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- Ukuba nenkululeko ephelele
- Ukuba nokholo komunye nomunye
- Ukuthanda nokuthandwa
- Ukufunda ukwabelana
- Ukuba khona komunye nomunye
- Ukuba ngokwakho ngaphandle kwezahlulelo
- Ukuba umuntu
- Ukuba yiqembu
- Ukuba abangane nokuzijabulisa ndawonye
Kuyimvelo yomuntu ukuthanda nokuzizwa uthandwa. Abantu ngabantu abaphendukile, abakuthola kunzima ukuhlala bodwa futhi bajabule futhi esikhundleni salokho bakuthathe njengesidingo esiyisisekelo sempilo ukuthola umuntu abangaba nobudlelwano naye, bachithe izimpilo zabo ngokujabula.
Umuntu angabuza, buyini ubudlelwano?
Ubudlelwano buchazwa njenganoma yibaphi abantu ababili abavumelene ukuthi bazokhetha okungabodwa kuphela futhi babamukele bonke, amandla abo namaphutha abo ngokuphelele.
Yize abaningi befuna ukuzibophezela ngenhloso yokuba nothandekayo eceleni kwabo ngaso sonke isikhathi, umuntu abangabelana naye injabulo yabo nosizi lwabo futhi bachithe impilo yabo yonke naye kepha kwesinye isikhathi, abantu bavame ukubambeka empilweni bakhohlwe incazelo yangempela ukuba sebudlelwaneni.
Akukona nje kuphela ukuthi umuntu udinga izici ezinjengokwethembeka, ukwethembeka nokushiseka kumlingani wabo, kuningi kakhulu kunalokho esikulindele sonke ebudlelwaneni obuqinile, obunempilo.
Okubalwe ngezansi kunezici ezibhekwa njengezibalulekile kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo bangempela, obukhulayo
Ukuba nenkululeko ephelele
Ozakwethu ebudlelwaneni kudingeka bakhululeke futhi bangaboshwa omunye nganoma yisiphi isizathu.
Kufanele bakwazi ukuzikhulumela, baveze imicabango nemibono yabo, bakhululeke ukulandela izinhliziyo zabo kanye nezinkanuko zabo nokwenza izinqumo abakholelwa ukuthi zibalungele.
Ukuba nokholo komunye nomunye
Noma yimuphi umbhangqwana ongenakho ukwethenjwa kuyaqabukela ukwazi ukuhlala isikhathi eside. Kubalulekile ukuthi noma yibaphi abalingani bobudlelwano babe nokholo oluphelele kokunye kwabo okubalulekile.
Kufanele bakholwe omunye nomunye futhi bathembe ukukhetha kwabo esikhundleni sokuphikelela njalo noma isimo sokungabaza.
Ukuthanda nokuthandwa
Ukuba sebudlelwaneni kufana nokuba sothandweni.
Ukhetha ukuba nalowo muntu ngoba uyamthanda futhi uyamamukela njengoba enjalo.
Abashadile abasebudlelwaneni kufanele bathandane ngolwazi lwabo, izimfanelo zabo futhi bathole ugqozi abaludingayo ukuze balushintshe lube izinhlobo ezingcono ngokwabo.
Ukufunda ukwabelana
Kusuka emizweni kuye kwezezimali, imizwa kumagama, ngisho nemicabango nezenzo; umbhangqwana ohlanganyela ingxenye ngayinye yempilo yawo komunye nomunye kuthiwa unobudlelwano beqiniso, obunempilo.
Ukuvumela omunye nomunye ukuthi abelane ngengxenye yempilo yakho kubaluleke kakhulu njengoba kunivumela nobabili ukuthi nisebenzise isikhathi sekhwalithi, ukuxhuma futhi ekugcineni niqinise ubudlelwano benu.
Ukuba khona komunye nomunye
Buyini ubudlelwano obungenaye umlingani oxhasanayo ngaso sonke isikhathi?
Ukuqonda nokweseka othandekayo wakho ezikhathini ezinzima yikho okwenza ubudlelwano buqine ngoba kulapho kuphela ukhombisa khona ngempela ukuthi ubathanda kangakanani futhi ubanakekela kanjani futhi lapho isikhathi sifika, nabo bazokwenzela okufanayo.
Ukuba ngokwakho ngaphandle kwezahlulelo
Ubudlelwano budinga ukuthi ngamunye wabalingani abonakale obala ngokuphelele komunye nomunye. Kufanele babe yibo uqobo futhi akufanele bazenze omunye umuntu ukuze nje bahehe umlingani wakho.
Ngokufanayo, bobabili kufanele bazamukele bona futhi bangazami ukubaguqula babe into abangeyona.
Ukuba umuntu
Yize imibhangqwana ithanda ukuchitha isikhathi nomunye futhi ivame ukukhetha omunye imikhuba, okuthandayo nokungathandwa, kubalulekile ukuthi ngaphandle kwalokhu uzihlalele.
Uvunyelwe ukuba nemibono nemibono yakho kanye nombono wakho ngempilo kungakhathalekile ukuthi umlingani wakho ucabangani noma uzizwa kanjani. Imvamisa, yilo mehluko ohlanganisa izithandani ezimbili ngesibopho esisondelene.
Ukuba yiqembu
Ukubambisana kubalulekile ebudlelwaneni obunempilo, besikhathi eside. Bobabili ophathina kufanele baqonde futhi babe ngazinye izinhlangothi. Kufanele futhi bacabangele omunye nomunye futhi bacele iseluleko noma isiphakamiso ngaphambi kokwenza noma yisiphi isinqumo, esikhulu noma esincane, empilweni yabo ikakhulukazi uma leso sinqumo sithinta ubuhlobo babo. Bobabili abalingani kudingeka basebenze ndawonye ukuqondisa ubudlelwano babo empumelelweni.
Ukuba abangane nokuzijabulisa ndawonye
Ubungane buyinto ebalulekile kunoma ibuphi ubungani.
Abantu ababili abangebona abangane imvamisa abakwazi ukuhlala isikhathi eside. Ukuba ngabangane kusho ukuthi niyakujabulela ukuba ndawonye. Nobabili niyakwazi ukuhlekisa, niqondane, futhi nikujabulele ukuchitha isikhathi nomunye.
Imibhangqwana enobungane nayo ivame ukuzibandakanya emisebenzini ndawonye futhi igcine iba nobumnandi obukhulu.
Kubalulekile ukuthi noma yibaphi abantu ababili ebudlelwaneni babone futhi baqonde incazelo yangempela yobudlelwano babo. Ukuhlala nje ndawonye akuyona into eyenza ubuhlobo benu buqine kepha esikhundleni salokho, kufanele nikwazi ukuzizwa niphindisele konke lokhu okungenhla ukuze nibe nobudlelwano obujabulisayo nobenelisekile.