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Emsebenzini wami nemibhangqwana, ingqikithi ejwayelekile ukuthi balwa izimpi ezifanayo kaninginingi. Imvamisa, lezi zingxabano azibalulekile emvelweni, kepha, eminyakeni edlule yokuba nezingxabano ezifanayo, ukusondelana okungokomzwelo kuqala ukonakala.
Kuyini ukusondelana ngokomzwelo?
Kuyikhono lokuba sengozini futhi HHAYI ukuthi labo bucayi bahlangabezane nomphumela. Uyabona lokhu kubangani bakho bakudala lapho ungaveza khona konke ukusangana kwakho, futhi bayakuthanda futhi bakwemukela noma kunjalo futhi bahleka kanye nawe ngakho. Cabanga ngesikhathi uqala ukuhlangana nezinyanga ezalandela. Wawujabule ukukhuluma nabo futhi wabelana ngemicabango yakho nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho nemibono yakho futhi lokho kuxhumana kwakungumlingo. Lokho kuxhumana kuyisiqalo sothando lwezithandani nokusondelana ngokomzwelo. LEYO iyimfihlo yobudlelwano obuhlala njalo. Lokho kuxhumana nokuphepha ekubonakaleni nasekuzwelweni ukuthi ungubani.
Shesha phambili iminyaka embalwa, futhi umsebenzi wasemhlabeni wokukhona ungaqala ukuqeda lolo xhumo futhi uzithole ungaphendukeli kaningi komunye kulolo sizo nokusondelana ngokomzwelo noma kobuhlakani.
Ah! Ukube bengingakutshela ukuqina kwempikiswano yami nozakwethu mayelana nodoti! Kanye ngesonto, udoti kufanele uhudulwe uye ekugcineni komgwaqo ozolandwa. Ngenza isiqiniseko sokuthi okudingeka kube ngaphandle kwendlu kuphume futhi okuwukuphela komthwalo womlingani wami ... ukuyikhipha egalaji ngiyishiye izolandwa. Ngiyavuka, ngilungisele abantwana isikole, ngigqoke okosuku lasemsebenzini bese nginikela ngama-stilettos. Ngosuku oluhle, ngigijima ngikhubekile ngiphethe izikhwama zezincwadi nezidlo zasemini nesikhwama sami semali nezicathulo zazo futhi ungagxili amakati njengoba ngigijimela emnyango wemoto futhi ngibona ukuthi izingane azikho isikhathi namhlanje! Futhi njengoba ngikhipha ... kukhona umgqomo kadoti, oseseceleni kwendlu. Ake sicabange ngocingo olumibalabala asezoluthola. Ngidlulisa umyalezo okwama-50 ukuthi le nto kuphela engidinga ukuthi ayenze ngoLwesibili !! Uyaphendula ngokuxolisa okunamandla nezinketho ezimbili, angazikhiphela udoti (kuma-stilettos ami), noma awushiye ngesonto elizayo, akuyona into enkulu kangako futhi usekhathele ukukhathazeka. Ingxabano ibe ishuba emzamweni onentshisekelo wokuzwakala nokuqondwa yizinhlangothi zombili.
Ukuqonda inkinga
Yilapho umsebenzi wami njengomelaphi (umlamuleli nonompempe) uba nzima kakhulu. Ingabe kumayelana nodoti ngempela? Ngabe ngempela akanendaba noma uyivila? Ingabe kumayelana nokuqina? Kuzo zonke izimo, kunemibono emibili futhi yomibili inembile- mangisho ukuthi futhi- bobabili banembile emibonweni yabo elinganiselwe yeqiniso. Ukuphela kwendlela yokunqoba lesi sithiyo futhi ube nethemba lokugcina uxhumano luqinile ukuzama ukuqonda ukuthi yini ebangela ukusabela komlingani wakho.
Buka futhi: Kuyini Ukungqubuzana Kobudlelwano?
Yini inkinga enkulu?
Hhayi ukumane ulalele ukukhiqiza ukuziphendulela kwakho okungenacala noma ukwehlukanisa ukuma kwabo bese uthethelela okwakho. Ukuqonda ngokweqiniso ukuthi yini ebangela impendulo engeyinhle nokuthi kungani bakuthatha njengokwephula inani labo. Zonke izimpendulo ezingezinhle zenzeka ngenxa yenani elibonakala lephuliwe. Kulokhu, akusiwo udoti (noma kunjalo, ugcwele indle ngokoqobo, noma ngabe uvela enabukeni noma emakati futhi uzokwengeza futhi ngamandla wephunga elibi uma ushiyelwe elinye isonto). Imayelana nokwethembeka nokuthembeka. Ngingomunye ongenza noma yini ngedwa uma ngidinga. Bengizokwenza ukwethemba ukuthi angingedwa kulobu budlelwano nokuthi ngiyakwazi thembela kumlingani wami nokuthi uzolandela amazwi akhe ngoba unjalo onokwethenjelwa. Lawo ngamanani lapho ephulwa, azodala impendulo engemihle. Lokhu kunjalo nganoma yisiphi isimo lapho ngizwa ukuthi lawa maqiniso awahlangabezani. Kusebenza kanjalo amanani. Ngokombono wakhe, ubephuza isikhathi futhi uzizwa ekhungathekile ngeminye imisebenzi yakhe ngakho-ke uyayidinga ukuqonda futhi ububele kumlingani wakhe.
Lapho kuhlolisiswa ngale ndlela, ingabe noma yiliphi iqembu lenzelwe ngenhloso yokunciphisa noma yokuchitha ukubaluleka kwelinye? Lutho neze. Ngaphandle kokuqonda okufihliwe ngaphansi kwempi, le mpi izolandela futhi izovela ngobuningi bezimo ezahlukahlukene futhi umphumela uzofana. Thatha isikhathi sokuzibuza wena nomlingani wakho, HHAYI ukuthi yini into enkulu, kunalokho Kungani ngabe yinto enkulu le.