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- Izithandani ziyahlukana
- Imiphumela yokuntuleka kokuzibophezela emshadweni
- Ncoma umshado wakho - kungani ubalulekile?
- Ungahlala kanjani uzibophezele ebudlelwaneni
Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani imibhangqwana inquma ukufaka isehlukaniso.
Kungaba ngenxa yokungathembeki, izinkinga zemali, ukuhlukunyezwa, nokunye okuningi. Kodwa-ke, kunesizathu esisodwa okungenzeka ukuthi akukhulunywa kakhulu ngaso kodwa empeleni singesinye sezizathu esenza imibhangqwana eminingi ithathe isinqumo sokuyibiza ngokuthi iyayeka - ungaqagela?
Kungenxa yokukhukhuleka ngaphandle.
Kungaba nezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka kodwa iphuzu lapha ukuthi akukephuzi kakhulu. Eqinisweni, ngokukwazi ukuphinda unikele emshadweni wakho, uwunika ithuba lesibili.
Sikwenza kanjani lokhu? Ngabe lokhu kusengenzeka noma ngabe usuhlukanisile iminyaka?
Izithandani ziyahlukana
Akukhona nje ngezingoma ukuthi sizwa la mazwi, kuyiqiniso futhi kwenzeka kaningi kangangoba kungabonakala kuyinto ejwayelekile emishadweni noma ebudlelwaneni - kodwa akunjalo.
Umshado ukuzibophezela futhi noma yikuphi ukuzibophezela kudinga ukusebenza njalo. Uma kungenjalo, amathuba okuqhela phakathi angenakugwenywa.
Ukuhlukana ebudlelwaneni bakho kulapho izithandani zibona ukuthi zifinyelele eqophelweni lapho konke kubonakala sengathi kuyisicefe futhi akunanjongo.
Ingabe kungenxa yengcindezi ngenxa yezinkinga? Mhlawumbe kungenxa yokuthi izingane zonke sezikhulile futhi ziyahamba? Noma kungenxa yokuthi sebethandane?
Umbuzo uthi, uzohlala uzibophezele emshadweni wakho? Noma uzoyiyeka idilike? Lesi yisona sizathu esenza ukufuna ukuphinda unikele emshadweni wakho kubalulekile.
Imiphumela yokuntuleka kokuzibophezela emshadweni
Ukukwazi ukuzincoma emshadweni wakho kubaluleke kakhulu.
Kungani? Ngoba ukungabi nayo kuzoholela ekuqhekekeni kobudlelwano futhi asifuni ukuthi lokho kwenzeke, akunjalo?
Ukuntuleka kokuzibophezela emshadweni kungadala ushintsho olukhulu. Kusukela ekulahlekelweni kokugxila, inhlonipho, ukusondelana, kanye nokuwa othandweni.
Uma umuntu eqala ukuhlukana hhayi ngomshado kuphela kepha nabalingani bakhe, kungaba nezinto eziningi ezingenzeka.
Umuntu angawela komunye umuntu, abanye bangaqala ukungakunaki ukubaluleka nobungcwele bomshado, kanti abanye bangaze bakuthathe njengabantu abahlala nabo hhayi okunye.
Ukuze ukwazi ukuzibophezela emshadweni wakho kusho ukuthi uyazi isibopho sakho hhayi njengomuntu kepha njengomlingani, kusho ukuthi uzimisele ukusebenzela umshado wakho.
Futhi Buka:
Ncoma umshado wakho - kungani ubalulekile?
Ukuzibophezela emshadweni kufana nomanyolo esitshalweni.
Ngaphandle kwawo, umshado wakho ungabuna futhi ulahlekelwe ubuhle bawo. Ukuzinikela kabusha emshadweni wakho kusho ukuthi ufuna ube muhle, uchume, futhi uqinise.
Umshado nokuzibophezela kuyahambisana, uma uzimisele ngokusebenzela ubudlelwano bakho, khona-ke ubuhlobo bakho buzosebenza.
Kusuka enhlonipheni, ekuxhumaneni, ekuqiniseni zonke izindlela zokusondelana, udinga ukuqala kwenye indawo futhi ukusuka lapho, ungene empumelelweni yomshado wakho.
