Ukushada kungaba yinto ejabulisa kakhulu empilweni yakho. Isikhathi sothando, isikhathi sokuzilungiselela, isikhathi soshintsho, isikhathi sento entsha, into ebolekiweyo, nokuthile okuluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka. Yindaba yothando enesiphetho esijabulisayo nokuqala kwesiqalo esisha.
Lapho ushada, ushintshela enkathini entsha, inkathi ongayijwayele, inkathi ezoletha ushintsho oluningi nokungaqiniseki, inkathi lapho kungaba khona izikhathi lapho ungabaza khona isinqumo sakho, uzingabaze, futhi kazi uthathe isinqumo esifanele; ungaba nezinyawo ezibandayo, futhi uze ufune ukuphonsa ithawula uyeke, futhi lokhu kwenzeka lapho okulindelwe onakho ngomshado, kungafani neqiniso lokuthi umshado uyini ngempela. Kepha kulungile, kujwayelekile ukuzizwa ngale ndlela ngoba usendaweni empilweni yakho, lapho ungakaze ube khona, futhi ukuba kule ndawo kungasabisa.
Kepha, njengoba uqala isizini yakho entsha, isiqalo sakho esisha, nempilo yakho entsha, ngifuna ukuhlanganyela nawe, amaparele athile wokuhlakanipha okufanele uwakhumbule njalo:
- Khumbula njalo ukuthi yini okukuhehe kumyeni wakho, khumbula usuku lwakho lokuqala, khumbula imizwa owawunayo ngenkathi uqala ukuhlangana, khumbula imicabango eyadlula engqondweni yakho ngemuva kosuku lwakho lokuqala, futhi uhlale ukhumbula izinto ezikwenza umomotheke, noma ngabe yena akekho egumbini.
- Musa ukubambeka kakhulu emsebenzini, uze unganaki nobudlelwano.Umshado uthatha umsebenzi, kufanele ufake umsebenzi odingekayo ukwakha umshado oqinile nohlala njalo.
- Khumbula njalo ukuthi umshado udinga isikhathi nokunakwa. Uma ungayinaki, izokufa; kepha uma uyondla, izokhula futhi iqine futhi iqine usuku nosuku.
- Ungalahli ukuzethemba kwakho noma ubuwena emshadweni wakho. Awudingi ukwenza konke ndawonye. Kuphilile ukuba nezinto zokuzilibazisa nezintshisekelo ezihlukile.
- Hlale nichitha isikhathi seqophelo nomunye, futhi nizame ukwenza isikhathi sodwa, futhi ningenzi izaba zokuthi kungani ningenakukwazi.
- Khomba izinto eningazenza ndawonye, hlelani isikhathi sokwenza, futhi ningathathi kalula. Ukwenza izinto ndawonye kuzoqinisa umshado wenu.
- Khumbula njalo ukunganga. Ukuthintana ngokomzimba kubalulekile ebudlelwaneni, kuyasiza ekwakheni nasekuthuthukiseni uthando, kukwenza wena noshade naye nizizwe nifunwa, kuyanidambisa, kukwenza unethezeke, kunikeze induduzo, futhi kukwenza uzizwe uxhumekile komunye nomunye. Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho ukuthinta kwakho kuyikho konke okudingwa ngumlingani wakho.
- Khulumisanani imicabango yenu nemizwa yenu, futhi nikhulume kahle. Ungalindeli ukuthi oshade naye azi ngokuzenzekelayo ukuthi ucabangani noma uzizwa kanjani.
- Khuluma futhi wabelane ngamathemba namaphupho akho. Lokhu kubangela ukuthi nakhe ukuxhumana okujulile komunye nomunye, kuvule umnyango wokuthi nisekelane futhi niqondane kangcono, futhi kunikhuthaze ukuthi nisebenzisane ekufezeni lokho okufisayo.
- Zimisele ukuyekethisa. Ukuyekethisa kubaluleke kakhulu empumelelweni yobuhlobo bakho. Ezinye izinto azifanele ukulwa noma ukuphikisana ngazo, akudingeki ukuthi uhlale ulungile ngaso sonke isikhathi, ezinye izinto kufanele uziyeke nje. Zibuze, ingabe kufanelekile ukulahlekelwa ubuhlobo bakho?
- Yiba nezimo njalo; ushintsho lwenzeka kubo bonke ubuhlobo. Yamukela ukuthi awukwazi ukuba nezinto ngendlela yakho ngaso sonke isikhathi, izinto ngeke zihlale zihleliwe njengoba kuhleliwe, noma ukuthi ufuna zihambe kanjani.
- Zinike isikhathi sokulalelana. Ukulalela kukwenza uzizwe uthandwa futhi uqondwa. URalph Nichols uthi, “Izidingo zomuntu eziyisisekelo isidingo sokuqonda nokuqondwa. Indlela engcono yokuqonda abantu ukubalalela. ”
- Funda ukuthi ungazisingatha kanjani izingxabano. Kukhona ezinye izingxabano ongahle ungazixazululi, kepha ungafunda ukuzilawula ngokuza nezixazululo ezivumayo, ukuyekethisa, ukuvuma ukungavumelani, nokukuyeka.
- Hlala uthembekile komunye nomunye. Ukwethembeka kuyisisekelo esibalulekile lapho kwakhiwa khona ubudlelwane futhi kuyisici esiyinhloko sokuba nobudlelwano obunempilo nobuqine.
- Ungesabi ukucela usizo komunye nomunye, lapho udinga ukucaciseleka nalapho ungaqondi. Akukwenzi ube buthakathaka, ithi ngizimisele ukuzithoba ngibeke ukuziqhenya kwami nokuzazisa kwami eceleni, ukufuna usizo kumlingani wami.
- Bhekana nezinkinga njengoba zivela, futhi ungashayeli izinto ngaphansi kombhede wenze sengathi akwenzekanga noma akunandaba. Noma yiziphi izinkinga ongabhekani nazo, ziyakhula, ziyaqina, bese kuba “yindlovu ekamelweni.” Ungavumeli izingqinamba zilinde ngokucabanga ukuthi zizohamba, uma uziba.
- Ungalali uthukuthele. Ukulala uthukuthele kubangela ukwahlukana, uzovuka uthukuthele, kuthinte ukulala kwakho, futhi kuthinte impilo yakho engokomzwelo nengokwengqondo.
- Ungakhulumi kabi ngomndeni nabangane; ngemuva kokuthi uxolele oshade naye futhi waqhubekela phambili, umndeni wakho nabangane basazosangana, futhi ukuthethelelwa ngeke kube lula ngabo. Lapho abantu abaningi uzigcina ungaphandle kobudlelwano bakho ubuhlobo bakho buzoba ngcono.
- Thanda ngaphandle kwemibandela futhi uhlale uthi ngiyaxolisa.
- Khumbula njalo ukuthi kungani uthe, "Ngiyakwenza."