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- Yiba nenhloso futhi ucabange ngale kwalokhu nalapha
- Isimo esinokuthula sisiza ukukhuliswa okunempilo
- Kunemiphumela emibi ngokwengqondo
- Isehlukaniso asisona isizathu sokuba umzali ongafanele
- Imiphumela emibi yesehlukaniso ezinganeni
- Njengengane, ubhekana kanjani nabazali abalwa?
- Amathiphu wabazali abahlukanisile
Lapho ubudlelwane babo bube muncu, imibhangqwana eminingi eshadile enezingane iyacabanga ukuthi kungcono yini ukuhlukanisa noma ukuhlala ndawonye izingane.
Ngenkathi lokhu kokugcina kungazwakala njengesixazululo esihle kunazo zonke, ukukhulisa ingane kubazali abahlukanisile endaweni enengxabano futhi engajabulisi kungalimaza njengesehlukaniso noma kube kubi nakakhulu.
Imiphumela yesikhathi eside yabazali abalwa, ifaka phakathi ukwenyuka kobudlova nobutha ezinganeni.
Lapho izingane zibona abazali bazo bephikisana ngokungapheli, kungaholela ekukhuleni kokuzethemba nokukhathazeka phakathi kwezingane. Imiphumela emibi yabazali abathukuthele ezinganeni ifaka phakathi ukuthambekela kokuzibulala nokudangala.
Imiphumela kanye nemiphumela yabazali abanobuthi miningi futhi iyahlukahluka ngokuya ngesimo, ngakho-ke cabanga kabili ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo!
Yiba nenhloso futhi ucabange ngale kwalokhu nalapha
Zombili lezi zimo ziveza imiphumela emibi yesehlukaniso ezinganeni. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi izingane ezikhuliswa ngumzali oyedwa zisengozini yokuba ngaphansi kwezimo ezingezinhle kunezinye.
Kusukela ekuhlukunyezweni esikoleni ngenxa yokuthi "abanababa noma mama," noma "umama nobaba bayalwa" kuye ekuziphendukeleni kwabo kwesinye isikhathi okunzima kube ngabantu abadala okuthonywa ukungabikho kwabo bobabili abazali, isehlukaniso singamlimaza umuntu!
Kodwa-ke, isici esibucayi kunazo zonke uhlobo lwemiphumela yengqondo yesehlukaniso ezinganeni noma endaweni engalinganiseli esiyivezayo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ezinganeni zabazali abahlukanisile.
Isimo esinokuthula sisiza ukukhuliswa okunempilo
Izimo ezithile zifaka izimpendulo ezahlukahlukene.
Isibonelo, kunezimo lapho umbhangqwana ohlukanisile ugxila ekuziphatheni okufanele enganeni futhi ugweme ukuletha izingqinamba zawo ngendlela ingane ekhuliswe ngayo.
Noma kuyinselele ukukhulisa ingane uwedwa, ukugcina ubudlelwane obunobuhlakani ne-ex yakho futhi uvumele ingane ukuthi ihlanganyele nalo omunye umzali futhi yakhe ubuhlobo bemvelo nayo kuzonikeza ukuvela okulinganiselayo.
Ingane ingase ingasiqondi ekuqaleni isizathu lapho abazali bayo abahlukanisile bengahlali ndawonye, kepha lokho akusona isaba sokufaka ingane ezinkingeni zomuntu siqu phakathi kwenu nobabili.
Indodana noma indodakazi yakho ayisiye umngane / umzali wakho, ongakhononda kuye ngezinkinga zobudlelwano futhi akayona i-psychotherapist yakho!
Kanjalo nengane ayisona isizathu sokuthi ubuhlobo buyeke ukusebenza!
Ngenxa yalokho, ingane yabazali abahlukanisile akufanele ithwale kanzima ngalezi zici futhi kufanele ishiywe isakha ubudlelwano bothando nabazali bobabili!
Kunemiphumela emibi ngokwengqondo
Okunye kwalokhu ukukhula kobuntu, okubandakanyeka endleleni abazali abahlukanisile abasebenzisana ngayo nengane hhayi kuphela kodwa futhi nabanye.
Yisona sizathu esikhulu esenza ukuthi indlela ophatha ngayo umlingani wakho ibaluleke kakhulu.
Ngesikhathi sokukhuliswa kwabo, kubonakala kalula ukuthi izingane zivame ukulingisa izindlela zokuziphatha nezinqubo zokucabanga ezibonwa kubazali bazo.
Amagama nezenzo zakho azisindi nje kuphela kumuntu osebenzisana naye kepha nasenganeni yakho, engavuthiwe ngokwanele ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwemibono evumayo noma engemihle okufanele bayifanele.
Ngaphandle kwalokho, lesi yisikhathi esibucayi lapho ukwakheka kwenzeka kalula kumuntu okhulayo, futhi lezi zandulela zingakha amaphethini nezinkolelo zokuziphatha ezingafuneki.
Lapho umuntu esekhulile, kuba inselele enkulu kakhulu ukulungisa izinqubo zokucabanga eziyiphutha noma ukulawula ukusabela okweqile.
Ngakho-ke kungani ungakugweme ukuzihlanganisa ngokuphelele?
Impendulo yakho enobudlova ebhekiswe kumlingani wakho noma ukulwa phambi kwezingane kungaba yimpendulo yengcindezi yengane yakho ekuhlanganyeleni okufanayo ngephutha, okungenani.
