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- Ukusuka kwababili kuya kwabathathu noma ngaphezulu
- Lokhu kumane nje kuyisiqalo
- Le ndawo iyisihloko lapho kube khona ucwaningo olukhulu
- Izici zobudala uma kukhulunywa ngemiphumela yengxabano yabazali
- Izingane zilingisa indlela yazo yokuziphatha kulokho ezikubonayo endaweni ezikuyo
- Yini okufanele uyenze?
Ngisho nasebudlelwaneni obuhle kakhulu nemishado, kukhona ukungaboni ngaso linye ngezikhathi ezithile.
Lokhu kungaba kusuka komunye noma kubo bobabili abalingani besebenzisa ukungathethi kuya kwesinye isikhathi, ukugcwalisa ama-screamathons aphezulu ngevolumu bobabili abalingani bememeza amagama alimazayo.
Ukusuka kwababili kuya kwabathathu noma ngaphezulu
Kulungile, ngakho-ke lokhu kuyingxenye yesigaba sempilo nomlingani wakho lapho nibabili kuphela, kepha uma unezingane, njengoba abazali bazi, konke ukulingana kwempilo kuyashintsha.
Okubaluleke kakhulu, ngokungangabazeki, sekuguqukile, kanye nezinye izici eziyisigidi ebudlelwaneni bakho, kepha izingxabano zisabonakala. Lokhu kuletha umbuzo okufanele ubhekiswe kuwo: kwenzekani ezinganeni zakho lapho wena nomlingani wakho nixabana?
Ake sihlolisise futhi sibone ukuthi ochwepheshe bathini ngalokhu.
Lokhu kumane nje kuyisiqalo
Njengoba ngokungangabazeki usuvele uyazi, ukulwa endaweni yezingane kuholela emiphumeleni eminingi engalungile.
Kuvame ukutholakala ukuthi abazali abanezingxabano eziningi phambi kwezingane zabo empeleni bangashintsha indlela izingane zabo ezisebenzisa ngayo imininingwane, ngamanye amagama, ukuthi izingane zicabanga kanjani.
U-Alice Schermerhorn, uProfesa Ongumsizi eMnyangweni Wezesayensi Yezengqondo e-UVM, uthole ukuthi “izingane ezisuka emakhaya anezingxabano ezinkulu, ngokuqeqesha ubuchopho bazo ukuba ziqaphele, zicubungula izimpawu zemizwa yabantu, kungaba intukuthelo noma injabulo, ngokuhlukile kunezingane ezisuka emakhaya angenazinkinga. ” Gcina lokho engqondweni ngokuzayo lapho ulingeka ukuba umemeze ngokuthile.
Le ndawo iyisihloko lapho kube khona ucwaningo olukhulu
Njengoba le kuyindawo ebalulekile kangaka, abacwaningi emhlabeni wonke bashicilele izigidi zamagama ngayo. Isibonelo, abacwaningi uMark Flinn noBarry England bahlaziya amasampula we-hormone yokucindezeleka, i-cortisol, ethathwe kuzo zonke izingane ezisemzaneni esiqhingini saseDominica eCaribbean ocwaningweni lweminyaka engama-20.
Bathola ukuthi izingane ezihlala nabazali abahlala bexabana zinamazinga aphezulu we-cortisol akhombisa ingcindezi kunezingane ezihlala emindenini enokuthula.
Futhi aveze muphi umphumela la mazinga aphezulu e-cortisol?
Izingane ezinamazinga aphezulu e-cortisol zihlala zikhathala futhi zigula, zidlala kancane, futhi zilala kancane kunontanga yazo abakhulele emakhaya anokuthula.
Cabanga phansi kwe-ramifications ebanzi yalokhu. Uma ingane igula, iphuthelwa isikole futhi ingaqala ukuhlupheka ezifundweni. Uma izingane zingazibandakanyi nokudlala zodwa, zingahle zingakhulisi amakhono okuxhumana nabantu adingekayo ukuze zihambisane kahle emhlabeni.
Izici zobudala uma kukhulunywa ngemiphumela yengxabano yabazali
Izingane ezineminyaka engaphansi kwezinyanga eziyisithupha ubudala zingabona izingxabano phakathi kwazo.
