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- 1. Vuma ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa bekungelona iphutha lakho
- 2. Beka imingcele
- 3. Thatha isikhathi ukuxhuma kabusha
- 4. Yenza izinto ezikulethela injabulo
- 5. Yenza uhlu
- 6. Funa usizo
- 7. Zinike isikhathi
Ngemuva kokuphuma ebuhlotsheni nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist, kungazwakala sengathi awazi ukuthi ubeka kanjani unyawo lwakho phambi kolunye usuku ngalunye.
AbakwaNarcissist basebenzisa ukukhanyiswa kwegesi nezinye izinhlobo zokuhlukumeza amagama ukwenza izisulu zabo zingabaze iqiniso labo kanye nokuhlanzeka kwengqondo, kanye nokubaphuca amandla nokuzethemba.
Kungathatha isikhathi ukuphulukisa ekuhlukunyezweni ngokweqile, futhi umuntu ngamunye uzoba nendlela ehlukile yokuphulukiswa. Kunezinto ezithile ongazenza ukuzisiza welaphe futhi uqhubeke nempilo yakho.
Funda izindlela ezingu-7 zokuphola ekuhlukunyezweni ngokweqile
1. Vuma ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa bekungelona iphutha lakho
Ukuhlukunyezwa kwe-ex narcissistic yakho kwaba hhayi iphutha lakho.
Kodwa-ke, izisulu eziningi zabadayisi bama-narcissism bakhanyiselwa ekukholweni ukuthi bazilethele bona. Ezinye izisulu zizisola ngokwazo ngokungaboni ukuhlukunyezwa okubangelwa yilokho okwakuyikho, ngokungasheshe bakubone, noma ngokungasuki ngokushesha.
Ngenkathi usalulama ekuhlukunyezweni yi-narcissistic, zithethelele futhi wazi ukuthi wenze konke okusemandleni akho, futhi uphume ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Noma ngubani angaba yisisulu sombhali wezinambuzane, ungazibeki icala.
2. Beka imingcele
Esinye sezici ezinkulu ze-narcissist ukuthi abanamqondo wemingcele futhi bazokweqa owakho.
Ukubeka imingcele, hhayi nje nowayengumlingiswa wakho kodwa futhi nabanye, kuzokusiza njengoba uthola ukuthi ungaphulukisa kanjani ekuhlukunyezweni yi-narcissistic. Funda ukuthi cha uthi cha bese ubambelela ngokuqinile kucha wakho.
Uma kungenzeka, ungathintani nowawushade naye. Vimba inombolo yabo yocingo, uhambise i-imeyili yabo ogaxekile, futhi ungabi ngumngane futhi ubavimbele ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Uma kufanele uhlale uthintana ngoba unezingane ezifanayo, zijwayeze ukuhlala phansi lapho kufanele uhlanganyele khona ukuze ungabaniki lutho abazondla ngalo.
Futhi beka imingcele eqinile ezingeni nohlobo lokuxhumana ozoba nalo ne-ex yakho.
Ukuhlanza izikhumbuzo nezinye izikhumbuzo zesidala sakho kungakusiza nokuthi welaphe ekuhlukumezweni kwe-narcissistic.
3. Thatha isikhathi ukuxhuma kabusha
Enye yezindlela ezinkulu zokulawula i-narcissist ukwahlukanisa isisulu sabo kubangani, emndenini, ngisho nakubo uqobo. Lokhu kwenza ukuphulukiswa ekuhlukunyezweni kwe-narcissistic kube yinkinga.
Ukuthatha isikhathi sokuxhuma kabusha nabanye futhi nawe kuzoba yingxenye ebalulekile yokwelashwa ekuhlukunyezweni yi-narcissistic. Finyelela kubangani okungenzeka ukuthi awusatholakali nabo. Hlela isikhathi nalabo abakwenza uzizwe kahle. Futhi, zinike isikhathi sokuzitholela kabusha.
Ukuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic kuvame ukushiya isisulu ngomqondo osontekile noma ongaqondile wokuthi bangobani, bakholelwa ini, nokuthi bafunani empilweni.
Ukwenza i-journalling, ukuzindla ngokwakho, nokunye ukuvivinya umzimba ekucabangeni kungasiza njengoba uphulukisa.
4. Yenza izinto ezikulethela injabulo
Imvamisa izisulu zababhali bama-narcissist ziyeka ukulandela izifiso zazo ukuze zilondoloze ukuzwana ebudlelwaneni. Njengoba uthola ukuthi ungaphulukisa kanjani ekuhlukunyezweni yi-narcissistic, ukuthatha isikhathi sokwenza izinto ozijabulelayo kuzosiza.
Zibandakanye kokuzilibazisa okungenzeka ukuthi ukuyekile phakathi kobuhlobo bakho nowawushade naye. Vuselela, noma thola umkhuba omusha, ongokomoya. Yidla ukudla okuthandayo. Ngisho nezinto ezincane njengokushintsha izimonyo zakho noma ukufaka umdwebo obewuthanda futhi owake wakuzonda kungaba yizinyathelo zokuphulukisa.
5. Yenza uhlu
Kuzoba nezinsuku olingeka ukuba ufinyelele kumuntu wakho wakudala noma ukubuza ukuthi ukushiya bekuyinto elungile yini. Yenza uhlu lwazo zonke izizathu oshiye kuzo. Ungakwenza lokhu ngesikhathi esisodwa noma ushiye endaweni lapho ungangeza kuyo njengoba izinto zenzeka kuwe.
Ukuba nalolu hlu kusiza kuzokusiza uphazamise izindlela zakho zokucabanga lapho ufika ekulahlekelweni ngumuntu wakho wakudala, okwenzekayo noma ukubuza ukuthi ngabe izinto "bezimbi kangako" noma ngabe uthathe isinqumo esifanele.
6. Funa usizo
Ukuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic ukuhlukumeza, noma ngabe owedlule akaze abe nodlame ngokomzimba.
Ukufuna umelaphi noma omunye uchwepheshe osebenzelana nabasindile ekuhlukunyezweni kwe-narcissistic kungaba isinyathelo esibalulekile njengoba uphulukiswa ekuhlukunyezweni kwe-narcissistic.
Noma ngabe ukhetha amaseshini ambalwa nomelaphi, iqembu labasinda masonto onke, noma enye yezinsizakalo zokwelapha ezikhuluma online, kungasiza ukukhuluma nomuntu ongaphandle kwesimo onolwazi ngokusiza abasindile ukuthi belaphe futhi babuyise izimpilo zabo.
7. Zinike isikhathi
Umonakalo ovela ekuhlukunyezweni kwe-narcissistic awenzekanga ngobusuku obubodwa, futhi ngeke uthole indlela yokuphulukisa kuwo ubusuku bonke, futhi.
Yazi ukuthi ubukade uku-rollercoaster engokomzwelo kulo lonke ubudlelwano, futhi kuzothatha isikhathi ukuthi ingqondo yakho, inhliziyo, nohlelo lwezinzwa lubuye luzole. Ezinye izinsuku zizoba nzima kunezinye.
Sebenzisa amasu akulolu hlu kungakusiza ukuthi udlule ezinsukwini ezinzima.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, njengoba unezinsuku ezinhle ngokwengeziwe, uzolungela ngokwengeziwe ukushiya okwedlule emuva ungene empilweni entsha.