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- Ukukopela - kunqunywa kanjani?
- 1. Ukukopela ngokomzimba
- 2. Ukukopela ngokomzwelo
- 3. Online Ukukopela
- Ukuqonda ukuthambekela - izibalo 'zokukhohlisa'
- Izizathu zokuthi kungani izinombolo zishintshile
- Ngubani okopela okuningi, abesilisa noma abesifazane?
Lapho ufunda noma uzwa igama elithi "umkhohlisi", iningi lethu lingacabanga ukuthi indoda inomunye umuntu wesifazane, akunjalo?
Asibadeleli abakopeli hhayi nje ngenxa yobuhlungu nobuhlungu ababunikeza abalingani babo kodwa nangenxa yokuthi kuyisono ukukopela. Kungani bengasuki nje ebudlelwaneni uma bengasajabule?
Impela, uzwile ngenkulumo ethi abantu bonke bayakhohlisa noma ukuthi ngokwemvelo, bazolingeka - yebo, lokho kwakungaphambilini. Ungamangala ukwazi ukuthi namuhla, abesifazane bayakwazi ukukopela njengoba kwenza abesilisa futhi lokhu kusenza sizindle, ngubani okopela okuningi, abesilisa noma abesifazane?
Ukukopela - kunqunywa kanjani?
Ingabe ungumkhohlisi?
Kungenzeka ukuthi uzibuze lo mbuzo kwezinye izimo oke wabhekana nazo futhi sonke siyazi ukuthi kungani.
Ukukopela kuyisono esibi.
Kungaba ukuthi siyesaba ukwenza iphutha noma sesivele silenzile futhi sifuna uhlobo oluthile lwezaba.
Ngubani okopela okuningi, abesilisa noma abesifazane? Wazi kanjani ukuthi usuvele uyakhohlisa? Ukuthandana akuqali futhi kugcina ngokuya ocansini nomuntu ongashadile naye. Empeleni, ukudlala ngothando okuthiwa “akunangozi” sekuvele kuthathwe njengomngcele wokukopela.
Ake sihlole izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zokukopela futhi sibone ukuthi ubani onecala!
1. Ukukopela ngokomzimba
Le yincazelo ejwayelekile kunazo zonke yokukhohlisa. Kungaleso sikhathi lapho uzibandakanya ocansini nomunye umuntu ngaphandle komlingani wakho.
Abesilisa nabesifazane bobabili bayakwazi ukuzibophezela kulesi senzo kepha imvamisa, ngabesifazane abatshala imali engaphezu kakhulu kwesifiso sabo senyama. Kubo, ukukopela ngokomzimba kuhambisana nokukhohlisa okungokomzwelo.
2. Ukukopela ngokomzwelo
Uma kukhulunywa ngokukhohlisa ngokomzwelo, ngubani okopela okuningi, abesilisa noma abesifazane?
Abesifazane, abakopelayo, bavame ukutshala imali engaphezu kwesifiso sabo senyama. Imvamisa kunalokhu, laba besifazane banokuxhumana ngokomzwelo nabathandi babo. Abesilisa nabo bathinteka ekukopeleni okungokomzwelo futhi awudingi ngisho ukuya ocansini ukuze ubizwe ngomkhohlisi.
Ukutshala imizwa yothando kothile ngaphandle koshade naye noma umlingani wakho, ukuthanda omunye umuntu noma wazi ukuthi uzolimaza umlingani wakho sekuvele kuyindlela yokukopela.
3. Online Ukukopela
Kwabanye, lokhu ngeke kuthathwe njengokukopela kepha ukunaka ukunaka, imizwa yakho nesikhathi sakho ekuxoxeni nasekuthandeni umuntu othile, ukubukela i-porn, ukujoyina amasayithi wokuphola "ukuzijabulisa" akuzona izaba ezizwakalayo.
Lokhu kuseyindlela yokukopela, noma ngabe unaziphi izinhloso zokwenza lezi zenzo.
Ukuqonda ukuthambekela - izibalo 'zokukhohlisa'
Kholwa noma ungakukholwa, izinombolo zishintshile - kakhulu! Ngokwezibalo, ngubani okopela okuningi, abesilisa noma abesifazane?
Ake sijule ngokujulile. Ngokuya ngemininingwane yakamuva evela kuGeneral Social Survey e-U.S., Ngubani okopela okuningi, izibalo zabesilisa noma abesifazane zikhombisile ukuthi bekungamadoda angama-20% futhi cishe abesifazane abayi-13% bavumile ukuthi banezindaba zangaphandle komshado.
Yize, njengomshwana wokuzikhipha emthwalweni, kufanele sikuqonde ukuthi lezi zibalo zincike kubantu ababezimisele ukubamba iqhaza.
