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- 1. Izinselelo eziphindwe kabili
- 2. Isizungu singokoqobo
- 3. Umthwalo womndeni ungaphezu kwamandla
- 4. Izingane zithinteka kabi
- 5. Kunokuxakaniseka okuningi okungokomzwelo
- 6. Kunzima ukugxilisa isiyalo ezinganeni
- 7. Akubona bonke abazali abangabodwa abahlukanisile
- 8. Ukucwaswa kwabazali abangabodwa emsebenzini
- 9. Ukuba ngumucu ophakeme
- 10. Ukuzimela noma ukuthembela kwabanye
- 11. Akunasikhathi noma ukuthambekela kokuzinakekela
- 12. Esinye sezigaba ezinkulu kakhulu zabantu
- 13. Naphezu kwezinselelo, kuyinto ezuzisayo
- 14. Ukungalingani kwemali engenayo
- 15. Ukuthambekela okuphezulu kwi-nest syndrome engenalutho
Ukukhulisa kukodwa kuyinselelo enkulu naphezu kwemithwalo yemfanelo ehlanganyelwe; kubi kakhulu uma kwenzeka ukuba ngumzali ongayedwa.
Kufanele ubhekane necala, imizwa engemihle, ukwesaba, nokungabaza ngasikhathi sinye, izibopho zomndeni zilinde ukunakwa kwakho.
Lapho ugcinwe yizingane, ezikwehlulela ngokwahlukana, ukudangala akunakugwenywa, ikakhulukazi, uma uvumela ukucindezelwa kukucindezele.
Noma kunjalo, izibalo ziyakufakazela lokho Amaphesenti angama-40-50 emishado eminingi agcina esehlukanisile okuholela ezimweni zokuba ngumzali oyedwa.
Noma ngabe uvumelana ngokuhlanganyela kubazali abahlanganyela nabo amaqiniso okukhulisa izingane angashintshi.
1. Izinselelo eziphindwe kabili
Ube nehlombe oncika kulo ngenkathi ushadile; manje awunamuntu oncika kuye.
Ngokwemvelo, udinga umngane ozokuthinta nje emhlane ukukuqinisekisa ukuthi "konke kuhamba kahle, sikulokhu sindawonye."
Manje kufanele ubhekane nakho uwedwa. Abangani bakho nomndeni wakho ngeke bakunikeze inkampani oshade naye akunika yona.
Kufanele uzenzele izinqumo futhi ubhekane nemiphumela yazo.
Umphakathi nawo uqala ukwahlulela ngokungabekezeleli ngokwanele nokuthi umshado wakho awuhlalanga isikhathi eside.
Uzophendukela kubani ukuze uthole usizo?
Lokhu kuyiqiniso elingokoqobo iningi labazali abangabodwa okufanele babhekane nalo ekukhuliseni ngabodwana.
2. Isizungu singokoqobo
Uyazi ukuthi kukhona izinga lobungane ongalithola kuphela kumlingani wakho?
Yini isifiso sakho sokusondelana?
Ngabe uwuthathaphi umzimba ofudumele phakathi nobusuku obubandayo?
Sawubona! Vuka eqinisweni lokuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso lokuba ngumzali oyedwa.
Izingane zakho noma umndeni wakho awusoze wabambela oshade naye.
Njengoba ufuna ukuzihlanganisa nontanga yakho, ekugcineni kosuku, ubuyela ekhaya eqinisweni elibuhlungu lendlu engenalutho.
3. Umthwalo womndeni ungaphezu kwamandla
Kufanele usebenze imindeni emibili ngeholo elifanayo, lowo owawushade naye angaphatha kuphela okudingekayo nangamandla abo.
Ungadinga ukuthi ushintshe indlela ophila ngayo izingane okuzodingeka zibhekane nazo.
Ngaphambi kokuba balamukele iqiniso elibabayo, bazophonsa intukuthelo bese bekhombisa ulaka lwabo kuwe kube sengathi bazokusola ngokunikela ngempilo enhle ababeyinandipha ngenkathi kubhasikidi wezezimali ephethwe.
Kwesinye isikhathi, uphoqeleka ukuthi usebenze amahora amaningi ukubhekelela ukusilela.
Ungahle wephule ngoba kukhulu kakhulu ukuthi ungaphatha. Uphoqeleka ukuthi usike ekuvakasheleni kwakho ama-salon, izindawo zokubhucunga umzimba, nokuzijabulisa nje nabangane.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungaba nemali kepha udinga umuntu ophendula kuye, ukuze ube nohlelo oluhle lokuphathwa kwezimali.
Yiso leso sikhathi lapho ubona khona ukuthi ubungcono nomlingani wakho kunokuba ube wedwa.
4. Izingane zithinteka kabi
Eminye imibhangqwana ikhetha ukuhlala emishadweni engajabulisi ngokwesaba ukufaka izingane zabo ekucindezelekeni okungokomzwelo.
Ungayiphatha kanjani indodakazi noma indodana yakho egxuma ngasikhathi sinye ehlombe likababa nasethangeni likamama?
Le ngane ithintekile emoyeni.
Ngasikhathi sinye, ukukubona usosizini ngaso sonke isikhathi akukuhle nakubo. Leyo yinkinga abazali ababhekana nayo ngaphambi kokuba ngumzali oyedwa.
Imizwa engemihle ezinganeni ithinta ukukhula kwabo kobuntu okuqhubeka kuholele ezindabeni zokuzethemba eziphansi, ukuzihlukanisa, ukufutheka nentukuthelo.
5. Kunokuxakaniseka okuningi okungokomzwelo
Ngaphandle kwezinselelo emshadweni, oshade naye ubenamandla agcwalisa ukwehluleka kwakho.
Kunezinto ezingakaze zikukhathaze ngenxa nje yokuba khona kwazo.
Futhi kukunikeze umuzwa wokulondeka phakathi kontanga yakho. Ngaphambi kokuba welaphe, ukufutheka nentukuthelo kuyakuchaza.
Kufanele unikeze ihlombe izingane zakho ezizokhala kuzona lapho wena ngokwakho uzidinga ngaphezu kwazo. Bayabona ukudabuka kwakho nezinkinga zakho, noma ngabe bezama ukuzwelana nawe, kuyabakhathaza futhi.
Ukungazinzi kwemizwa kuba umjikelezo- umndeni odabukisayo!
6. Kunzima ukugxilisa isiyalo ezinganeni
Ukuba ngumzali wedwa kunganikeza umbono ongalungile ezinganeni.
Awunanketho kepha kungadingeka usebenzise ubushiqela ukufaka isimilo esingasimeme.
Kusobala, zama ngangokunokwenzeka ukuba nentshisekelo yezingane enhliziyweni.
Uma kufanele uhlukane ngezindlela, sebenzela ekugcwalisekeni okungokomzwelo kwezingane ngaphandle kokubheka inkanuko yakho eyodwa.
7. Akubona bonke abazali abangabodwa abahlukanisile
Abantu abaningi bashaye isigaba somzali oyedwa njengomzali ongumlingani ohlukanisile. Ukuqeda izinkolelo ezibonakalayo emindenini yokuba ngumzali ongayedwa, ake sibheke amanye amaqiniso wemindeni yomzali ongayedwa athakazelisayo.
Elinye lamaqiniso wabazali abangabodwa ukuthi kunezinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zemindeni enomzali oyedwa.
Ukuba ngumzali weSolo kungaba yigatsha lokuzikhethela komuntu ngamunye.
Umzali akashadile, akashadile noma unquma ukungashadi nobaba / umama wengane, noma umzali ongumfelokazi.
Futhi, amanye amadoda nabesifazane bathatha njengabazali abangabodwa.
Umkhuba owandayo owamadoda anezingane ngomama abazithwele. Yize kuyinto ejwayelekile kakhulu, obaba abangabodwa benza i-16% yemindeni ephelele yomzali oyedwa e-US.
8. Ukucwaswa kwabazali abangabodwa emsebenzini
Abazali abangabodwa, ikakhulukazi umama ongayedwa okhulisa ingane eyedwa, bangacwaswa emsebenzini.
Amaqiniso ambalwa ngomama abangabodwa emsebenzini. Babhekene nomoya osebenzayo wobutha ngenxa yalezi zizathu ezilandelayo:
- Umona ovela kozakwabo besifazanengenxa yokuphathwa okuhle
- Ingqondo ye-Misogynist
- Ukubandlululwa okungokomlando
- Banikezwa izeluleko ezingacelwanga
- Akuthandeki izinqubomgomo zokuqasha ezingafaki abesifazane abangashadile abanezingane ngenxa yemithwalo yemfanelo yomama oyedwa.
9. Ukuba ngumucu ophakeme
Ngenxa yemithwalo yemfanelo eyengeziwe nokujikeleza kwengcindezi yewashi, abazali abangabodwa bangaqala ukwenza umugqa ophakeme ngokumemeza noma ngokuthukuthelisa abantu noma izinto ezibazungezile.
