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- Akulungile neze ukulahla owakwakho
- Ukuqonda inkinga yangempela
- Ukushintsha ukuziphatha okungafuneki ndawonye
Ngithola lo mbuzo ngaso sonke isikhathi - sengimxolele kaninginingi, nangezinto ezifanayo, futhi angisakwazi ukuwuthatha. Kufika nini ukubiza ukuthi ayeke bese ufaka nje isehlukaniso noma ukuyibiza nini eyeka emshadweni wakho?
Impendulo emfushane ayikaze. Akukaze kulungile ukubiza ukuyeka kumlingani wakho noma okunye okubalulekile njengoba kungalungile ukubiza ukuyeka ingane noma ingane.
Ngakho-ke uma ulwa nombono wokuthi ubushiya nini ubudlelwano? isikhathi sini sokushiya ubudlelwano? noma yisiphi isikhathi esifanele sokuyibiza ngokuthi iyaphela ebudlelwaneni? Ake sikusize ucubungule imicabango enjalo nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nezimpawu zokungahloniphi emshadweni.
Akulungile neze ukulahla owakwakho
Lapho izingane zethu zimoshile, ingabe sizinika ithuba elilodwa kuphela lokuthi ziziphathe kahle futhi zingaphinde zenze okubi noma sizokunikela ngazo ukuze zitholwe? Cha, akunjalo! Ngabe sinikeza izingane zethu ezinoboya kuphela isibhamu esisodwa ekungangeni imigodi ngemuva kwendlu ngaphambi kokuzisusa?
Cha, akunjalo! Kungani-ke thina, njengomphakathi, sicabanga ukuthi kulungile ukulahla umuntu esimkhethile, nakwabanye, uNkulunkulu akhethe ukusebenzisana nathi, singashayi ngisho nesikhonkwane?
Ngabe yilesi sikhathi sokwanelisa esikhona manje esiqhubekisela phambili umuzwa wokuthi uma ngingathandi okuthile empilweni yami, enginakho ukukwenza nje ukukuqeda bese ngithola okusha?
Noma kungenxa yohlelo oluthile ngaphakathi kwethu olusitshela ukuthi lo muntu ulimele futhi uma ngihlala nabo, nami ngilimele? Noma mhlawumbe kuyinkolelo yokuthi abasoze bashintsha ngakho-ke kufanele sishiye ukuzisindisa thina noma izingane zethu?
Iqiniso lendaba sivame ukubona kwabanye, ikakhulukazi labo abasondelene nathi, lezo zimfanelo nezimfanelo esingazithandi kithi.
Angisho ukuthi umlingani noma umlingani womkhohlisi naye ungumkhohlisi, kepha icala elijwayelekile ukuthi lowo okhohliswayo ufuna ukushiya lobo budlelwano ngoba ebona ukuthi umlingani wakhe ulimele futhi bacabanga ukuthi ngeke uhlobo lomuntu abafuna ngempela ukuba naye, ngakho-ke kufanele bahambe.
Babona kumlingani wabo lokho abakubona ngempela kubo, bavele bakhethe ukukufihla noma bakunake noma bakuphike bese besola umlingani wabo osondelene naye.
Ngakho-ke uma uzizwa sengathi kunjalo isikhathi sokuyibiza ngokuyeka emshadweni bese uzihlolisisa bese ubona ukuthi yini lena ekwenza ungabaze ukuqina kwesibopho sakho somshado.
Ukuqonda inkinga yangempela
"Ngangithandana, manje usefuna isehlukaniso." Bacabanga ukuthi lolu daba luyisibonakaliso sokuthi uzolubiza nini ukuthi luyaphela emshadweni wakho kanti empeleni akunjalo.
Ngisebenze nemibhangqwana eminingi ebhekene nokungathembeki kanye nawo wonke amanga nokukhohlisa okuhambisana nalokho, futhi ngingasho ngokungangabazi ukuthi lapho kudingidwa udaba oluyimbangela, ukungathembeki kuyama, ukuqamba amanga kuyama; uthando luyabuya futhi ngemuva komsebenzi othile, ukuthembana kubuyile futhi.
