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- Izisekelo zokubambisana kwabazali
- Okwenziwayo kokubambisana ngokubambisana
- Okungafanele kwenziwe ngokubambisana njengomzali
Lapho uzithola usuzohlukana noma uhlukanise, ungahle ube nombono onzima wokuthi kuyini ukuba ngumzali ngokubambisana.
Kepha, kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho kufanele ubambisane nengane yakho lapho ubona khona ukuthi kunzima kanjani.
Ukuze ube ngumzali osebenza ngokubambisana, udinga ukuza ngokuthula ngokwenzekile emshadweni wakho, ukuthola izindlela ezintsha zokuxhumana nowawudala, zenzele impilo entsha ngokuphelele, futhi kufanele futhi ulinganise konke lokho nenhlalakahle yezingane zakho.
Ukuphumelela komzali ozobambisana naye kuzoba yinto ebalulekile ekutheni wena nomndeni wakho nivumelane kangakanani noshintsho.
Buka futhi:
Ngakho-ke, ungaba kanjani ngumzali osebenza ngokubambisana nokuthi ungenza kanjani ukubambisana kubazali? Nazi izeluleko eziyisisekelo zokuba ngumzali kanye namathiphu wokukhulisa izingane ngokubambisana ukukusiza ukuthi uthuthukise amakhono akho wokubambisana.
Izisekelo zokubambisana kwabazali
Ukubambisana kubazali lapho bobabili (abahlukanisile noma abahlukanisiwe) abazali bebandakanyeka ekukhuliseni kwengane, yize kungumzali oyedwa onezibopho ezinkulu futhi ochitha isikhathi esiningi nengane.
Ngaphandle kwalapho kunokuhlukunyezwa emndenini noma ezinye izizathu ezibucayi ngakho, kuvame ukunconywa ukuthi bobabili abazali bahlale beyingxenye esebenzayo empilweni yengane.
Ucwaningo lukhombisa, kungcono ukuthi ingane ibe nobudlelwano obuhlangene nabazali bobabili. Ukubambisana njengomzali kwakhiwe kuzungeze umqondo wokunikeza ingane indawo ephephile futhi ezinzile, ngaphandle kwezingxabano nezingcindezi.
Indlela efiseleka kakhulu yesivumelwano sokuba ngumzali ngokubambisana yileso lapho abazali bevumelana khona ngezinhloso zokukhulisa ingane yabo, kanye nezindlela zokuthi zingafinyelelwa kanjani lezi zinhloso.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ubudlelwano phakathi kwabazali buyinto enokuthula nenhlonipho.
Ngakho-ke enye indlela yokuchaza ukubambisana njengomzali ukwazi ukuthi kungaphezu kokuhlanganyela ilungelo lokugcina izingane. Kuyindlela yokubambisana.
Ngemuva kokuchitheka komshado, kujwayelekile ukuthi abantu abebeshade naye bacasukelane futhi bavame ukungatholi into abavumelana ngayo.
Kodwa-ke, njengabazali, kufanele sibeke imithetho ethile yokuba ngumzali ngokubambisana ehlose ukufeza uhlobo olusha lobudlelwano izingane ezibekwa kuzo kuqala.
Inhloso yokuba ngumzali ngokubambisana ukuthi ingane ibe nekhaya nomndeni ophephile, noma ngabe bengahlali ndawonye bonke.
Okwenziwayo kokubambisana ngokubambisana
Kunezindlela ezilungile nezingalungile zokubambisana nengane yakho.
Ngeshwa, njengoba usanda kudlula ngokuhlukana kobuhlobo bakho akukwenzi kube lula ukuba nguzakwethu omuhle kowakwangaphambili.
Imishado eminingi ichitheka ngokulwa, ukungathembeki, ukwephula ukwethembana. Cishe unokuningi onokubhekana nakho. Kepha, okumele kuze kuqala njalo ukuthi ungaba kanjani ngumzali obambisene kahle nengane yakho.
Nazi izinto ezibalulekile zokuba ngumzali ngokubambisana zokuba ngumzali osebenza kangcono:
1. Isimiso esibaluleke kunazo zonke okufanele sikhombise konke okwenzayo lapho wenza uhlelo lokuba ngumzali ukuqinisekisa ukuthi wena nowakwakho nisekhasini elilodwa uma kuziwa kuzo zonke izingqinamba ezinkulu.
Lokho kusho ukuthi nobabili kufanele nikela umzamo wokuthola ukuxhumana okucacile nenenhlonipho. Ukubambisana njengomzali ngaphandle kokuxhumana kuzoholela ekuthembekeni okukhulu phakathi kwakho ne-ex yakho.
