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- Wonke umuntu unesifiso sokuthi wonke umuntu aphinde ashade
- Ukuntuleka kobuhlobo bomshado kungaba yisizathu sokwehlukana emshadweni
- Isici esiyinhloko sokwala kwenkosikazi ubudlelwano bomshado
- Thola izimpendulo kwenye imfundiso eGemora
- Ukuhlazisa umyeni ngaphandle kokufuna isehlukaniso
- Elinye ikhambi
- Umyalo kaTorah
Kungani kwenzeka isehlukaniso?
Abantu abazwani ngezizathu eziningi ezivame ukuletha isehlukaniso. Ngakho-ke, kufanele siphendukele embuzweni olandelayo esihlokweni sethu - Kuyini Okulandelayo?
Isehlukaniso siyinhlekelele, kepha yisinye esingalungiswa.
Umuntu angaphinda ashade. Kepha, okubuhlungu namuhla ukuthi abantu abadivosayo kaningi bayenqaba ukuphinde bashade. Abagcini ngokwala ukuphinde bashade, kepha baphonsa imikhuba ngokungemthetho nabanye kaningi abangenanhloso yokuphinda bashade.
Wonke umuntu unesifiso sokuthi wonke umuntu aphinde ashade
Abantu bakulangazelele kakhulu ukushada nabantu futhi bakhiqize izinhlelo ezibizayo zokwenza abantu behle bahlangane nomuntu abangashada naye.
Bayahlangana, bayaxoxa, bathathe uhambo lokuhambahamba ngezinyawo, bashayele imoto, noma baye ngisho nasendaweni yokudlela enhle, mhlawumbe ibhayisikobho enhle, futhi kuyaqabukela baphinde bashade.
Urabi obambe iqhaza elikhulu kulezi zinkinga wangitshela ukuthi ngisho nama-Orthodox amaJuda ahlukanisile awayengwa kalula ukuba aphinde ashade, futhi, ngokudabukisayo, agcina ona, uHaShem Yerachem.
Ake sikhulume ngalokhu kancane.
Ukuntuleka kobuhlobo bomshado kungaba yisizathu sokwehlukana emshadweni
Umuntu uyashada, akusebenzi, futhi mhlawumbe, indoda nenkosikazi abanabo ubudlelwano bomshado. Into enjalo ingenzeka futhi kuxoxwa ngayo nasezincwadini zezenkolo ezikhuluma ngomshado.
Incwadi eyodwa ebucayi iphakamisa ukuthi uma owesifazane ehlala endlini nomyeni wakhe oshadile, kepha alahlekelwe yintshisekelo yokuba nobudlelwano bomshado naye, futhi yena uhlala endlini enakekela izingane futhi esebenza endlini ngokuvamile, yize enqaba ukuba nomshado. ubudlelwane, lokhu kuyinto efuna ukuthi orabi emphakathini baqonde.
Kwenzekani? Kungani unkosikazi enze ngale ndlela? Ngabe umyeni uziphatha kahle? Konakelephi?
Isici esiyinhloko sokwala kwenkosikazi ubudlelwano bomshado
Ngabe unkosikazi uyabenqaba ubudlelwano basemshadweni ngoba efuna isehlukaniso, okungukuthi, ufuna ukukhululeka ngokuphelele endodeni, mhlawumbe aphinde ashade? Noma akafuni ukushiya indlu, kepha uzoqhubeka nokuhlala lapho, kanye nomyeni endlini efanayo, kepha wenqaba ukuba nobudlelwano naye.
Thola izimpendulo kwenye imfundiso eGemora
Kubukeka sengathi ngesikhathi esithile owesifazane owayefuna isehlukaniso kumyeni wakhe futhi asho isizathu sokuthi kungani efuna isehlukaniso, wayekholelwa ngokuvamile.
Kuleyo minyaka yokuqala kakhulu, abesifazane babaziwa ukuthi bathembekile futhi bangaqambi amanga ngabayeni babo.
Kepha njengoba isikhathi siqhubeka, orabi baphawula ukuthi abanye besifazane babeqamba amanga ngabayeni babo ngoba nje bekhetha umuntu ohlukile kunokuba abe ngumyeni wabo.
Izindaba ngomyeni wakhe wamanje kungenzeka zazingelona iqiniso, khona-ke orabi banquma ukuthi abesifazane babengeke baphoqe umyeni ukuthi abahlukanise.