Lokhu kwehluleka ukubhekana nengcindezi kungenye yamaqiniso ngabazali abangabodwa.
Ukufunda amakhono okubhekana nezinkinga nezindlela ezinempilo zokunqoba ingcindezi yokuba ngumzali, kuyalulekwa ngabazali abangabodwa ukuthi bafune ukwelulekwa ngongoti wezempilo yengqondo.
10. Ukuzimela noma ukuthembela kwabanye
Kungaba ngenxa yesidingo noma ukukhetha, abazali abangabodwa bathatha okuningi ngokwabo ukulungisa izinto nokuhleleka.
Kodwa-ke, bayahluleka ukungena kwinethiwekhi yabo yabangane, osebenza nabo, uhlelo lokusekela noma abazali. Izikhathi eziningi, baba yizisulu zomqondo osekhanda labo "Ngingedwa."
Enye yezeluleko zokubeletha okukodwa ukubheka ukwesekwa okuzungezile futhi utshale kubungane obunenjongo nobudlelwano.
11. Akunasikhathi noma ukuthambekela kokuzinakekela
Iningi labazali abangabodwa libeka izidingo zezingane zabo kuqala futhi babeke izidingo zabo emuva ezingqondweni zabo.
Kepha, ukungazibeki kuqala kungaholela ekukhathaleni nasekuzizweni kokungafaneleki.
Ukungadli okunempilo, ukuphumula okunganele nokuntuleka kokuvivinya umzimba kuba yindlela yokuphila yabazali abaningi abangabodwa.
Bayahluleka ukubona ukuthi ukuze banakekele izingane zabo, badinga ukuhlomiswa kahle futhi bondleke kahle.
12. Esinye sezigaba ezinkulu kakhulu zabantu
Cishe amakhaya amathathu kwayishumi anezingane namuhla aphethwe ngumzali oyedwa. Lokho kwenza leli qembu libe elinye lamaqembu amakhulu kakhulu esizweni.
13. Naphezu kwezinselelo, kuyinto ezuzisayo
Umndeni ohlukanisile, ongumfelokazi noma ongashadile ngumzali okhethile angaba nomvuzo yize kuhlanganisa ukucindezeleka nobunzima obukhulu.
Imvamisa, bagcina sebeyisibonelo esihle ezinganeni zabo, esezibone umzali wazo ongayedwa, zinqoba izithiyo zendlela yokuphila yobuzali bodwa.
Abazali abangabodwa baqhubeka nokubhekana nenselele, benza konke okusemandleni abo.
Bathuthukisa ukuqina, ubuhlakani, nokubekezela ukuze baqhubeke, ngisho noma beshaya into embi.
14. Ukungalingani kwemali engenayo
Elinye lamaqiniso ngemindeni yomzali oyedwa ukwehluka kwemali engenayo uma kuqhathaniswa neholo labashadikazi.
Imali etholwa imibhangqwana eshadile isonto ngalinye ilinganiselwa ukuthi ingamaphesenti angama-25 ephakeme kunaleyo yemindeni eholwa obaba abangabodwa.
Igebe libanzi uma kukhulunywa ngomehluko phakathi kwemali engenayo yemindeni enakekelwa ngomama abangabodwa kanye nemindeni yabashadikazi.
Ukuhola kwamasonto onke kwemishado eshadile kuza ngamaphesenti angama-50 kunemali etholwa masonto onke yomama abangabodwa.
15. Ukuthambekela okuphezulu kwi-nest syndrome engenalutho
Abazali abangabodwa bathambekele kakhulu ku-nest nest syndrome. Lokhu kufaka ohlwini lwamaqiniso athakazelisayo ngokukhulisa izingane.
Uma kuqhathaniswa nomndeni onabazali ababili, umzali ongayedwa emndenini, otshalwe kakhulu ekukhuliseni ingane yakhe, maningi amathuba okuthi azizwe enesizungu nokwesaba ukulahlwa lapho ingane yakhe iphuma.
Igama lokugcina ngokuba umzali ongayedwa
Abazali abangabodwa bangadinga futhi basebenzise olunye usizo olwengeziwe ngezinkinga zansuku zonke. Izibopho abazithwalayo zingaba nomthelela omubi enhlalakahleni yabo iyonke.
Kunamaqembu amaningi okusekela nezinsizakusebenza zabazali abangabodwa, okunikeza ukwelulekwa, ukusekelwa futhi kukusize ukucubungula imizwa yakho. Kepha, okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ukukhulisa umqondo omuhle kuzosiza ngenkathi kwakhela umndeni wakho uhlobo olusha lomndeni.