Empeleni, ngokwesibonelo, imithetho emindenini yakho kufanele ingaguquguquki, futhi ingane izoba nesimiso esizinzile kungakhathalekile ukuthi isichitha kuphi isikhathi.
2. Okulandelayo okubalulekile okumele ukwenze ekubambisaneni ngokubambisana ukuzibophezela ekukhulumeni nge-ex yakho ngendlela efanele futhi ufune okufanayo ezinganeni zakho. Ukuvumela ukunganaki ukungena ngaphakathi kuzobuyela emuva kuphela.
Ngokufanayo, qaphela ukuthambekela kwengane yakho yokuhlola imingcele, okuzokwenza.
Bazolingeka ukuthi basebenzise lesi simo ukuze bazuze futhi bazame ukuthola okuthile abebengeke bakuthole. Ungalokothi ukuvumele lokho.
Futhi, qiniseka ukuthi uthola izindlela zokuxhumana ne-ex yakho, noma ngabe uzizwa ungakuthandi.
Kubalulekile ukuthi ungavumeli izingane zakho zibe ukuphela komthombo wolwazi maqondana nokuthi kwenzekani ngenkathi zinomunye umzali wazo. Vuselelane njalo futhi uqiniseke ukuthi nixoxa ngazo zonke izingqinamba ezintsha njengoba zivela.
3. Izingane zikhula ngokuvumelana, ngakho-ke dala uhlelo noma isivumelwano sokubambisana ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi wena nowakwakho nilandela imikhuba nemithetho efanayo.
Ukucabanga ngezidingo zengane yakho futhi ungavumeli ubunzima noma izingxabano nowakudala kuthinte inhlalakahle yengane yakho yilokho okungakusiza ekwakheni indawo enempilo yokubambisana njengabazali.
Lwela ukuba ngumzali osekela ngokwengeziwe ukuqinisekisa ukuthi nobabili ninekhono elilinganayo futhi ninomthwalo wemfanelo wokukhulisa ingane yenu.
4. Okokugcina, qinisekisa ukuthi ugcina ubudlelwano obuthobekile, obunesizotha nobunenhlonipho nowawushade naye. Ukuze wenze kanjalo, beka imingcele phakathi kwakho nalowo owawuthandana naye.
Lokhu ngeke kukusize nje ukuthi uqhubeke nempilo yakho kepha futhi kudale indawo enempilo yezingane zakho.
Okungafanele kwenziwe ngokubambisana njengomzali
Ngisho nakwabashade nabo abanobungane kakhulu, kunezinselelo eziningi ekubambisaneni ngokubambisana.
1. Ungalingeka ukuba ube ngumzali ojabule kakhulu nozitika kakhulu laphaya. Ngenzela ukwenza izingane zakho zikuthande ngaphezu kwesidala sakho noma ukumane wenze izimpilo zazo zibe lula futhi zijabule ngangokunokwenzeka, unikezwe ukuthi abazali bazo bavele bahlukane.
Kodwa-ke, ungalenzi leli phutha bese uzibandakanya ekuncintisaneni ngokubambisana. Izingane ziyachuma lapho kunokulinganisela okunempilo kwesimiso, isiyalo, ukuzijabulisa nokufunda.
Umphumela wocwaningo uphakamise ukuthi ukuncintisana ngokubambisana njengomzali kubangela izingane ukuthi zibonise isimilo sangaphandle.
2. Okunye okukhulu okungavumi uma kukhulunywa ngokubambisana njengomzali kuvumela ukukhungatheka kwakho nobuhlungu kuqondise izinkulumo zakho nge-ex yakho. Izingane zakho kufanele zivikeleke njalo ezingxabanweni zakho zomshado.
Kufanele bathole ithuba lokwakha ubudlelwano babo nabazali babo, futhi ukungavumelani kwenu "kwabantu abadala" akufanele kube yingxenye yombono wabo ngomama noma ubaba wabo.
Ukubambisana njengomzali kumayelana nokwakha umoya wenhlonipho nokwethembana.
3. Ungazifaki ezinganeni zakho lapho kuqubuka khona izingxabano zakho nowawushade naye. Musa ukubenza bakhethe izinhlangothi, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ungazisebenzisi njengendlela yokukhohlisa owedlule.
Izingxabano, umehluko, noma izimpikiswano zakho kufanele zisingathwe ngendlela eyakhayo noma zigcinwe zikude nezingane zakho ngokuphelele.
Ubuncane bakho buyalimaza, futhi intukuthelo akufanele inqume lokho ingane yakho ekubona njengokujwayelekile ebudlelwaneni obuseduze.