Iningi labantu abadala liyakhumbula abazali balo bexabana. Ingakanani ingane enqunywa ngokwengxenye ukusabela noma umphumela ukuphikisana komzali nakho. Usana olusanda kuzalwa lungase lungakwazi ukubona ukungezwani ebudlelwaneni bomshado, kepha ingane eneminyaka emihlanu ngokuqinisekile iyakwazi.
Izingane zilingisa indlela yazo yokuziphatha kulokho ezikubonayo endaweni ezikuyo
Ngamanye amagama, izingane zifunda ngokukopisha lokho ezikubonayo nezizwayo lapho zizungezile. Njengomzali, uwumhlaba ezinganeni zakho.
Uma uzibandakanya emametheni wokumemeza, ingane yakho izokubonela lokhu futhi izokhula icabange ukuthi lokhu kuyinto ejwayelekile.
Ngenxa yezingane zakho, kungcono ukugcina ivolumu iphansi lapho ungavumelani nomlingani wakho, ukuze ungabi nalolo hlobo lokuziphatha olulingiswa yinzalo yakho. Akuzukuzuza ingane yakho kuphela, kanjalo nomakhelwane bakho!
Nalu uhlu lweminye yemiphumela engaba khona futhi miningi
- Izingane zingase zingazethembi futhi zihoxe
- Izinkinga zokuziphatha zingakhula
- Izingane zingaba nezinkinga zempilo, zangempela noma ezicatshangelwe
- Izingane zingase zingakwazi ukugxila ekilasini okungaholela ezinkingeni zokufunda namamaki aphansi
- Kungase kuvele imizwa yecala. Izingane zivame ukucabanga ukuthi zibangele ingxabano yabazali
- Izingane zingase zicindezeleke
- Ukusebenzisana nezinye izingane kungaba yinkinga noma ukulwa
- Izingane zingase zibe nolaka ngokomzimba; bangashaya, badudule, bashuthe noma balume ezinye izingane
- Ezinye izingane zingase zibe nolaka ngamazwi; bangahlekisa, bathuke, basebenzise ulimi olungafanele, futhi babize ezinye izingane ngamagama
- Izingane zingahle zingalali kahle futhi zibe namaphupho amabi
- Kungasungulwa imikhuba emibi yokudla. Izingane zingadla kakhulu noma zingadla kakhulu.
- Izingane zingadla okhethwayo bese ziqala ukulahlekelwa izakhi zomzimba ezibalulekile zokukhula
Yini okufanele uyenze?
Abazali abaningi ngokwemvelo bayazi noma bafunde ukuthi ukuphikisana phambi kwezingane zabo akuyona into enhle.
Abanye abazali bangazama nje ukugwema konke ukungqubuzana, kepha nakho lokho kudala izinkinga zako. Abanye abazali banganikezela noma babambe iqhaza kumlingani wabo, ukuze kuqedwe ingxabano, kodwa futhi, lokhu ngeke kuholele emphumeleni ogculisayo.
UMark Cummings, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo eNotre Dame University, ubhale kabanzi ngokwenzeka ezinganeni ezikhula ezimeni lapho kuba khona ukuxabana okukhulu emshadweni, futhi uthi ngokuba nezingane zibone ukuxazululwa kokungezwani, izingane zizozizwa kakhulu uvikelekile ngokomzwelo.
Uqhubeka athi, “Lapho izingane zibona impi futhi zibona abazali beyixazulula, empeleni zijabula kakhulu kunakuqala. Iqinisekisa izingane ukuthi abazali bangazisebenzisa izinto. Lokhu sikwazi ngemizwa abayikhombisayo, abakushoyo, nokuziphatha kwabo-bayabaleka bayodlala. Ukungqubuzana okwakhayo kuhlotshaniswa nemiphumela engcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. ”
Umgwaqo ophakathi ungcono kakhulu ongawuthatha ukuze uphilele wonke umndeni. Ukulwa, izimpikiswano, ukungavumelani, izingxabano, kubize ngalokho ofuna ukukwenza – kuyingxenye yalokho okusenza sibe ngabantu. Ukufunda indlela yokuthola umphumela omuhle kakhulu kuyisihluthulelo sokukhula nokwenzela izimpilo ezinempilo kakhulu kubo bobabili abazali nezingane.