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- Izinkinga zobudlelwano besilisa ngokomzwelo
- Okuhlangenwe nakho okubi kubuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano obusha
"Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kuyisici sobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu esihluka ngamandla kusuka ebuhlotsheni obunye kuya kobunye futhi kuyehluka ngezikhathi ezithile, kufana nokusondelana ngokomzimba."
Ukwakha ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kungabaluleke kakhulu kunokugcina ukusondelana ngokomzimba emshadweni. Eqinisweni, ubudlelwano obungenabo ubudlelwano obungokomzwelo nakanjani buzoqothuka buphele.
Ngakho-ke, kungani kwenzeka ukuthi noma ngabe ukusondelana ngokomzwelo kubaluleke kangako ekusindeni komshado, indoda igwema ukusondelana ngokomzwelo futhi ikuthole kunzima ukuzibandakanya ngokomzwelo nabafazi bayo.
Lo mbhalo wabelana ngezibonelo zangempela zabayeni abangakwazanga ukuthola amandla nesibindi sokuxoxa ngokungafaneleki kwabo ngokomzwelo nabafazi babo, okwaholela ekuhlukaneni ngokomzwelo emshadweni wabo.
Bheka futhi: Izimpawu eziyi-7 wesaba ukusondelana.
Izinkinga zobudlelwano besilisa ngokomzwelo
Indoda engashadile enezinkinga zokusondelana ngokomzwelo izoba nezaba eziningi zokuthi kungani ingafuni ukuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni noma emshadweni.
Kodwa-ke, indoda eshadile kufanele ilandise komunye umuntu. Izinkinga zakhe azinakwa ngoba unonkosikazi omthandayo, omkhonzayo, futhi omgadayo. Izinkinga zakhe yizinkinga zakhe.
Indoda eshadile nendoda engashadile ingaba nezinkinga ezifanayo zomzwelo, kepha uma indoda eshadile ingazixazululi izinkinga zayo, lezo zinkinga zingathinta ubuhlobo bakhe futhi ekugcineni, nomshado wakhe.
Imithwalo yobudlelwano obudlule, ukwenqatshwa, ukuvelela, kanye nokushayela ucansi okuphansi ngezinye zezinkinga ezivame kakhulu zokusondelana ngokomzwelo emadodeni.
Wonke umuntu angabheka emuva ebudlelwaneni obudlule futhi ahlangabezane nemizwa njengokungathi bekuyizolo lapho, empeleni, okwenzeka kwenzeka eminyakeni eyedlule.
Ngeshwa, uma kushiywe kungavunyelwe futhi kungaxazululwa, izingqinamba ezinjalo zobulili besilisa kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okubi kuzothinta kabi ubudlelwano obusha.
Okuhlangenwe nakho okubi kubuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano obusha
1. UTimothy uthanda umkakhe, u-Angela. Uyajabula ngokuthi akagcinanga ngesithandwa sakhe samabanga aphakeme esabaleka nomngani wakhe omkhulu.
Kubonakale sengathi bekuyizolo; waphatheka kabi lapho umngani wakhe omkhulu emtshela ukuthi manje sebeshadile, futhi bebengaqondile ukumzwisa ubuhlungu.
Wayengenalo noluncane ulwazi lokuthi babethandana. Ingabe wayeyisondo lesithathu ngezinsuku ayecabanga ukuthi ngezakhe?
Manje sekuyiminyaka engamashumi amabili ingxenye yalo eseshadile; UTimothy akakwazi ukulawula ukulandela ngasese umkakhe, u-Angela, ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ukhuluma iqiniso lokuthi ukuphi lapho engekho naye.
Ngabe uzosebenza ngempela? Ngabe uhlangana nezintombi ngempela esidlweni sakusihlwa? Ubebukeka emuhle impela namhlanje ekuseni ukuya esitolo nje. Ingabe uzama ukuhlangana nomunye umuntu? Lena akuyona imicabango emihle.
UTimothy uyazi ukuthi ubudlelwane babo bungaba ngcono kakhulu uma engazivumela amethembe.
Uhlala emtshela ukuthi uzizwa sengathi akazinikanga ngaye ngokuphelele kuyo yonke le minyaka. Uma ebanjwa elandela u-Angela, uyazi ukuthi bazolwa kakhulu.
