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- Ukungajabuli Okuvamile noMshado
- Amathuba amaningi okukhohlisa
- Ukuthuthukisa Ukuxhumana Ku-inthanethi
- Uzizwa Enesizungu Noma Engazwakali
Lapho abantu bezwa ngomshado ochitheka ngenxa yokungathembeki, imvamisa abantu bacabanga ukuthi umyeni unephutha. Yibo abavame ukuphambuka, akunjalo? Empeleni abesifazane bayakhohlisa, futhi, futhi izinombolo nezizathu zingakumangaza.
Ngokwezifundo ezimbalwa zakamuva, abesilisa nabesifazane empeleni bahle noma kukhulunywa ngokukopela oshade nabo. Ngakho-ke kubonakala sengathi amadoda athola i-rap embi uma kukhulunywa ngokungakwazi ukuhlala ethembekile.Empeleni bekuvamisile ukuba yiqiniso, kepha eminyakeni yamuva nje, ngokusho kocwaningo lwe-Indiana University eBloomington, amaphesenti ayi-19 abesifazane kanye namaphesenti angama-23 abesilisa babike ukuthi bakopela phakathi nomshado wabo.
Kepha mhlawumbe ezithakazelisa kakhulu izizathu zokuthi kungani abashadile bekopela. Kaningi kunalokho, abesilisa babefuna ukuzijabulisa ngokwengeziwe ngokomzimba / ngokocansi ngaphandle komshado. Kepha abesifazane, ngenkathi bethanda ukukuthola lokho, ababheki lokho kuphela. Kaningi balangazelela ushintsho olungokomzwelo. Ngokwezifundo ezahlukahlukene, nazi ezinye izizathu zokuthi kungani abesifazane bekopela:
Ukungajabuli Okuvamile noMshado
Kungaba yinto enkulu, noma nje izinto eziningi ezincane. Kepha kulezi zinsuku, lapho owesifazane engajabule, ubheka injabulo kwenye indawo. Uma osebenza naye noma umngani wesilisa emnaka, angahle aduke ngoba lowo omunye umuntu ugcwalisa ibhakede labo lenjabulo ngezindlela abalingani babo abangazazi.
UMaddy wayazi ukuthi umyeni wakhe ungumfana olungile, kepha wayevele azizwe ekhungathekile usuku nosuku. “Besifuna izinto ezihlukile. Ngicabanga ukuthi ekuqaleni sasinemigomo efanayo, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi sahlukana. ” Ukungajabuli kwakhe okujwayelekile kwamphindisela ezandleni zelangabi elidala elaliphila ngendlela ayecabanga ngayo. Kodwa kwatholakala ukuthi, nomyeni wakhe wayekopela, ngakho bavumelana ngokuhlukana.
Amathuba amaningi okukhohlisa
Abesilisa nabesifazane ngokuvamile abakopeli uma bazi ukuthi bazobanjwa; kepha lapho becabanga ukuthi ngeke babanjwe, lezo zibalo ziyashintsha. Futhi kulezi zinsuku, njengoba kunabesifazane abaningi abasebenzayo, imindeni enamashejuli amatasa kakhulu, ohambweni lwasemadolobheni, njll., Kunamathuba amaningi okuzimela ngaphandle kokuthi oshade naye asole noma yini.
Ngenkathi uKate etshela umyeni wakhe weminyaka emine ukuthi uzoqala ukuba nezingqungquthela zakusihlwa zomsebenzi, akazange anake lutho. Lokho kwakumvulela njalo ngoLwesine kusihlwa ukuze akwazi ukuchitha isikhathi nomsebenzi ayesebenze naye ubuhlobo. Lolu daba luqhubeke isikhathi esingaphezu konyaka ngaphambi kokuthi ekugcineni atshele umyeni wakhe bese behlukanisa.
Ukuthuthukisa Ukuxhumana Ku-inthanethi
Imithombo yezokuxhumana kanye namasayithi wokuphola online enza kube lula kakhulu ukuba nokushayisana okuncane nesoka elidala noma umuntu omusha. Abesifazane ngokuvamile abafani nokuma kobusuku obubodwa nomuntu abangamazi. Esikhundleni salokho, maningi amathuba okuthi babe nokuhlangana nomuntu abaxhumane naye. Kulesi sikhathi lapho ukukhuluma ku-inthanethi nelangabi elidala, noma ukusetha i-akhawunti eyimbumbulu yokuphola online kulula kakhulu, akumangalisi ukuthi abesifazane bayalingwa.
U-Lacey wayazi ukuthi wayeshade nomuntu ongamfanele, kodwa wayengaqiniseki ukuthi yini okufanele ayenze ukwenza izinto zibe ngcono, futhi wesaba kakhulu ukumshiya. Ukhulume amahora amaningi nomngani omdala womfana wasesikoleni esiphakeme, ngemuva kokumfuna ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Kwakhula kwaba ngaphezu kobungane, futhi ngalobo budlelwano wabona ukuthi izinto zingahluka kanjani. Ngokushesha washiya umyeni wakhe waya kumngani wakhe wasesikoleni esiphakeme.
Uzizwa Enesizungu Noma Engazwakali
Abesifazane badinga ukuzwa ukuxhumana nabalingani babo ukuze bagcwaliseke. Uma abalingani babo bengekho emzimbeni (usebenza kakhulu), noma engatholakali ngokomzwelo noma nje “engamtholi”, khona-ke angafuna umuntu ongakwazi futhi ozokwazi. Kungenzeka nokuthi umyeni wowesifazane ubejwayele ukuxhumana naye, kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi leyo nhlansi iphelile. Inhlansi ingahle ikhanye komunye umuntu futhi angahle alingeke ukuba angathembeki ukuze azizwe ukuthi ufanelekile.
USarah wayesezingeni lokushintsha ngomsebenzi wakhe; wayesezoyeka nje futhi aqale ibhizinisi lakhe. Bekuyiphupho lakhe lempilo yonke. Kuphela, umyeni wakhe wayengamsekeli futhi kubonakala sengathi akanandaba namaphupho akhe. Wazizwa ecindezeleke kakhulu, wayengasakwazi ukumbheka. Ikhasimende likaSarah lalijabule kakhulu ngemibono yalo futhi kungekudala baqala ukuxhumana okwakukudala uSarah ekulangazelela iminyaka. Babenobudlelwano okwaqhubeka kwaze kwaba yilapho ibhizinisi lakhe lisuka phansi. Ekugcineni wayiyeka leyo ndaba wabe esehlala nomyeni wakhe, ngoba wayezizwa enecala ngalokho akwenzayo. Uzizwa eneliseke ngokwengeziwe ngebhizinisi lakhe elisha futhi umyeni wakhe uyawasekela amaphupho akhe.