Wake waphula ithambo? Isayensi yezokwelapha isibonisa ukuthi inqubo yokwelapha ikhefu kulelo thambo empeleni ibangela ukuthi indawo yekhefu ibe namandla nakakhulu! Kuyafana nangobuhlobo obuseduze. Ingabe kulula? Cha. Kodwa ingabe kuwufanele? NGOKUPHELELE!
Enye yezinto zokuqala esisebenza kuzo lapho umbhangqwana uza kimi nezinkinga zokwethembana ukubona ukuthi umsuka wenkinga uvelaphi - sithathe siphi isinqumo esikhathini esithile esidlule, futhi singasiguqula kanjani isinqumo sibe ngcono ukubakhonza?
Lapho siqeda izivivinyo ezisetshenziselwe ukunqoba lolu daba, abashadikazi bangaqala ukubuyela endimeni yabo yangempela ebudlelwaneni futhi bagxile ekuhlangabezaneni nezidingo zomunye nomunye ngezindlela ezinhle nezijabulisayo esikhundleni sezindlela ezilimazayo nezilimazayo.
Ngaphambi kokujaha ukuthola ukuthi wazi kanjani ubushiye nini ubudlelwano noma ukuyibiza ngokuthi iyaphela yini emshadweni, kufanele uthole inkinga, bese uthola ukuthi ungayisingatha kanjani leyo nkinga.
Ukushintsha ukuziphatha okungafuneki ndawonye
Njengoba abazali besebenza nezingane ukushintsha indlela yokuziphatha engadingeki, thina njengabalingani kufanele sisebenzisane ukushintsha indlela yokuziphatha engadingeki ngokwakha ezinye zazo zokuziphatha ezifunwayo. Uma oshade naye ekopela, cishe njalo ngoba akazizwa ebalulekile komunye umlingani.
Lokhu kungaba ngenxa yezizathu eziningi ezifana nabasekhweni nokuxhumana komndeni, izingane ezincane, umsebenzi othile, abangane, enye intshisekelo yangaphandle noma ukuzilibazisa, noma ezinye izizathu eziningi.
Lapho uthola okwangempela kuwe futhi ubona ukuthi impande yenkinga ilele kuwe, manje usuhlome ngolwazi namandla okuguqula izinto futhi ubuyele endaweni engcono kakhulu kunakuqala (khumbula ithambo eliphukile).
Ukusola omunye umuntu ngesimo sakho, noma ngabe kungumlingani wakho osondelene naye, kufana nokuphuza ushevu futhi ulindele ukuthi lowo muntu afe.
Akuwaniki amandla ngokuphelele futhi kungaholela kuphela ekukhungathekeni, enkulumweni, nasekuxhumekeni ngoba unika omunye umuntu amandla wokunquma injabulo yakho, futhi lokho ngeke kuze kusebenze.
Kufanele ube nengxenye yakho ebudlelwaneni, ezindabeni, nasekulungiseni, futhi lapho umlingani ngamunye enza lokhu, khona-ke ukuphulukiswa kwangempela kuyaqala!
Uma oyedwa noma bobabili babalingani benqaba ukuthatha umthwalo ngezingxenye zabo kulolu daba, khona-ke bangadivosa, kepha abasoze baba sebudlelwaneni obujabule ngempela, obuzinikele ngoba abasebenzanga nendaba yangempela ... BABONA!
Bazophinda izindlela ezifanayo zokuziphatha, bahehe izingqinamba ezifanayo, futhi babe sesimweni esifanayo, nabalingani abahlukene. Khumbula ukuthi ukwazi ukulungisa ubudlelwano kubaluleke kakhulu kunokwazi ukuthi kufanele ushiye nini noma ukuyibiza nini eyeka emshadweni.
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