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- 1. Ukusebenzisa izingane zakho ukukulimaza
- 2. Ukwandisa inqubo yedivosi ngamabomu
- 3. Ukuthola incwadi evimbelayo
- 4. Usazama ukulawula impilo yakho yangasese
- 5. Ukulinganisela ukufinyelela kwempahla
Ongakulindela Esehlukanisweni Esivela Kumlingani Othukuthele- Imiphumela Engaba mihlanu Engaba khona
5 Izinto Ezishaqisayo Ongazilindela Esehlukanisweni Esivela Kumuntu Othukuthele
Ukuthola usizo nokuholwa ummeli wesahlukaniso yilokho okudingayo ngezikhathi ezinzima kakhulu zesehlukaniso, esinye sezigaba zokuphila eziyinselele kakhulu umuntu angahlangabezana nazo.
Kepha, yini ongayilindela esehlukanisweni, ikakhulukazi uma omunye oshade naye ekucasukele?
Inqubo yesehlukaniso inzima futhi inzima, ikakhulukazi uma kufanele ubhekane nomlingani othukuthele okulungele ukwenza konke ukwenza impilo yakho ibe lusizi. Futhi kulokho, kungadingeka futhi ubhekane nokungacabangi koshade naye.
Kepha ngezikhathi lapho bezama ukukubeka phansi futhi benze ukuthi isehlukaniso sibe namandla, kulapho kufanele ubheke izimpendulo zakho emizweni.
Gcina umoya wakho upholile futhi uhlale uzolile. Lokho kusho, funda ukuthi ungaphendula kanjani ngokunengqondo ekuziphatheni okungalungile komlingani wakho ukuze ugcine izindleko zesehlukaniso ziphansi futhi nenqubo yaso incane kakhulu (yakho nezingane zakho).
Ngakho-ke, ungahle uzibuze, ukuthi yini ongayilindela lapho uthola isehlukaniso?
Nazi izeluleko ngokuthi yini ongayilindela esehlukanisweni, ukuze uhlale ukulungele ukubhekana nokubi kakhulu futhi uhlale uzolile kuyo yonke inqubo.
1. Ukusebenzisa izingane zakho ukukulimaza
Ngakho-ke, yini ongayilindela esahlukweni njengento yokuqala?
Umlingani othukuthele angasebenzisa izingane zakho ukukuzwisa ubuhlungu noma ukubuyela kuwe. Banganyathela ezinhliziyweni zezingane zakho ukukunika isikhathi esinzima nokuphazamiseka.
Kepha akukho okuningi ongakwenza ngakho ngaphandle kokuba nezingane zakho ezibhekene nobuhlungu besahlukaniso njengoba unjalo.
2. Ukwandisa inqubo yedivosi ngamabomu
Le ngenye yezindlela ezivame kakhulu zokubambezeleka kwesahlukaniso ukuwina ezisetshenziswa abashade abathukuthele. Bazama ngamabomu ukwelula yonke inqubo.
Kepha ukuze uzivikele koshade naye uzama konke okusemandleni abo ukukuvimba nokusebenzisa izinkantolo ukukuhlukumeza, thola usizo kummeli onolwazi ngesehlukaniso ongakuvikela.
Isibonelo, ummeli wakho angacela imibhalo ebalulekile esho kokubili imali engenayo nempahla, kepha oshade naye uzozama ukuyeka ngokungalethi leyo mibhalo.
Bangathumela futhi nommeli wakho izicelo eziningi zokugcina amaphepha eza ezokuqeda amandla. Akugcini lapho, noma kunjalo.
Leli qhinga elibambezelayo lingaqhubeka lize lifike ezingeni lokuthi benqabe ukusayina amaphepha esahlukaniso. Kepha iqiniso ukuthi awudingi isiginesha ye-ex yakho kulabo.
3. Ukuthola incwadi evimbelayo
Qaphela umyalo ovimbela wena ngokungazibandakanyi kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lwengxabano nge-imeyili, ngocingo - noma mathupha.
Lesi ngesinye sezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu okufanele uzikhumbule lapho ucabanga ngalokho ongakulindela esahlukanisweni.
Ngakho-ke, uma usolwa ngamanga ngodlame lwasekhaya noma ukuhlukunyezwa, ungalokothi wenze isimo sibe sibi kakhulu. Lawula imizwa yakho futhi ungalokothi uhlanganyele ezingxabanweni.
Ukuthola incwadi evimbelayo kuyicebo labanye besifazane ngokumelene nabalingani babo ukuze basuse laba besifazane emindenini yabo yomshado noma ukuthola ilungelo elilodwa lomthetho lezingane zabo.