Imishado eminingi ichithekile ngenxa yezinkinga zokwethembana nomona. UTimothy akazi ukuthi kungani evumela okwedlule ukuthi kumlimaze ngaleyo ndlela.
Ucabanga ukuthi ngeke kulimaze ukubona uchwepheshe, kepha kaningi, uyehluleka ukuthatha izinyathelo ezidingekayo zokuqeda ukwesaba kwakhe.
2. UMichael uthanda umkakhe, uCindy, kepha banezinkinga zokulala ngoba ezizwa enganele ukujabulisa umkakhe. Uyesaba ukwaliwa ngokomzwelo emshadweni.
Ngelinye ilanga, uCindy wasika ngesandla ukuphawula "ngobukhulu abunandaba" ngoba uyamthanda. UMichael wayengazi ukuthi uCindy wayemhlukanise “nosayizi akunandaba ukuthi ungumfana onjani.”
Ingabe ubenza iqiniso sonke lesi sikhathi? Muva nje, kunzima kuye ukuthi asondelene naye ngokomzwelo ngoba uhlala ezibuza ukuthi uyalingana yini.
UMichael akawuvumeli umqondo wokuthi angahle angameneli, ngakho-ke wenza izaba zokugwema konke ukusondelana, imizwa, kanye nomzimba.
Wazizwa esengozini futhi wayezibuza ukuthi uzomlimaza nini ngemicabango yakhe.
Ubuye waba nomuzwa wokuthi ukwethembana emshadweni wabo kusengozini, futhi noma ezikhathini eziningi, uzizwa sengathi wenza okuningi kakhulu ngakho, kepha akakwazi ukuziletha ukudlula ukwesaba kwakhe okulimaza umshado wakhe.
3. UJimmy uqeqeshela iWorld Heavy Weight Boxing Championship. Uyamthanda umkakhe, uSandra.
Ngokuphindaphindiwe, uzithola egwema ukusondelana naye ngoba ucansi luqeda amandla akhe lapho eziqeqesha.
Ucansi aluvumelekile ngesikhathi sokuqeqeshwa amasonto ayisithupha. Uyazi ukuthi uyaqonda kepha akaneme ngakho. Uma esenqobile, uyazi ukuthi kuzofanele.
UJimmy uyabona ukuthi isifiso sakhe simenza agweme ukusondelana ngokomzimba nonkosikazi wakhe, futhi ukungakwazi kwakhe ukukhuluma ngokukhululeka ngalolu daba kuphazamisa ukuxhumana kwabo ngokomzwelo.
Uma engaphumeleli, uzophuma kulo mdlalo ngoba umshado wakhe usho lukhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma enqoba futhi eqhubeka nemisebenzi yakhe, kuzofanela bathole indlela yokuqinisa ukuxhumana kwabo ngokomzwelo.
4. UJack, oshade noVicky, uyazi ukuthi udinga ukubona udokotela mayelana nokushayela kwakhe ucansi okuphansi kepha akakwazi ukuziletha ukukwenza.
Okwamanje, uVicky umile kwelokuthi uthola usizo. Uyabeka ama-aphoyintimenti kodwa uyakhansela uma sekuyisikhathi sokuhamba. Akakaze abe nokushayela ucansi okuphezulu kepha wayengazi ukuthi kuyinkinga waze washada.
UVicky ungowesifazane omuhle futhi ufanelwe ukwaneliswa ngumyeni wakhe, futhi uJack ukhunjuzwa kaningi ngaleli qiniso, elimenza agweme ukusondelana ngokomzimba kuphela kodwa nangokomzwelo nonkosikazi wakhe.
Sekukonke, izindaba ezivela ebudlelwaneni obudlule, ikakhulukazi ukwethembana nomona, zingathinta ukusondelana ngokomzwelo ebudlelwaneni noma emshadweni.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuvelela nokushayela ucansi okuphansi yizinkinga ezinikela kwabesilisa ekugwemeni ukusondelana ngokomzwelo nabalingani babo.
Ngakho-ke, ungayisiza kanjani indoda ngezinkinga zokusondelana? Konke kuqala ngokuxhumana.
Ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo sokuxazulula izinkinga zokusondelana ngokomzwelo emshadweni. Noma ngabe kusho ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi, umbhangqwana kufanele uphume ngaphandle komshado uye kumuntu obethembayo noma kochwepheshe ukuze uthole usizo abaludingayo.