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Baningi bethu abakhula bephupha ngayo yonke imizwa emihle yokuba sothandweni futhi silinde ngokulangazelela ukuthandana ngokujulile nomuntu esifuna ukuchitha impilo yethu naye. Izingoma zothando nama-movie nawo adlala indima ekuvuseleleni lokho kulangazelela okuqinile kithi. Abantu abaningi abasothandweni babonakala bephila futhi bejabule futhi nathi sikulangazelela lokho nasezimpilweni zethu.
Kulabo bethu abasemshadweni noma abasebudlelwaneni iminyaka embalwa manje, sinabo yini abashade nabo noma abalingani esibathandayo futhi esibakhathalele ngokujulile? Uma kunjalo, ikuphi futhi ikuphi yonke leyo mizwa yemilingo yothando? Ungaluchaza kanjani uthando? Into yokuqala okudingeka uyazi ngaphambi kokujaha ukuhlela umshado ukuthi awusekelwe othandweni kuphela. Ngokuphambene nazo zonke lezo zindaba esizibonayo, esizizwayo noma esizifundayo- uthando akuwona nje umuzwa.
Luyini uthando?
Kufanele sithathe isikhashana ukubheka okwethu okwenzeka kulo muzwa. Sonke sizwa imizwa enamandla yokuheha, le mizwa ivame ukwehla yenyuka, lapha kulo mzuzu yadlula ngokulandelayo! Lokhu kungabonakala kubuhlungu futhi kudideka. Futhi-ke, imvamisa sizithola sibuza imibuzo ejwayelekile efana nale:
- Ingabe lolu uthando lweqiniso?
- Ngingamthanda yini umuntu engingamazi kahle kangaka?
- Ingabe siwile ngenxa yothando?
- Ngiyamthanda umuntu engishade naye futhi ngiyabakhathalela, kungani angimjabulisanga manje?
- Ingabe ngiyaphelelwa uthando?
Kunemibuzo eminingi uma kukhulunywa ngokuthola uthando, izimpendulo zivame ukwethusa kaningi kangangokuthi sizama ukuvala le micabango. Noma sihlela ukukwenza lokho, kungahle kuhlale kukhona ukudabuka okuhlala isikhathi eside, ngokungathi kukhona okushodayo. Into elahlekile lapha mhlawumbe ukuqonda okunembile kokuthi luyini uthando, empeleni.
Njengoba ukwazi ukubona, imizwa idlula futhi ngalokho, uthando lungaba ngaphezu komuzwa nje. Ngokusho kwezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, bachaza uthando njengokuzikhethela, isinqumo noma isenzo. Kodwa-ke, ngokwe-psychology yezenhlalo, uthando lufana nenhlanganisela yokuziphatha, imizwa kanye nokuqonda. Ukuqonda ukuthi luyini uthando ngendlela engcono, nakhu ukubuka impilo yangempela ephikisana nezinganekwane ezivela kwabanye ochwepheshe njengalezo ake Sigubhe Imicimbi abathola ukubona imibhangqwana eseduze njengoba besetha izindawo zomshado nezindikimba.
Okuhlobene Okuhlobene: Izimpawu Ezihle Zothando Zasendulo
I-Passionate Vs. Uthando lomngane
Imvamisa, sisondela kakhudlwana kozakwethu ongcono noma umlingani wempilo yethu lapho "sithandana ngokujulile" noma "sizwa uthando". Lokhu kuqonda kokuthandana kuhlanganisa nokusabela okungenangqondo nokushuba okukhulu ngokomzwelo komunye umuntu. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, singabona futhi abantu esibathandayo ngokwehlukile, okusho ukubabona “bephelele”, futhi sigqamise ubuhle babo futhi sichithe onke amaphutha abo njengabalulekile. Uthando oluthandekayo lukhulu futhi alunangqondo.
Noma kunjalo, ezinye izinhlobo zothando zingahlala isikhathi eside. Uthando lomlingani yilolo olunobungane njengesisekelo salo, kufaka phakathi izintshisakalo ezabiwe, ukukhangana, inhlonipho nokukhathalela inhlalakahle yomunye. Lokhu kungabonakala kungathokozi njengothando olunothando, kepha kuhlala kuyinto ebalulekile ebudlelwaneni obuhlala njalo nobenelisayo.
Abaningi bethu bavame ukulinganisa imizwa enothando noma yothando kuphela nothando. Esikhathini eside, imibhangqwana eshadile ingaqala ukuzibuza ukuthi kwenzekeni ngemizwa yothando.Ukuhlala ndawonye kungabandakanya imisebenzi eminingi yasekhaya, ukuya emsebenzini, ukuqeda ukwenza uhlu, nokukhokha izikweletu. Kodwa-ke, akukho kulokhu, ikakhulukazi, okukhuthaza noma imuphi umuzwa wothando noma wothando phakathi kwabantu. Uthando lomngane lodwa olususelwa ekuqondeni kangcono uzakwethu nakithi uqobo.
Uthando lukhula kanjani emshadweni
Impilo yobudlelwano bakho besikhathi eside incike ekutheni ulukhombisa kahle kangakanani uthando lwakho nokukhathalela umlingani wakho. Isibonelo, uma inkosikazi nomyeni bephuma bayophuza inkomishi yekhofi, bebengeke bezwe imizwa enamandla njengoba bezotholwa othandweni olunothando. Esikhundleni salokho, bangajabulela isikhathi abasichitha bebumbene futhi bakhulise ukusondelana okujulile ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo ngokwazana kangcono ngezingxoxo.
Ukuze ube nothando lobungani emshadweni wakho, kungadingeka ukuthi unqobe ukudumazeka nobuhlungu okuvame ukuvela ngezinkolelo ezinganembile noma ezingezona ezingokoqobo ngothando. Ukwakhiwa kobudlelwano emshadweni kungadinga imizamo nokuhlelwa kwesikhathi.
Udinga ukwazi ukuthi abukho ubuhlobo obuza kalula futhi ukuthola uthando oluzohlala impilo yonke kuyinselele! Kuyinto edinga inani elihle lokulwa nesikhathi nokuba nokungavumelani okuningi ekutholeni okuphelele. Umshado ophumelelayo ngulowo osuselwa ekuqondaneni nokuthi nobabili niwamukela kahle kangakanani amaphutha enu, namukela ukungapheleli komunye, nihloniphane. Lokhu kuzokunikeza ithuba elingcono lokuphila impilo ejabulisayo emshadweni ingunaphakade!