Abesifazane abagcini nje ngokuthola incwadi evimbelayo. Amanye amadoda nawo athola eyodwa ngokumelene nabalingani bawo
ngenhloso yokubethusa ukuthi benze abakuthandayo.
4. Usazama ukulawula impilo yakho yangasese
Ukuhlola nokulandela yonke into oyenzayo, i-ex ethukuthele ayikwazi ukukuthola ngokwanele. Ngakho-ke, ngenkathi unwaya ikhanda lakho kokumele ukulindele esehlukanisweni, yazi ngalesi sici.
Ungabavumeli balawule impilo yakho noma ngabe bezama ukwenza konke ukukuthinta futhi bazi konke okwenzayo - kufaka phakathi lapho uya khona eholidini nokuthi uthandana nobani nakho konke okunye okuphathelene nawe.
Ngisho nangemva kwesahlukaniso, owakwakho owayethukuthele engase abe nomuzwa wokuthi uyifa labo ngenxa yokuthi wake washada.
Kwesinye isikhathi, laba bantu bangaphinde bashade kodwa bese begxambukela nempilo yakho uma sebethole umoya wokuthi uphinde ushade. Yebo, abakwazi ukuqhubekela phambili futhi mhlawumbe bahlulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yini isehlukaniso.
5. Ukulinganisela ukufinyelela kwempahla
Ukuvikela ukukhiyelwa ngaphandle kwempahla yomshado, kufanele uqinisekise ukuthi igama lakho likuma-akhawunti ekhadi lesikweletu nakuma-akhawunti asebhange okulindeleke ukuthi ukhiphe kuwo imali noma izimali.
Manje, uma ukholwa ukuthi oshade naye uzozama ukukhipha ama-akhawunti asebhange, kufanele uvule eyodwa ngaphansi kwegama lakho bese udlulisa imali oyidingayo ukuze uphile futhi uphile ngesikhathi senqubo yesehlukaniso.
Ngaphandle kwalokho, oshade naye angasebenzisa ikhono lakhe ukukhawulela ukufinyelela kwakho kumafa ukukujezisa, ikakhulukazi uma ungumama ohlala ekhaya oncike kwiholo noma emholweni wabo.
Isiphetho
Ngakho-ke, nazi izeluleko ezinhlanu zalokho ongakulindela esahlukanisweni esivela kumlingani othukuthele.
Kepha kuzo zonke izimo, ungavumeli imizwa emibi noma wenze noma yini ezokwenza izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu. Ngaphandle kwalokho, kuzongcolisa igama lakho impilo yakho yonke.
Ngenkathi ungeke ukwazi ukulungisa i-ex engenangqondo futhi ubenze babe nengqondo (futhi bavuthwe ngokwanele) ukuze babhekane nenqubo yedivosi eyinkimbinkimbi, ungalawula izimpendulo zakho.
Manje njengoba wazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela esahlukanisweni, vele uzigcine upholile, uzinze ngokomzwelo, gxila ezinganeni zakho, futhi uzithande noma ngabe wenzani umlingani wakho othukuthele.
Futhi, ungenzi izinto zibe nzima kakhulu. Ungalokothi uhlanganyele ezingxabanweni mathupha, ngocingo, noma nge-imeyili. Khumbula, oshade naye othukuthele uzokwenza konke ukubopha futhi akubeke phansi kakhulu.
Ungenzi lutho ozozenyeza ngalo ngolunye usuku. Awudingi ukwenza ingxenye abayidlalayo, noma kunjalo. Uma usushilo lokho, akufanele uvumele umuntu othukuthele akusebenzise, akusabise noma akulawule (nempilo yakho).
Buka futhi: Izizathu Eziningi Ezivamile Zesehlukaniso
Ufanelwe ukujabula futhi uphile impilo, njengoba ufuna. Kakade, kukhona “uthingo lwangemva kwemvula.” Cliché njengoba kuzwakala, kepha isehlukaniso singesinye sezahluko zempilo yakho, hhayi impilo yakho yonke.
Ngemuva kwesahlukaniso, ungaqhubeka futhi ugubhe nsuku zonke - uwedwa noma nomlingani omusha. Vele uvule amathuba futhi uvumele impilo ithathe indawo yayo ngemuva kwesahlukaniso.
Okokugcina, funa usizo lommeli onolwazi ngesehlukaniso owaziyo ukungena nokuphuma kwenqubo, futhi lokho kungakuvikela kumuntu wakho wakudala owenza konke okusemandleni abo ukwelula / ukubambezela inqubo.