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- Kuyini i-narcissism?
- I-narcissist nabanye nangaphakathi
- Kwenzekani uma ukhubekisa umuntu osebenzisa izinto zobuciko
- Ukuziphindiselela kwe-narcissist nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze ngakho
Uma uthuka noma ngayiphi indlela (evame ukucatshangwa) ukhubekisa umuntu osebenzisa izinto ezingekho emthethweni, ungafunda ukuthi abasileli kumaqhinga okuziphindiselela. Kungaba yisimo sesihogo.
Noma ngabe uhlukanisa nomuntu othanda ukukhwabanisa, noma usashade nomunye, uyazi ukuthi sikhuluma ngani. Ngeshwa, ukubhekana nomuntu othanda izidakamizwa, noma ngabe umuntu uyi-narcissist ye-pathological noma ukhombisa kuphela lezo zimfanelo zobuntu, nakanjani kuzokuletha ubuhlungu obukhulu nosizi.
Futhi okwenza izinto zibe zimbi ngokwengeziwe, ukusuka kumuntu obulala izihibe akuyona into ebuhlungu kangako.
Kuyini i-narcissism?
Ukungezwani kobuntu be-narcissistic kuyingxenye yomkhuba osemthethweni wezifo zengqondo nowengqondo.
Ngakho-ke, akuyona nje into ongayisho ukuchaza umuntu ozibambe ngokweqile. Kuyinkinga yangempela ochwepheshe abazama ukubhekana nayo. Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic kuza nokungabi nozwelo kwabanye, ukugxila ezintweni ozithandayo, kanye nenkolelo yokuthi konke ngandlela thile kuhlobene nalo muntu.
Akugcini nje ngokulandisa - kufanele kubathokozise.
Ekwelashweni, umuntu osebenzisa izihlukumezi ufundiswa ukubuka umhlaba nabanye njengoba enjalo - hhayi lapho ukuze asize abantu abathanda izinto zobuciko. Noma kunjalo, uma kukhulunywa ngesimo se-pathological sangempela se-constellation enjalo yezici zobuntu, abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi izindlela zedokotela wezidakamizwa zingalungiswa nje.
Umnyombo we-narcissistic uthathwa ngabathi awunakulapheka.
I-narcissist nabanye nangaphakathi
Ngokusebenza kokubukwa komhlaba okunjalo kwe-pathological, ama-narcissists anzima kakhulu kulabo ababazungezile. Bafuna, imvamisa ngokusobala, ukuthi wonke umuntu adlale ngemithetho yakhe. Lokhu kungaphenduka kube yisimo esingenangqondo ngokuphelele lapho abashade nabo bephucwa khona ubuntu babo.
Futhi namanje akwanele.
I-narcissism, yize ingabonakali kanjalo, empeleni ivela ekungazethembi okukhulu.
Umuntu onjalo angacasula imvelo yakhe futhi imvamisa uyabacasula. Baphuma bezikhukhumeza, befuna ngenkani, bethandana-nabo, futhi bonke abanye abantu bawela emuva kakhulu kubo. Kodwa, okuphambene kuyiqiniso. Leli qiniso livame ukufihlwa kubo futhi.
Kwenzekani uma ukhubekisa umuntu osebenzisa izinto zobuciko
Futhi masibhekane nakho, kuyinto elula kunazo zonke emhlabeni.
Okungaphezulu noma okuncane, noma yini oyenzayo, uzokwazi ukuphatha ngokungahlosile ukwenza okuthile okuzothukuthelisa umlingisi wezinto ezimbi. Izwe labo lakhiwe ngokuzungeza kwabo, ngakho-ke yonke into inamandla okubathuka. Manje, ngokuya ngentando yabo enhle, ungahle uhambe ngesimo esingesihle neze.
Noma, ungathola ukuthukuthela okugcwele kwe-narcissist. Lokhu kuyinto ejwayelekile kakhulu kubo bonke labo abashade nomuntu onjalo.
Ngeshwa, impilo yomlingani we-narcissist nakanjani izodabukisa. Ukukulawula (futhi kufanele benze kanjalo ngenxa yokungavikeleki kwabo), oshade naye uzoza nezindlela ezingenakwenzeka zokukwenza uzizwe ungafaneleki, uchithe amandla akho nokulangazelela impilo, futhi uchithe amandla akho okubona ukukhanya ekugcineni umhubhe.
Futhi lolu wusuku lwakho olujwayelekile nje. Manje, kwenzekani uma unesibindi sokwenza okuthile okuzobathukuthelisa ngempela? Thanda ukuthola isehlukaniso noma uthole umuntu ongakuphathi njengenhlabathi. Noma, empeleni, wenqabe i-narcissist nganoma iyiphi indlela.
Yilapho-ke isimo semvelo se-narcissist siqala ukudlala.
Ukuziphindiselela kwe-narcissist nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze ngakho
Nama-arcissists, ngokuvamile, awabhekani kahle nanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokwehluleka nokwaliwa.
Noma kunjalo, lapho bezwa ukwenqatshwa ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantu, izinto ziba zimbi kakhulu. Abathandi ukukhulekelwa, futhi abakwazi ukuhlala nokwaliwa.
Uma wenqatshwa, njengalapho ucela isehlukaniso noma uthandana nomunye umuntu, i-narcissistic yakho ezoba ngumlingani maduze izokwethusa futhi ibe nokwesaba. AbakwaNarcissist, lapho bezizwa bengafunwa, ababalekele ukulimaza abantu abangenacala, njengezingane zakho.
Futhi cabanga ukuthi bangaziphindiselela kanjani ngomuntu abambona enecala, njengawe.
Kwenzeka cishe ngaphandle kokukhetha ukuthi ukushiya i-narcissist kuphenduka isihogo emhlabeni izinyanga eziningi noma ngisho neminyaka. Ngeshwa, zibophezele ngokusongelwa kaninginingi, uhlambalaze idumela lakho lomphakathi, uzama ukuphazamisa umsebenzi wakho nobudlelwano obusha, ukukumangalela ngokugcina izingane zakho.
Noma yini efika engqondweni yakho, kungenzeka ukuthi uqinisile.
Ongakwenza ukugwema ukuziphindisela ngokwakho
Lokhu akusebenzi. Kuzokwenza izimpilo zakho nezabantwana bakho zibe lusizi olungapheli. Kepha i-narcissist ngeke ize ime kuze kube yilapho bethola umlingani omusha wokuhlukumeza nokubambana naye.
Ngakho-ke, shiya yonke imibono enjalo yempi ne-narcissist. Esikhundleni salokho, funda ngokungahambisani nobuntu be-narcissistic, zama ukuyeka ukuxhumanisa ngangokunokwenzeka bese uqhubeka ngokushesha okukhulu ngangokunokwenzeka. Futhi uthole ummeli omuhle.