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- Kwezomthetho emehlweni omthetho yonke indawo kufaka phakathi amazwe alandelanayo
- Ukwabelana ngamalungelo afanayo namalungelo njengezinye izakhamuzi ezishadile
- E-flipside, kukhona intaba yamaphepha kanye ne-red tape
- Inguquko enkulu yendlela yokwamukela imishado yabantu bobulili obufanayo
Amazwe angaphezu kwamashumi amabili emhlabeni wonke abhalise ngokusemthethweni umshado wabantu bobulili obufanayo, futhi elinye iqembu "liyavuma" ukushada kwabantu bobulili obufanayo. Kepha uyini umshado wabantu bobulili obufanayo ncamashi, futhi "ukuqonda" kusho ukuthini? Le ndawo enempikiswano ibisematheni muva nje, ngakho-ke ake sibheke ukuthi lokhu kusho ukuthini konke lokhu. Sihlanganise ithimba labantu abajwayele ukushada kwabantu bobulili obufanayo ukusiza ukucacisa kancane ngomlando nangesimo samanje sale ndawo yomshado omusha ukuze nazi konke mayelana nokuthi uyini umshado wabantu bobulili obufanayo.
Okokuqala, umshado wobulili obufanayo yilokho okuzwakala sengathi: umshado osemthethweni phakathi kwabantu ababili bobulili obufanayo. INkantolo Ephakeme yase-United States yanquma ngo-2015 ukuthi ukushada kwabantu bobulili obufanayo kwakuyilungelo lomthethosisekelo, ngakho-ke kusemthethweni kuzo zonke izifundazwe ezingamashumi amahlanu. Ngaphambi kuka-2015, ezinye izizwe zazikubhalise ngokomthetho, kepha kwathi lapho iNkantolo Ephakeme yenza isinqumo sayo esingumlando, yaba ngumthetho wezwe.
Isazi sezomthetho esaziwayo, u-Eric Brown, wasikhumbula ngentshiseko leso sinqumo, “Angisoze ngalukhohlwa lolo suku lwango-Okthoba. Bekuyisinqumo esingokomlando futhi esibaluleke njenganoma yisiphi isinqumo sangaphambilini samaLungelo Omphakathi yiNkantolo Yomphakathi. Ngokwenza ilungelo, imibhangqwana eshadile yobulili obufanayo yayinamalungelo afanayo neminye imibhangqwana eshadile. Manje sebengafanelekela ukuthola izinzuzo zomlingani emsebenzini, ukuphepha kwezenhlalakahle, umshuwalense, nalapho befaka intela yemali engenayo. Ngokomthetho, imibhangqwana yobulili obufanayo ingaba "yisihlobo esiseduze" uma kuziwa ekugcwaliseni amafomu asemthethweni nokwenza izinqumo zokwelashwa. Isimo sonke sashintsha ngesinqumo esibaluleke kakhulu seNkantolo Ephakeme. ”
Kwezomthetho emehlweni omthetho yonke indawo kufaka phakathi amazwe alandelanayo
UPeter Granston, umbhali wezincwadi oseminyakeni yama-40 ubudala, ubesehlale nomlingani wakhe, uRichard Livingston, udokotela ohlinzayo wamaphaphu, iminyaka engaphezu kweyishumi. UPeter utshele i-marriage.com, “Ngikhale. Ngempela ngakhala lapho ngizwa isinqumo seNkantolo Ephakeme. Mina noRichard sasihambile saze sashada ngo-2014 eMassachusetts, kodwa umshado wethu wawungamukelwa ekhaya. Ngokuphazima kweso sasisemthethweni emehlweni omthetho yonke indawo kubandakanya nezwe lethu elalisadla ngoludala. Ngiqale ngokushesha ukuhlela umcimbi omkhulu osemthethweni womshado ekilabhini yendawo.
Ngaleyo ndlela wonke umuntu – osebenza naye emsebenzini, abangane bendawo impilo yakhe yonke, umndeni, wonke umuntu ubengahle eze ephathini enhle kakhulu. ” Uqhubeke ngomdlandla, “Futhi bekuwusuku luni. Sisebenzise imali encane ngoba lokhu kwaba kanye emcimbini wokuphila konke. Besifuna ukuthi wonke umuntu obe yingxenye yempilo yethu agubhe umshado wethu osemthethweni nathi. Sikhiphe konke ukuma: umthombo we-champagne, i-caviar ne-blinis, ibhendi ebukhoma. Sasina laze laphuma ilanga. ”
Ukwabelana ngamalungelo afanayo namalungelo njengezinye izakhamuzi ezishadile
UGloria Hunter, oneminyaka engama-32 ubudala, ungumbhali onekhono ohlaza okwesibhakabhaka onekhono osebenza njengomshayeli wendiza enkulu. “Angikaze ngiwucabangele nakancane umshado, ngoba imfundo nokuqeqeshwa kwami kugcizelela ukucabanga okuhle nokuhlaziya. Ngangazi ukuthi umshado wawungeke ube yinto engenzeka, ngakho-ke ngangikuthatha njengenye yezinto ezingenakwenzeka empilweni, njengento engajatshulelwa abanye, kepha hhayi mina selokhu umlingani wami weminyaka eyisishiyagalombili, uMichelle, engowesifazane. Akukaze kusikhathaze ngempela kuze kube yilapho ngilimala engozini yokuntweza phezu kwamagagasi, ngalaliswa esibhedlela, futhi uMichelle wayengavunyelwe ukungibona ngoba imithetho yesibhedlela yayinqabela noma imuphi amalungu omndeni ukuba avakashele. Ukhulume ngenkani, “UMichelle uthukuthele. Ngangingenamalungu omndeni ngaphakathi kwamamayela ayizinkulungwane ezimbili, futhi uthando lwempilo yami lwalungakwazi nokuvakashela?