Isikhathi esiningi, ikakhulukazi ngabesifazane, bebengeke bakhululeke ukuvuma ukuthi bayakopela. Iphuzu lapha ukuthi namuhla, abesilisa nabesifazane bayakwazi ukukopela kepha uke uzibuze ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi abesifazane babe nodlame kakhulu ngezindaba zangaphandle komshado ngokungafani nakuqala lapho ukucabanga nje ngokudlala ngothando namanye amadoda sekuvele kuyisono.
Izizathu zokuthi kungani izinombolo zishintshile
Ungase uzibuze ukuthi ngubani okopela abesilisa nabesifazane eminye imiphumela yokufunda acishe alingane phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane. Kuyabethusa futhi abanye ukuthi abesifazane sebevulelekile ekukhulumeni ngokuba nezindaba ngaphambili, lokhu kungadala ukucwaswa okukhulu nenzondo kubo bonke abantu.
Isici esisodwa esihle esicatshangelwa lapha yisizukulwane sethu samanje.
Kuliqiniso ukuthi isizukulwane sethu namuhla sinesibindi kakhulu futhi sinesibindi. Bayazi ukuthi bafunani futhi ngeke bavumele ubulili, ubuhlanga, nobudala kunqume ukuthi yini abangayenza noma abangakwazi ukuyenza. Kungakho uma bethandana, nakanjani bazogadwa kakhulu futhi bazolwela nelungelo labo lokuthi noma yini indoda engayenza - bangenza kangcono.
Ngubani okopela okuningi, abesilisa noma abesifazane? Isikhathi sishintshile ngisho nendlela esicabanga ngayo ishintshe kakhulu. Uma ngaphambili, ukudlala ngothando okulula kungakwenza uzizwe unecala, namuhla imizwa echazwe iyajabulisa futhi iyalutha.
Kufana nokuthi siyazi ukuthi akulungile kepha isifiso sokwenza lokho siba sikhulu njengoba kungavunyelwe.
Ngubani okopela okuningi, abesilisa noma abesifazane?
Ukwazi ukuthi ngubani okwazi ukukopela akuyona into okufanele siziqhenye ngayo. Eqinisweni, kuyethusa ngoba asisakuboni ukubaluleka nobungcwele bomshado. Asisaboni ukuthi ingcwele kanjani inyunyana phakathi kwabantu ababili abathandanayo, esikubonayo umuzwa ojabulisayo nowomlutha wokuba nokuthandana.
Ngakho-ke, ngubani okopela okuningi, abesilisa noma abesifazane? Noma ingabe sobabili sinecala lalesi sono esingeke sonakalise umshado wethu kuphela kodwa nomndeni wethu? Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukuziphatha kokungathembeki phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane kuyafana. Abesilisa bavame ukubandakanyeka ekuziphatheni ngokocansi nabesifazane kakhulu ekuziphatheni okungokomzwelo. Eminye imiphumela evela ocwaningweni ibimi kanje:
- Bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane bafuna uthando, ukuqonda, nokunakwa ebudlelwaneni bangaphandle komshado
- Banamathuba amaningi okuthi bakhohlise uma bezizwa bengavikelekile
- Bayakopela ngoba abatholi ukunakwa nokwaneliseka okugculisayo kumlingani wabo
- Abesifazane maningi amathuba okuthi bafune okuthile okuzovala isikhala sabo esingokomzwelo noma bazizwe befiswa kakhulu ngokuthandana kodwa ukwaneliseka ngokocansi nakho kungaba yinto
- Banamathuba amaningi okuthi babone ukuthandana njengendlela yokuqeda umshado wabo uma bezizwa bevalelekile.
- Emibhangqwaneni engabobulili obuhlukile, abesifazane nabo banamathuba amaningi okuthi baqale isehlukaniso futhi bajabule ngemuva kwalokho
Ukwakha kabusha ubudlelwano ngemuva kokuphulwa yindaba akulula neze.
Ukuthembana, uma sekwephuliwe ngeke kulungiswe kalula. Okubi kakhulu wukuthi bazobaningi abantu abazohlupheka ngenxa yaleli phutha. Yebo, ukukopela kuyiphutha noma ngabe yiziphi izizathu zakho. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuzifaka kulesi simo - cabanga.
Ukhohliswe kuphi noma cha noma uma kunguwe okopelile. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi asekhona amathuba wesibili kepha ake siqiniseke ukuthi asiwachithi lawo mathuba.
Ngubani okopela okuningi, abesilisa noma abesifazane? Ngubani ofanelwe ithuba lesibili? Ubani okufanele asolwe? Musa ukulinda isikhathi okufanele uzibuze sona futhi ungalindi ukuphoxeka ngoba nje waba buthakathaka ngesikhathi esithile.
Bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane bayakwazi ukuba nobudlelwano futhi akusikho okudinga ukubalwa, kunalokho ukuzithiba nokuziphatha onakho njengomuntu kuzobalulekile.