Imishado engama-40% iqale njengobungani obumsulwa. Lo mbhangqwana kungenzeka ukuthi wahlangana esikoleni, emsebenzini, noma nje waba yingxenye yomjikelezo ofanayo wabangane. Babengenayo inhlansi yothando phakathi kwabo ekuqaleni, kepha njengoba babechitha isikhathi ndawonye, ngesikhathi esisodwa ebudlelwaneni oyedwa noma bobabili babona ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona okunye, okungathi kuzwakala njengothando lwezithandani, kulobu bungani.
Eminye imibhangqwana eyaziwayo eqale njengabangane
Awudingi ukubheka kude ukuthola ukuthi kunenqwaba yemibhangqwana yosaziwayo ebingabangani nje ngaphambi kokuthi uCupid ayishaye ngomcibisholo wakhe:
- USheryl Sandberg, i-COO ye-Facebook, ubengumngani nomyeni wakhe ongasekho uDave iminyaka eyisithupha ngaphambi kokuthi izinto zijike zibe zothando.
- UMila Kunis no-Ashton Kutcher babengabangani ku-sitcom “That 70s Show” eminyakeni eyishumi nane ngaphambi kokuba bahlangane babophe ifindo.
- UBlake Lively noRyan Reynolds ekuqaleni bashaya ubungani kusethi yefilimu ethi "The Green Lantern". Cishe ngemuva konyaka base bethandane kabili, ngamunye enomlingani ohlukile, futhi babona ukuthi kufanele babe nomunye.
- UBeyonce noJay Z babenobungani obuhle kakhulu ngonyaka odlule ngaphambi kokuba babone inhlansi yothando eyayikulungele ukushiswa phakathi kwabo.
- UKate Middleton noPrince William babeseqenjini elilodwa labangane, baya eyunivesithi ndawonye, futhi bahlala nje iminyaka eminingi ngaphambi kokuba bathandane futhi bashade.
Lapho ubona ukuthi imizwa yakho yobungane ingahle ifukathe okungaphezulu
Ube ngumngane nomngane wakho-we-the-opposite-six isikhathi eside. Mhlawumbe umazi kusukela esikoleni esiphakeme. Mhlawumbe kungumuntu owake wasebenza ndawonye emsebenzini wakho wokuqala futhi osengabangane naye, eminyakeni edlule. Nobabili senidlule ebudlelwaneni obuningana futhi nasebenzisana njengamabhodi wokuzwakalisa lapho ninezinkinga zobudlelwano. Manje nobabili anishadile. Futhi uyaqaphela ukuthi ngokungazelelwe ubheke umngane wakho ngamehlo amasha.
- Ubonakala evuthiwe futhi ethembekile kakhulu kunabafana obukade uthandana nabo
- Awukaze uqaphele ukuthi muhle kanjani kuze kube muva nje
- Nithanda indlela eningavele nje nixoxe ngayo yonke into
- Uyakuthanda ukuthi ungaba kanjani wemvelo eduze kwakhe. Akunasidingo sokwenza konke kukhanye; ungafika endaweni yakhe ugqoke ibhulukwe nesikibha sakho sasekolishi futhi akagxeki ingubo yakho
- Uyambuka bese kwenzeka kuwe ukuthi ungumfana omuhle kakhulu omaziyo
- Unomona uma umbona ethandana nenye intombazane; ungahle ugxeke amantombazane azwakalisa ukuwathanda
- Ucabanga ngaye kakhulu, futhi umkhumbule uma ningekho ndawonye
- Uyajabula lapho wazi ukuthi uzombona
- Uma ucabanga ngaye uthola izimvemvane esiswini sakho
Ukuba nengxoxo - ingabe naye uzizwa ngendlela efanayo ngawe?
Usunokungena okulula: wena naye ukhuluma kalula. Yize kungakuthusa ukukhuluma ngale ndaba, zitshele ukuthi imiphumela — uma nayo izizwa ngendlela efanayo — iyoba efanele. Hlela ukuvula ingxoxo lapho nobabili senikhululekile. Yiba sendaweni eniyithokozelayo nobabili, njengesitolo sakho sekhofi esiyintandokazi noma ipaki enithanda ukugijimela kuyo.
Kuqinisekisiwe! Uzizwa ngendlela efanayo nawe!
Uya ebudlelwaneni obuhle. Ochwepheshe abafunda ngokuphila isikhathi eside nenjabulo emibhangqwaneni bayasitshela ukuthi isimo esimsulwa futhi esiyiqiniso sobungani esinikeza isisekelo esiqinile salezo zithandani eziqala njengabangani futhi zigcine njengezithandani.
Ubungani ebudlelwaneni bothando-yini eyenza le mibhangqwana ibhenceke kangaka?
Uma uqala njengabangani, kukunikeza ithuba lokubona umlingiswa weqiniso womlingani wakho, ngaphandle kokumbondelana ngokocansi okuvame ukukushiya ungaboni ezinye zezinto ezingathandeki kulo muntu. Ukuqala njengabangane nakho kukunika ithuba ngoba awuzenzisi “ungaba yinto ongeyona, ukuze nje uvuse intshisekelo yomunye umuntu kuwe. Sonke siyazi ukuthi umngani owenza intshisekelo ekuthandeni kwesoka okungenzeka ukuthi likhona ngebhola ukuze nje limjabulise, akunjalo? Lokho nje akwenzeki lapho umbhangqwana uqala njengabangane ngoba akudingekile. Omunye akazami “ukubamba” omunye. Imizwa phakathi kwabo ingokwemvelo futhi iyiqiniso.
Kungani ubudlelwane babangani nabathandekayo bungabekezelela?
Imibhangqwana eyayingabangane ngaphambi kokuba ihlanganyele ngokocansi ihlala isikhathi eside futhi inobudlelwano obujulile kunababashadikazi abaqala ebudlelwaneni bezocansi. Isizathu salokhu sisobala: ukuze ubudlelwano buhambe isikhathi eside, kufanele buhlanganise isisekelo esihle sobungani nokuhambisana, hhayi nje kuphela ukuthi kusekelwe ekuheheni ngokocansi. Yingakho imibhangqwana egxumela embhedeni lapho ihlangana akuvamile ukuba ihlale — uma inkanuko isiphelile uma singekho isisekelo sokuhambisana lapho, isithukuthezi siqala.
Uma ususa ubungani bakho endaweni yomngani uye endaweni yothando, sikufisela inhlanhla! Impilo imfishane, futhi uthando oluhle, olunempilo kufanelekile ukubeka engcupheni.