Ngenhlanhla, ngadedelwa ezinsukwini ezimbalwa, kepha ngenkathi ngilele kulowo mbhede wasesibhedlela, ngabona ukuthi kwesinye isimo singashada, futhi angisoze ngiphinde ngibhekane nalolu hlobo lokubandlululwa esibhedlela. Emamatheka kakhulu, uGloria uqhubeke wathi, “Sibheke ezindaweni ezahlukahlukene zemishado ezifundazweni lapho umshado wabantu bobulili obufanayo uvumelekile khona, kodwa ngasizathu simbe, asikaze sivumelane.
Ngesikhathi sizama ukuthola indawo, kwenziwa isinqumo seNkantolo Ephakeme. Ake ngikutshele ngomshado wethu: sashadela olwandle nabangane nemindeni yethu abayi-150 ababekhona, futhi sachitha isikhathi sethu sangemva komshado sihamba phezu kwezilwandle ezintathu ezihlukene. Yize lokho kwakukuhle, okungcono kakhulu kimi, nakuzo zonke izakhamizi, ukuthi manje sabelana ngamalungelo afanayo enjabulweni yomshado namalungelo afana nokuvakashelwa esibhedlela, njengazo zonke izakhamuzi ezishadile. Lokho wukulingana kwangempela. ”
E-flipside, kukhona intaba yamaphepha kanye ne-red tape
Umshado wobulili obufanayo, akulona ilungelo lomhlaba wonke, kepha kwenzekani lapho omunye umlingani eyisakhamuzi sase-United States kanti omunye engeyena? Esikhathini esedlule, bekungekho ukuthi kube khona umshado wobulili obufanayo, kepha manje kungenziwa. Vele kukhona intaba yamaphepha kanye nered tape. UBruce Hoffmeister, 36, uhlangane nomlingani wakhe wesikhathi eside, uLuis Ecargon, 50, esikoleni sokufunda iSpanishi eCuernavaca, eMexico. UBruce wahleka lapho elandisa kahle ukuthi bahlangana kanjani. “Ngicelwe nguthisha wami ukuthi ngiye ehhovisi ngihlele ukuthi ngibekwe esigabeni esiphansi ngoba angikwazi ukuqonda igama elishiwoyo. ULuis wayengumphathi ophethe futhi lapho engizwa ngizama ukukhuluma ngeSpanishi, wangibeka ezingeni eliphansi kakhulu. Ngichithe izinyanga ezintathu ngizama ukufunda, futhi ekugcineni, ngangingasenankinga. ULuis ubesemcimbini wokuqedela, weza ukuzongihalalisela futhi wathi uzoba seLos Angeles ngenyanga elandelayo. Ngamcela ukuthi angishayele ucingo lapho ezoba se-LA, futhi okunye kungumlando.
Sobabili sahamba iminyaka phakathi kwamazwe ngenxa yemikhawulo yama-visa. ” U-Luis wanezela, “amakhilomitha amaningi esivama ukuwahambisa phakathi nalesi sikhathi akhokhelwa i-honeymoon emhlabeni wonke! Manje, amaphepha ami afakwe kwa-Immigration futhi sengingasebenza ngokusemthethweni lapha. ” Isakhamuzi sase-U.S. Singafaka isicelo semvume yokuhlala (okubizwa nge- “green card” kowakwakhe angaphandle manje. Lokhu kuchaza inqubo namafomu.
Inguquko enkulu yendlela yokwamukela imishado yabantu bobulili obufanayo
Ukushada kwabantu bobulili obufanayo kusenempikiswano kweminye imibuthano. Kodwa-ke, cishe izingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu zabantu baseMelika abaphikisani nakho. Impilo, inkululeko kanye nokufuna injabulo ngamagama atholakala eSimemezelweni Sokuzimela, umshado wabo bonke abantu baseMelika ngaphandle kokuthambekela kwezocansi manje selilungelo lomphakathi eliyisisekelo.