Uma uhlala ulwa nomlingani wakho futhi kubonakala sengathi awukwazi ukugcina ubudlelwano obunempilo futhi obulinganiselayo, esikhundleni sokufaka noma ukufaka ingane yakho ezingxabanweni zakho, khetha ukwehlukana uzame konke okusemandleni akho ukuze uthole ingane yakho ngaphandle kokudonsana izinwele nsuku zonke!
Isehlukaniso asisona isizathu sokuba umzali ongafanele
Kwabanye, isehlukaniso siyindlela elula yokuphuma.
Impela, izimpi nokuziphatha okungaphucuzekile okuvezwe phambi kwengane yakho kuzophela, kepha ikhaya elinokuthula aliqinisekisi ukuthi lizokhuliswa ngaphandle kwengcindezi kwengane yakho.
Ukwehlukana kunzima kuwo wonke umuntu, futhi kunezinyathelo ezidingekayo okumele zithathwe ukunciphisa ushintsho kumuntu osemncane.
Inqobo nje uma uhambisa imizamo yakho ekunikezeni ubudlelwano obunempilo nobunothando enganeni yakho, umthelela wokungabi nomunye wabazali njalo ekhaya uzoncipha.
Ngenxa yokuthi awusafuni ukuhlala noma ukusebenzisana nomlingani wakho, lokho akusho ukuthi nengane yakho kufanele yenze kanjalo.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, ingane yabazali abahlukanisile kufanele ivunyelwe ukuthi ibone futhi yakhe isibopho esiqinile nomzali ongekho futhi ithole izincazelo kanye nokuqinisekiswa ukuthi ukwehlukana kwabazali akusho ukwehlukana kwabo nabazali.
Musa, nganoma yisiphi isizathu, ungakholelwa ukuthi izibopho zakho ngengane yakho ziyaphela uma ungenasibopho esisele kumlingani wakho wangaphambilini.
Lokhu akusho ukumane uthumele imali noma izipho kaninginingi, ngoba akukho okungathatha indawo yesibopho esifudumele, esinothando noma imfundo eqinile.
Ukuba khona kwakho, uthando, nokuholwa kuyadingeka ekukhulisweni kwengane yakho, futhi ukuhlala ngokuhlukana akumele kube izaba.
Abanye abashadikazi bajabule kepha bahlala ngokuhlukana ngenxa yomsebenzi, abanye bahlala ndawonye yize befisa ukuthi ngabe abakwazanga, kanti abanye bayahlukanisa kepha bagcina ubudlelwane obulinganiselayo ngenxa yezingane zabo.
Kunobunzima nokulinganiselwa kukho konke, kepha lokho okhetha “ukukukhombisa” ingane yakho naphezu kwezimo ezingezinhle kuyisihluthulelo semfundo enempilo.
Imiphumela emibi yesehlukaniso ezinganeni
Ingabe isehlukaniso sibi ezinganeni? Imiphumela yabazali abahlukanisile noma yokulwa nabazali ezinganeni ayinakucimeka ezimweni eziningi.
Ngakho-ke, ingabe isehlukaniso sizithinta kanjani izingane?
Ukukhula nabazali abalwa nezibazi ezinganeni ngendlela ababhekana ngayo nezinselelo ezingokwenhlalo nezingokomzwelo kunezingane ezikhuliswe ekhaya elijabulayo.
Ukungqubuzana kwabazali kunomthelela enganeni futhi kuholela ezinkingeni ezinkulu njengokuzenyeza, ukuba necala, amahloni, ukusebenza kabi ezifundweni nokubulawa kwezinkinga zezempilo.
Imiphumela ebonakalayo yesehlukaniso enganeni ifaka phakathi ukwanda okukhulu kwezimo eziphuthumayo ezihlobene nesifuba somoya kanye nokuthambekela kokulimala.
Njengengane, ubhekana kanjani nabazali abalwa?
Gwema ukuthatha uhlangothi futhi uhlale ungathathi hlangothi.
Zama ukwakha ubudlelwano bakho obuhle, uma abazali bakho bengazona izibonelo ezinhle kakhulu ongabheka kuzo.
Okubaluleke kakhulu, gwema ukuzibeka icala. Uzibuza, “Ngingabavimba kanjani abazali bami ukuba bahlukanise?”
Impendulo elula yalokhu ukuthi, awukwazi. Ukubona abazali bakho behlukene kubuhlungu; kodwa-ke, ongakwenza ukuziqinisekisa ngokwakho ukuthi abazali bakho bayakuthanda, noma bengathandani.
Amathiphu wabazali abahlukanisile
Kubazali, bezibuza, “ngiyeka kanjani ukulwa phambi kwengane yami?”, Khumbula ukuthi uyinetha lokuphepha lengane yakho.
Khumbula ukudweba imigqa lapho uphikisana, ngokufunda ukuveza ukukhungatheka kwakho ngasese futhi ungenzi izingane zakho zilalele izimpikiswano zakho.
Ngaphandle kokunganeliseki, kubalulekile ukwethula ubuso obumbene ezinganeni zakho futhi uzinike ingubo yokuvikela yothando nemfudumalo.
Kubalulekile ukugwema amaphutha enziwa ngabazali abahlukanisile futhi bahlukane uma kufanele, ngaphandle kokwenza izingane zonakaliswe ngokomoya nangokwengqondo.