Ngakho-ke, uma ungumuntu ofuna ukwazi ukuthi ungaqala kuphi ekwenzeni lezi zinguquko ezinhle ebudlelwaneni bakho, lapho-ke kufanele uqale ukwazi ukuthi ungazinikela kanjani emshadweni wakho.
Ungahlala kanjani uzibophezele ebudlelwaneni
Uyazi ukuthi ungaqala kuphi ukuthi ungahlala kanjani uzibophezele ebudlelwaneni? Kuthiwani uma usudlule kokuningi kangaka futhi manje ufuna ukwazi ukuthi ungazinikela kanjani emshadweni wakho?
Kunoma ikuphi, kunezinyathelo ezilula ezi-7 okufanele uzicabangele ukuze ukwazi ukuqala inqubo yokuthi ungazibophezela kanjani emshadweni wakho.
Nakhu ukuthi:
- Udinga ukukhuluma ngokulindela kwakho empilweni yakho njengabantu abashadile. Kwesinye isikhathi, silindela okuningi kakhulu kepha asizimisele ukuxhumana. Kufanele sazise abalingani bethu ukuthi yini esifuna ukuyizuza. Ungasebenzisa futhi leli thuba ukuzinikela kabusha emshadweni wakho nokuzibekela imigomo emisha.
- Ncoma umshado wakhoby ukulalela. Noma ngabe senibe ndawonye iminyaka, kusekhona izinto ongazazi ngomlingani wakho. Noma, ake sikuthathe ngezimo zethu ezijwayelekile zosuku nosuku. Ukubuza ngosuku lwabo sekuvele kuyinto enkulu. Kwesinye isikhathi, konke okudingayo kungumlingani wakho okukhona.
- Kusuka egameni uqobo, ukuphinda uzinikele emshadweni wakho, ukuphinda uqambe kabusha kusho ukuthi udinga hlola kabusha ukuzibophezela kwakho noshade naye. Akukona konke okufanele ukwenze oshade naye ukuze abe ngcono noma bangashintsha kanjani. Lokhu kumayelana nokuthi yini ongayenza nakubudlelwano bakho. Ngu "nika uthathe". Akukona konke ukuthi badinga ukushintsha kanjani; udinga ukuzihlola futhi.
- Thatha isikhathi ukusondelana. Lapho sisho lokhu, kusho ukuthi kufanele uthathe isikhathi ngokoqobo ukuze ube nomunye. Ukusondelana akukhona konke ngokuya ocansini noma ukulala embhedeni. Eqinisweni, kunezinhlobo eziningi zokusondelana futhi ngayinye ibaluleke ngokulinganayo. Kukhona ukusondelana ngokwengqondo, ukusondelana ngokomzwelo, nokunye okuningi. Thatha isikhathi uqiniseke ukuthi ngamunye uyondliwa.
- Musa ukwamukela imigomo eminingi kakhulu ngasikhathi sinye. Thatha isinyathelo esisodwa ngesikhathi. Uma wena noshade naye ninomuzwa wokuthi kukhona okudingeka nisebenzele kukho kuqala, gxila kulokho. Awukwazi ukubhekana nayo yonke inkinga onayo ngasikhathi sinye. Lokho kuzokukwenza uzizwe uphelelwe amandla futhi kungaholela ekuhlakazekeni nakakhulu.
- Ungalindeli ukuthi konke kuzoba bushelelezi ngokuphelele kusuka manje. Eqinisweni, kuzoba nezikhathi lapho uzophinde uzizwe uphoxekile. Okubalulekile lapha ukuthi usebenzela umshado wakho nokuthi wena noshade naye nizimisele ukusebenzela ebudlelwaneni obungcono.
Ukuzibophezela emshadweni wakho kudinga ukusebenza kanzima, hhayi nje kuphela emshadweni ojabulayo kodwa futhi nokuqiniseka ukuthi awulahlekelwa ukugxila ezinhlosweni zakho.
Imayelana nokusebenza ndawonye, inhlonipho, ukuzibophezela, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, uthando lwenu ngomunye nomunye.