagama amabili amancane okuthi uma eshiwo phakathi kwengxoxo eshubile afane nokukhanyisa umentshisi uwuphonse edamini kaphethiloli. Imvamisa, izinto zikhuphuka ngokushesha futhi kunzima kumuntu A ukuqonda ukuthi kungani umuntu B ecasukile futhi umuntu B engakwazi ukukhuluma ngokuphelele ukuthi kungani kucasula.
Ngakho-ke, nansi into. Yize lawo magama ngokwawo engahloselwe ukuba abe amabi noma alimaze, kulo mongo anomphumela ongemuhle kangako. Ukusho lokhu phakathi kwempikiswano kungazwakala sengathi kuyadelela futhi kuqhutshwa ukufunwa, kufana nokuthi "Vala phansi" iningi elingavuma akusizi ngalutho kulesi simo. Ngakho-ke, wenzani ngakho?
Uma ungumuntu A futhi uthola ukuthi uvame ukukusho, imvamisa yingoba ubona ukucasuka umlingani wakho abhekene nakho futhi ngoba uyakukhathalela, ufuna ukunikeza induduzo futhi uvumele isikhala sokususa ukuxhumana okungafanele nokuxazulula inkinga. Ngokuzayo, cabanga ngalokhu:
1) Ukuthatha umoya ojulile
Kuyasiza njalo futhi kukunikeza ithuba lokulawula imizwa yakho ngaphambi kokukhuluma.
2) Ukuchaza isikhathi, usebenzisa uzwela futhi usho isikhundla sakho
Zama ukusho into efana nokuthi “Ngiyabona ukuthi uyacasuka futhi lokho bekungeyona inhloso yami. Ake ngichaze kangcono ukuthi ngiqonde ukuthini. ”
3) Ukuthatha ikhefu
Ihlehlisa ingxoxo ukwandisa amathuba okuba nengxoxo ezuzisa ngokwengeziwe. Ungasho into efana nokuthi “Mhlawumbe njengamanje akusona isikhathi esikahle sokuba nale ngxoxo. Angifuni ukuthi omunye wethu acasuke noma axabane. Singakhuluma ngakho ...? ” Isivumelwano nalena ukuthi kufanele uqambe isikhathi esithile. Ungayivumeli ukuthi ilinde ngaphandle kokuxazululwa.
Uma ungumuntu B futhi kuthiwe futhi uzizwa sengathi umlilo uqhuma ngaphakathi, zama:
1) Ukuthatha umoya ojulile
Kuyasiza ekulawuleni imizwa futhi kukusindise ehlazweni kamuva lapho wenze amazwi amabi (yize ungahlosile).
2) Veza uzwela
Yize kungaba nzima okwamanje, kuhlale kunenjongo ngakho. Ukuthi “Ngizizwa ngicasukile futhi ngiyazi ukuthi uzama ukungenza ngizizwe ngingcono. Ake sithathe isinyathelo sibuyele emuva bese siqala kabusha. ” Gwema ukufaka igama elithi "kodwa" kulesi simo ngoba uyakuphika lokho ozama ukukufeza futhi ukubuyisela emuva kuphethini efanayo yokubuyela emuva nokubeka ukusola.
3) Zibuze "Kungani ngizenza ngiphatheke kabi ngalokhu?"
Lo ngumbuzo onentshisekelo ngoba ubuyisela ukugxila kuwe nokuthi usihumusha kanjani isimo nokuthi yini okushiwoyo. Ngenkathi isihloko kanye nezinye zezinto ezishiwoyo ziyacasula, ungalawula ukuzizwa ukhungathekile futhi usebenze ekukhungathekeni kwakho engxoxweni nomlingani wakho uma ubhekene nentukuthelo kanye nokuxhumana okungafanele kuphenduke impi.
4) Usebenzisa amagama akho ukusiza umlingani wakho aqonde isikhundla sakho
“Uma lokhu kwenzeka, kudala lowo mphumela. Ngiphatheka kabi ngalokho ngoba [gcwalisa okungenalutho]. Ngizizwa ngincono / ngingaphatheki kahle / angicindezelekile kakhulu uma ... ”Zama ukugcina izwi lingathathi hlangothi bese usebenzisa ulimi oluhloselwe ukusiza umlingani wakho aqonde ukuthi lokhu kukuthinta kanjani wena kanye nalokho okudingayo. Akekho umuntu ophelele futhi ubudlelwano banezikhathi zabo eziyinselele. Thepha ekuthembekeni nasekunakekelweni okholelwa ukuthi kukhona ebudlelwaneni bakho, hlala kude nokwahlulela nokusola umdlalo, phefumula kakhulu bese ushaya inkinobho yokuqalisa kabusha kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka.