-Delile
- Yamukela isibopho se- eyakho ingxenye
- Okufanele ngikwenze
- 1. Vuma inhlamvu yeqiniso
- 2. Qinisekisa inhloso yakho
- 3. Xolisa
- 4. Yenza ngokweqiniso
- Kungani lokhu kubalulekile
- 1. Iqondisa ukunyakaza kusixazululo sobabili
- 2. Kuvikela isehlukaniso
Wenze konke ongakwenza ukuxazulula inkinga. Akukho okusebenzayo. Uma uzwakala kakhulu, kulapho kubonakala sengathi oshade naye uyakuzwa. Okucasula nakakhulu ukuthi balokhu bekubeka icala! Noma okubi kakhulu, ukuvuselela amaphutha nokwehluleka okwedlule. Ufinyelele ekunqandeni. Unamathele, ukhungathekile, futhi awazi ukuthi yini enye okufanele uyenze.
Uma ufana nabantu abaningi, ungahle uyeke ukuzama. Ushiya udaba lodwa futhi unethemba lokuthi uzizwa ungcono ngosuku olulandelayo. Njengenjwayelo imizwa yakho ejulile izokwehla ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi kuba lula kakhulu ukungayinaki le nkinga ethubeni lokuthi izizihambele yodwa. Noma mhlawumbe unethemba lokuthi bekungeyona into enkulu leyo ngemuva kwakho konke.
Inkinga yalokhu ukuthi imvamisa ayipheli. Inkinga eyisisekelo ebangela ukungqubuzana ihlala futhi ilele ithule kuze kube khona okuthile okuyiphinde ikwenze.
Ngakho-ke ungakwenza kanjani lokhu kuphuka kube yintuthuko? Impendulo ilula ngokumangazayo. Indlela yokufinyelela entuthukweni iqala ngo ... ukwamukela umthwalo.
Yamukela isibopho se- eyakho ingxenye
Qaphela ukugcizelelwa eyakho ingxenye. Lokhu akusho ukuthatha icala lonke noma ukuxolisa ngezinto ongazenzanga. Futhi akusho ukuthi uvumelana ngokuphelele nomlingani wakho. Kumane kungumnikelo wakho enkingeni eseduze, noma ngabe mkhulu noma mncane lowo mnikelo ungaba kanjani.
Kuyasiza ukukhumbula ukuthi uma ufuna ngempela ukufinyelela entuthukweni engxabanweni yakho, uzodinga ukugxila emizamweni yakho ukusebenza ngempumelelo kunokuba okulungile. Ngamanye amagama, ungakhohlwa umgomo wakho wokugcina - ukusebenza ngezingxabano nokuba nomshado ophumelelayo. Umbuzo ovame ukubuzwa abeluleki bemishado uthi, "Ngabe ufuna ukuba neqiniso, noma ufuna ukushada?"
Ukwamukela umthwalo akuhlobene nokuthi ngubani olungile noma ongalungile, futhi kuhlobene kakhulu nokusebenza ngempumelelo ebudlelwaneni. Uma ukhetha ukwamukela umthwalo wakho, ekugcineni uthi “Nginawe, angimelene nawe. Ake sikuthole ndawonye lokhu. ” Kukhombisa ukuthi nizimisele ukuthola amaphuzu esivumelwano, ngakho-ke ningakwazi ukubhekana nengxabano yenu ndawonye, njengeqembu.
Okufanele ngikwenze
Nazi izinyathelo ezi-4 zokwamukela umthwalo ozokusiza ukuthi uguqule ukuwohloka kwakho kube yintuthuko.
1. Vuma inhlamvu yeqiniso
Noma ungavumelani nempikiswano, isikhalazo, noma ukugxekwa okubhekiswe kuwe, imvamisa kukhona okungenani uhlamvu lweqiniso kulokhu okushiwoyo. Masisebenzise isibonelo esihlokweni sami sokugcina, "Ukushintshwa Okuncane Kwezokuxhumana Kungenza Umehluko Omkhulu Ebudlelwaneni Bakho."
“Kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi ungalokothi ukhiphe umshini wokuwasha izitsha?! Uhlale usishiyela kimi ukuthi ngithulule, futhi awucabangi ukuthi ngiyobe ngikhathele kanjani ekugcineni kosuku. ”
Ungahle ungavumelani nokuthi wena angikaze khipha umshini wokuwasha izitsha nokuthi wena njalo shiyela umlingani wakho ukuthi angabinalutho. Kepha kungenzeka ukuthi kuyiqiniso ukuthi okungenani kwesinye isikhathi awucabangi kangako ngokuthi umkakho ukhathele kangakanani ekugcineni kosuku. Ukwamukela okusanhlamvu kweqiniso kungabukeka kanjena.
"Ushaye khona. Angiqapheli njalo ukuthi ukhathele kangakanani ekugcineni kosuku. ”
Ngokwenza lokhu, uqinisekisa umbono womlingani wakho futhi uvimbela impikiswano.
2. Qinisekisa inhloso yakho
Kubalulekile ukusho inhloso yakho ukuze umlingani wakho aqale ukuqonda umbono wakho futhi aqinisekise ukuthi ubungazami ngamabomu ukulimaza.
Isibonelo, “Nami ngikhathele ekugcineni kosuku, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ngigxila kakhulu ekuphumuleni ngize ngingacabangi ngalokho konke okudingeka kwenziwe endlini. Bengingaqondile ukuthi uzizwe sengathi kufanele ukwenze konke. ”
3. Xolisa
Mane uthi, “Ngiyaxolisa.” Yilokho kuphela! Ngokuphikisana nenkolelo evamile, ukuxolisa kuwuphawu lwamandla, hhayi ubuthakathaka. Ungalokothi uyibukele phansi imiphumela enamandla ukuxolisa okungaba nayo ekuthambiseni inhliziyo nasekuqedeni izingxabano.
4. Yenza ngokweqiniso
KANJANI ukuxhumana kwakho ukuthatha umthwalo kwenza umehluko omkhulu. Kubalulekile ukuthembeka lapho usebenzisa leli khono. Oshade naye uzokwazi ukuthi awuthembekile yini noma uhamba nje ngokunyakaza. Uma uzibamba uzizwa ubanjwe imizwa engemihle kuze kufike ezingeni lapho ungeke ube yiqiniso khona manje, thatha ikhefu. Zinike isikhathi sokwehlisa umoya futhi ucabangisise ngobuqotho ukuthi iyiphi ingxenye yakho ekule nkinga nokuthi yini ongaxolisa ngayo ngokuthembeka.
Kungani lokhu kubalulekile
Kungakho lokhu kubalulekile-
1. Iqondisa ukunyakaza kusixazululo sobabili
Lapho uqinisekisa oshade naye ngokukhomba okusanhlamvu kweqiniso kulokho abakushoyo unikeza ithuba lengxoxo ephephile. Lapho abantu bezizwa bephephile ukuveza imicabango nemizwa yabo, bazizwa bephephile ukulalela. Lokhu kuholela ekuzimiseleni okwengeziwe ukunikela nokuthatha lapho kunesidingo kanye nenhloso efanayo yokunqoba ingxabano ndawonye. IGottman Institute iphakamisa ukuthi, “Ngokukhomba nokuzwelana nombono wozakwenu, maningi amathuba okuthi uthole isisombululo esihlonipha bobabili abalingani. Leyo yimfihlo. ”
2. Kuvikela isehlukaniso
Esinye sezici ezivame kakhulu zemishado eholela esahlukanisweni ukuzivikela. Okuphambene nokuzivikela yikhono lokwamukela umthwalo wemfanelo. Ngamanye amagama, ukwamukela umthwalo kuyikhambi lokuzivikela.
Lapho ungangena kumkhuba wokwamukela umthwalo wakho engxenyeni yakho ezinkingeni zakho zomshado, ngeke nje kuphela ugxume inqubekela phambili yokunqoba ukungqubuzana kwakho, kepha uzobe uzivikela ngenkuthalo ekuhlukaniseni.