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Ukwehlukaniswa kwesilingo kumane kusho ukuthi umbhangqwana uthathe isinqumo sokuthatha ikhefu ebudlelwaneni bawo futhi usebenzise isikhathi sawo ngokuhlukana ukwenza izinqumo zokuthi ngabe bafuna ukuqhubeka nokusebenza ebudlelwaneni babo noma bamane babuphele ubuhlobo. Lokhu kwangasese kungakusiza ukuthi uhlole izinkinga ebudlelwaneni ngokufanele futhi ubuye ubone ukuthi ukuba nesizungu kungaba njani, futhi uthole ukunambitheka kokuzimela, inkululeko nokuzimela.
Ukwehlukaniswa Kwesilingo kuthathwa njengokuhlaba ikhefu ebudlelwaneni, kubhekwa njengesikhashana lapho ubuhlobo bumiswa khona isikhathi lapho unganquma ukuqhubeka noma ukubumisa. Ukwehlukaniswa kwesilingo kulapho umbhangqwana uthathe isinqumo sokuhlala ndawonye efulethini elilodwa noma elihlukile. Kakhulu ngenxa yokungazinzi kwezezimali, imibhangqwana eminingi inquma ukuhlala ndawonye kodwa ihlukane ngenkathi ihlukene. Banquma kakhulu ukulinda kuze kube yilapho sebethathe izinqumo zokuthi bazohlukanisa noma cha noma bazoqeda ubudlelwano ngaphambi kokwenza noma isiphi isinqumo mayelana nokuthi ubani ophumayo nokuthi uzophuma nini. Futhi ngenkathi iningi lemibhangqwana lingenakho ukukhetha okuningi ngokuhlala ndawonye ngesikhathi sokuhlukana komshado noma kwecala, bakhathazeka uma kuyinto engcono kakhulu yokwenza.
Izizathu ezijwayelekile zokwehlukaniswa kwecala yilezi:
1. Ukungathembeki
Izindaba ezingaphandle komshado isizathu esivamile sokuhlukaniswa kwecala ngenxa yemfucuza abayilethayo. Ukwethembana yisici esinzima kakhulu sobudlelwano ukwakhiwa kabusha. Ekugcineni uma ukhethe ukungabuyisani noshade naye noma nihlale ndawonye ekupheleni kokwehlukaniswa kwesivivinyo sakho, kungahle kube cishe kungenzeki ukubuyisa ukwethembana obukade unakho kumlingani wakho kanye nethemba umlingani wakho analo ngawe. Ukungathembeki nakho kungadala ukuthi umlingani okhashelwe aziphindiselele ngokuzikhohlisa.
Ukuphinga kungumbulali osheshayo ebudlelwaneni njengoba kubangela ubuhlungu obukhulu benhliziyo, intukuthelo nosizi ebudlelwaneni. Lokhu akulimazi nje kuphela injabulo, injabulo, injabulo kanye nobumnandi bokuba sebudlelwaneni kepha futhi kungashintsha ngokuyisisekelo indlela oziphethe ngayo. Imizwa yentukuthelo, ukukhathazeka, usizi, ukungabaluleki nokucindezeleka ingakhula. Usizi nokukhathazeka okuhambisana nokukopela noma umlingani ongathembekile kungadala izimpawu ze-Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Ukungazigcini izithembiso zakho kwenza nomuntu abonakale engathembekile. Ukwehlukaniswa kwesilingo kungabangelwa lapho umlingani engazigcini izithembiso zakhe.
2. Azikho izingane
Ukungabi nezingane noma ukungabi nenyumba kungenye yezizathu zokwehlukaniswa kwecala emshadweni noma ebudlelwaneni. Ezimweni eziningi, ukungakwazi ukuzala izingane nakho kubanga ukuhlukumezeka nokukhathazeka emshadweni okuvame ukuholela ekulingweni noma ngisho nokuhlala unomphela emshadweni.
Kwesinye isikhathi lapho izingane seziphumile endlini ziyophishekela imfundo eyengeziwe noma esinye isizathu, kungashiya abazali bezizwe benesizungu futhi bedonswe enkambisweni yabo. Yingakho imibhangqwana eminingi ihlukana lapho izingane zabo sezihambile ekhaya. Lokhu kwenzeka ikakhulukazi lapho abazali begxila ekukhuliseni izingane zabo baze bakhohlwe ukuqhubeka nokukhombisa uthando nentshisekelo futhi bethandane. Bayakhohlwa ukuthi bangabashadikazi ebudlelwaneni, hhayi abazali kuphela.
3. Ukulutha
Ukuluthwa yizidakamizwa notshwala nakho kungaletha ukungaqiniseki ebudlelwaneni futhi kuholele ekulingweni noma nasekuhlukaneni unomphela. Ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa kukhuthaza ukusetshenziswa kabi kwemali, ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo nangokwezimali, nokushintsha kwemizwelo ngokushesha nokuziphatha okungaphandle kwesimilo okungonakalisa umshado wakho noma ubuhlobo bakho.
Nayi imithetho embalwa okufanele ilandelwe ngenkathi kusenziwa ukwahlukaniswa kwecala
- Setha Imingcele
Ukuba nemingcele ecacile ebekiwe kubalulekile ekwakheni ukwethembana phakathi kwabalingani phakathi nangemva kokuhlukana. Ukubeka imingcele kuyasiza ekuchazeni ukuthi ungakanani isikhala onethezekile ngaso ebudlelwaneni, ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba ngenkathi uhlukaniswa.
- Yenza izinqumo maqondana nokusondelana kwakho
Kufanele unqume ukuthi usazoqhubeka yini nokusondelana nomlingani wakho. Kufanele uthathe izinqumo maqondana nokuxhumana kwakho nempilo yezocansi. Kufanele uthathe izinqumo ngokuthi uzoya yini ocansini nokuthi nizochitha isikhathi ninomunye nomunye nisahlukene.
- Hlela izibopho zezezimali
Kufanele kube nokuhlelwa okucacile mayelana nokuthi kwenzekani kuzimpahla, ukheshi, izikweletu ngesikhathi sokuhlukana. Kufanele kwabelwane ngokulingana ngezinsizakusebenza nezibopho futhi izingane kufanele zinakekelwe ngokwanele.
- Setha isikhathi esithile sokwehlukanisa
Ukwehlukaniswa kwesivivinyo kufanele kube nesikhathi esithile esinamathiselwe kuso ukuze inhloso enkulu yokwehlukana kwecala ifezeke- ukunquma izenzo zesikhathi esizayo ezizokwenziwa emshadweni, mhlawumbe ukuqeda noma ukuqhubeka. Isikhathi esinqunyelwe ukuthi sibe phakathi kwezinyanga ezintathu kuya kweziyisithupha ngakho-ke kugcinwa umqondo wokuzimisela nokuzimisela, ikakhulukazi lapho kunezingane ezithintekayo.
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