Ukuhlazisa umyeni ngaphandle kokufuna isehlukaniso
Kuthiwani uma engafuni isehlukaniso, futhi engasho amagama athi "Ngifuna isehlukaniso," kepha angasho lokho akufunayo ngomyeni maqondana nokwenqaba kwakhe ukuba nobudlelwano bomshado naye?
Esimweni esinjalo, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi isinyathelo esilandelayo ukuthi orabi abakhulu bakhulume nomyeni.
Ingabe uphatha kahle umkakhe, noma cha?
Orabi banikeza umyeni isikhathi esithile sokulungisa izinto endlini nomkakhe. Uma kusebenza, kulungile, umshado ubuyele esimeni kuleyo ndlu.
Elinye ikhambi
Kepha uma kungasebenzi, futhi unkosikazi engazange afune i-GET, orabi bangahle banqume ukuphoqa indoda ukuthi inikeze i-GET.
Manje, iqiniso lokuthi owesifazane ucela i-GET kusho ukuthi asiphoqi indoda.
Asimethembi lo wesifazane ngoba mhlawumbe ucela i-GET hhayi ngoba izikhalazo zakhe ziyiqiniso, kepha ngoba uncamela indoda ehlukile kunomyeni wakhe.
Kepha uma orabi bekwazi ukuzitholela ngokwabo ukuthi indoda yenze izinto ezidala usizi kowesifazane ngendlela engaletha i-GET ephoqelelwe, ukuze owesifazane kungabi nguye okhuluma izinto ezimbi ngomyeni kodwa orabi ngokuzimela uqaphele lokhu, okungaholela ku-GET ephoqelelwe.
Lokhu kushiwo ku-Shulchan Aruch lapho orabi bebona ukuthi owesilisa uthathe umsebenzi odinga ukuthi athole iphunga elibi okungekho muntu wesifazane ongalibekezelela, kungenzeka, aphoqeleke ukuba ahlukanise nonkosikazi wakhe.
Buka futhi: Izizathu Eziningi Ezivamile Zesehlukaniso
Umyalo kaTorah
ITora iyala indoda ukuthi ishade futhi ibe nezingane, umfana nentombazane. Okufanelekile, kufanele aqhubeke nokuba nezingane eziningi.
Kwakunecala lapho indoda yayinabafana abaningi futhi ingenamantombazane.
Urabi wasikisela ukuba ahlukanise nomkakhe ngoba wayengakwazi ukufeza umyalo wokuba nendodana nendodakazi. Kodwa urabi omkhulu wangaleso sikhathi, uRav Yosef Shalom Elyashev, waxwayisa ubuhlakani.
Akukho ukuhlukanisa.
Ngempela, abanye bathi abesifazane abaphakeme kunabesilisa futhi amadoda amabili angalingana owesilisa nowesifazane.
Kuliqiniso ukuthi iTalmud ithi uHaShem uyabahlonipha abantu besifazane ukwedlula abesilisa futhi uyabathemba mhlawumbe ukwedlula abesilisa, kodwa uma sekufika ekuphoqeleleni indoda ukuthi yehlukanise nomkayo ngokuba nabafana ababili futhi engenawo amantombazane, lokho kuphambene nomkhondo.
Kepha, lapho umbhangqwana umane wenqaba ukuba nobudlelwano bomshado, futhi ungakabi nazingane ezimbili eziyisisekelo, lokhu kubucayi. Ingabe orabi bayangenelela futhi baphoqe isehlukaniso? Ingabe ziphoqa ukusondelana?
Lezi yizinkinga ezihlukene, kepha zihambisana kakhulu nabantu abathintekayo.
Ngamanye amagama, lapho umshado ungasebenzi, futhi abantu bengadivosi, sinezinkinga ezinkulu, mhlawumbe izinkinga ezingenaso isixazululo esisebenzekayo.
Futhi kuthiwani ngabantu abangenabo ubudlelwano kodwa abangahlukanisi? Ingabe siyabasongela?
Angizivezi lapha izixazululo zalezi zinkinga ezimbi, ezenzekayo, ngivele ngithi lezi zinhlobo zezinto ezingenzeka emshadweni, futhi ziyenzeka.
Esingazama ukukwenza ukuthola indlela yokuxazulula izinkinga, ngethemba, ngaphandle kwesehlukaniso, kepha uma kungenzeki isisombululo, yini enye engenziwa?