Yini Iphuzu Lomshado

-Delile

• 1. Injabulo, inhlonipho, nokuzibophezela
• 2. Qala umndeni
• 3. Ukukhula njengabantu abashadile
• 4. Ukusebenzela izinhloso ezifanayo
• 5. Ubumnandi
• 6. Ukuvikelwa
• 7. Ukuphelela

Umshado umkhuba olandelwe ngumphakathi emakhulwini ambalwa eminyaka edlule.

Ngalesi sikhathi, kube nezinguquko eziningana ezinkolelweni nasezinqubo zokucabanga ezihambisana nesikhungo somshado.

Phambilini, bekuthathwa njengokushintshana okufanele phakathi kowesilisa nowesifazane; abesifazane abangavunyelwe emsebenzini bafuna ukuvikeleka ngokwezimali ngenkathi abesilisa bekhetha ukushada izindlalifa yingakho, umshado ubonakala uyimpendulo ephelele kuzo zombili lezi zinkinga.

Kulesi sikhathi samanje, injongo yomshado ishintshe kakhulu. Abantu bafuna okuningi kakhulu emshadweni

Noma yini oyenzayo empilweni idinga ukuthi uzibekele umgomo noma ube nenjongo. Kanjalo nomshado!

Kunezifundo ezahlukahlukene ngencazelo yesimanje yomshado, nezincazelo zomshado ezisuselwa ezicini ezahlukahlukene njengokuzazi, ukukhethwa komlingani, njll.

Kodwa iyini injongo yomshado?

Lapho ushada, udinga ukuqiniseka ngalokho ofisa ukukufuna kulobu budlelwano nalapho ekugcineni ufuna ukububona khona.

Ukuntuleka kwenhloso echaziwe, eyamukelekayo, noma ukubeka imigomo engafanele yomshado kungaholela ekubhekaneni nenkinga yokugcina ubudlelwano bakho buphila futhi buyisa empumelelweni. Ungahle ungene emibuthanweni engemihle efana nokuthi 'Ingabe umshado uyadingeka?'

Ngenxa yokuthi umshado uphansi muva nje, abantu abaningi bayabuza ukuthi liyini iphuzu lomshado nokuthi kungani umshado ubalulekile.

Nawa amaphuzu ambalwa wokukusiza uqonde inhloso yomshado nokuthi umshado umayelana nani.

1. Injabulo, inhlonipho, nokuzibophezela

Abantu ababelana ngezintshisekelo ezifanayo yilabo abathandanayo futhi banqume ukuzibophezela kwisibopho somshado.

Kunengqondo ukuthi imibhangqwana ecabanga ngokufanayo ivame ukuzwana kangcono. Lapho nobabili nifuna imigomo efanayo empilweni, nobabili nisebenza ndawonye ukuyifinyelela.

Kuyabonakala ukuthi imibhangqwana enenhloso efanayo yokuphila futhi yenza imizamo yokuyifeza, ibeka isisekelo somshado ophumelelayo. Imibhangqwana enjalo iyasekelana kukho konke, iyabonga, iyathandana, futhi yabelana ngokujabula ngenjabulo efanayo.

2. Qala umndeni

Imibhangqwana eminingi ifisa ukuba nezingane ngokushesha ngemva komshado. Kuvamile ukuthi imibhangqwana ibe nezingane ngemuva kokushada futhi ikuthathe njengenhloso ebalulekile yokushada. Lokhu kufaneleke ngokuphelele.

Izingane zithathwa njengendlela yokwelula uzalo, ukudlulisela phambili amasiko emindeni kanye nefa lomndeni. Izingane nazo zivame ukusondeza lezi zithandani komunye nomunye, futhi uthando lwazo ngomunye nomunye lukhula kuphela.

Ukuba yingxenye elahlekile emndenini ophelele, izingane futhi ziphakamisa uphawu lwesimo salabo abashadayo njengomndeni ophelile yilokho okubhekwa njengomshado ojabulayo, ophumelelayo.

3. Ukukhula njengabantu abashadile

Ithuba lokukhula nokuzikhulisa eceleni komlingani wakho lingesinye sezipho ezinhle kakhulu zomshado.

Ungafunda futhi uguqule ube inguqulo engcono yakho, ube yilokho obekulokhu ufuna ukuba yikho. Ukukhula kwelula imingcele yendawo yakho yokunethezeka futhi kukuqhubekele emikhawulweni yakho ukuze ukhiphe amandla amakhulu njengomuntu.

Lokhu kuhle kuwe ukugcina umshado wakho uphila futhi wenzeka.

Enye yezinzuzo zomshado ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho nizofunda ukubambisana futhi esikhundleni salokho nisizane ukubhekana nezikhathi ezinzima.

Njengoba ukhula, unentshisekelo enhle yomlingani wakho enhliziyweni. Uzoqala ukwenza okuningi okujabulisa umlingani wakho, ume eceleni kwabo, futhi ubasekele kukho konke ngenkathi uvikela umlingani wakho kunoma yini ebenza bangakhululeki.

4. Ukusebenzela izinhloso ezifanayo

Ukushada kukuqinisekisa ukuthi kunomuntu okuthandayo.

Umuzwa wokuqinisekiswa uyisikhuthazo esikhulu ekuzethembeni komuntu futhi kukhuthaza kuphela ukuzinikela phakathi kwabalingani.

Lapho abalingani ababili bethandana, baba nokuhloniphana omunye nomunye ngokugxila kwabo konke ekuthuthukiseni ukuzibophezela kwabo esikhundleni sokucindezelana phansi.

Ubudlelwano budinga ukwethembana kakhudlwana, uthando, nenhlonipho, futhi bungekho indawo yokuncintisana nentukuthelo ethathwa njengephuzu elilodwa lomshado.

5. Ubumnandi

Esinye sezizathu zokushada yisipho esijulile senjabulo. Kunezinzuzo ezahlukahlukene zomshado. Kodwa-ke, ukukwazi ukuzijabulisa ebudlelwaneni kuyinjongo eyodwa eyinhloko yomshado.

Hhayi lokho kuphela, umlingani wakho kufanele abe ngumthombo wakho wenjabulo nenjabulo futhi.

6. Ukuvikelwa

Obunye bobuhle bomshado ukuvikelwa kwabashadile. Kufanele kube nokuvikelwa kwezintshisakalo komunye nomunye, kwasekhaya kanye nasezinganeni.

Ngokuqoqeka, ukuvikelwa emazingeni amaningi kanye nezigaba ezahlukahlukene zempilo kwakha injongo yomshado. Iphinde isebenze njengenye yezinzuzo zokushada.

7. Ukuphelela

Kungani kufanele ushade?

Inhloso yomshado ukusiholela ekufezekiseni noma ekupheleleni kwempilo. Lapho ushada, ungena esigabeni esibalulekile sempilo esiholela esimweni senjabulo enkulu.

Uma uzizwa uwedwa emshadweni, lesi ngesinye sezimpawu okufanele uzisebenzele ndawonye ukwenza lolu hambo olucebisayo.

Kule vidiyo engezansi, uSharon Pope uxoxa ngomzabalazo wemishado enqanyuliwe. Ingxoxo inquma ukuthi ngabe lezi zithandani zingawulungisa yini umshado wazo ziphinde ziwenze ube muhle noma uma sekuyisikhathi sokuwukhulula ngothando umshado.

Ukuhamba kokugcina

Umshado kuthiwa uyindlela yokwanelisa nokweseka amalungu omndeni ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene, ngokomzwelo, ngokocansi nangokwengqondo. Umshado uthathwa njengesinyathelo esibalulekile empilweni yomuntu.

Inhloso yalo mshado okukhulunywe ngawo ngenhla ukukusiza uqonde ukuthi umshado umayelana nani futhi ubeke okulindelwe okuyikho kuwo.