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- 1. Khuluma ngakho
- 2. Zijwayeze
- 3. Funda ukuthanda i-lube
- 4. Cabanga ngale kocansi
- 5. Gcina amahlaya akho
- 6. Linga
- 7. Thola isheke lokuphila kahle
- Bheka impilo yakho yonke
- 9. Hlala usebenza
Imithombo yezindaba isinikeza isithombe sokuthi abantu abaseminyakeni yokuphila kwangaphambilini nangaphezulu abenzi ucansi, noma okubi kakhulu benza ucansi ngemuva kwama-50 i-punchline ihlaya elibi. Kepha, njengoba abantu bephila impilo ende futhi enempilo, bafuna nokuba nezimpilo ezinde futhi ezinempilo zocansi.
Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi impilo esebenzayo yocansi ingaba nomthelela ekupheleleni ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Kungaba nezinselelo zokuya ocansini olukhulu njengoba sikhula - inqubo yokuguga uqobo, imishanguzo, kanye nezinkinga zempilo eziyisisekelo kungasho ukuthi kufanele sibe nobuciko ekamelweni lokulala.
Funda ngamathiphu ayi-9 wokuya ocansini oluhle ngemuva kwama-50.
1. Khuluma ngakho
Abantu abangaphezu kwama-50 bavela esizukulwaneni lapho ukukhuluma ngocansi kwakungadunyiswa khona. Abesifazane ikakhulukazi kungenzeka ukuthi batshelwa ukuthi ukukhuluma ngocansi akuvunyelwe, kungcolile, futhi akulungile.
Kepha ukukhuluma ngokusobala ngocansi, nomlingani wakho kanye nomhlinzeki wakho wezokunakekelwa kwezempilo, kubalulekile empilweni enhle yezocansi kunoma yisiphi isikhathi. Kungathatha isikhathi ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho nikwazi ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile ngocansi, kodwa kufanelekile ukutshalwa kwemali.
Kunezincwadi eziningi eziqondisayo namawebhusayithi ezingakusiza ufunde ukukhuluma ngokukhululeka ngaphandle kwamahloni, noma indlela engcono yokukhululeka ifana nezinye izinto eziningi ongazijwayeza.
2. Zijwayeze
Prakthiza, njengoba besho, kwenza kuphelele.
Lapho ucansi luningi, kulapho ufunda khona okwengeziwe okukusebenzelayo wena kanye nomlingani wakho, ukuthi ungakhuluma kanjani okufunayo nokudingayo, nokuthi ungaxhuma kanjani kwezocansi.
Ikakhulukazi, uma impilo nempilo kuguquka noma ubuhlobo buguquka, njengokufelwa noma ukudivosa, kusho ukuthi inkambiso yakho yokuphila ngokocansi ayisafanelekile.
Ukuprakthiza izinhlobo ezintsha zocansi kubalulekile.
Uzothola ulwazi olubalulekile mayelana nokuthi wena nomlingani wakho nidingani futhi nifisa ini ngesenzo esilula (noma hhayi esilula) sokwenza "nje ukukwenza."
3. Funda ukuthanda i-lube
Njengoba bekhula, abesifazane abaningi bangathola ukoma kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane, okungenza ucansi lungakhululeki noma lubuhlungu.
ILube ithola i-rap embi - abantu bangazizwa ukuthi ukoma kungumphumela wokwehluleka komuntu njengokungabi "ngowesifazane ngokwanele" noma ukungakwazi ukuvula abalingani babo.
Kepha, izinguquko zamahomoni, njengoba sikhula, zisho nje ukuthi sidinga usizo oluncane kwesinye isikhathi.
Thola i-lube oyithandayo bese uyisebenzisa ngokukhululeka. Uma ngaphezu kwe-counter lube kungasizi ukoma, khuluma nodokotela wakho. Angabhala igrisi yokuthambisa noma ancoma ukuthi kufakwe i-moisturizer.
4. Cabanga ngale kocansi
Ubulili bungaba ngaphezu kakhulu kwesenzo sobulili.
Lokhu kuyiqiniso kunoma yimuphi unyaka, kepha abantu abaneminyaka engaphezu kwengama-50 ikakhulukazi kufanele bacabange kabanzi ngokuthi yini "ebalwayo" njengokuya ocansini. Noma izinkinga zezempilo zenza ucansi lube yinselele, kunezindlela eziningi zokusondelana nokunikeza nokwamukela ubumnandi ngaphandle kocansi.
Ungesabi ukuhlola izincwadi namawebhusayithi ngezocansi nokuzama izinto okungenzeka awuzange uzicabange phambilini. Ngokufana nokukhuluma ngocansi, lokhu kungasho ukuthi ukweqa kancane ngaphezu kwalokhu okufundisiwe “kwamukelekile”.
Kungabuye kuvule umnyango wezwe elisha lokuxhuma nenjabulo.
5. Gcina amahlaya akho
Masibhekane nakho, ucansi lungahlekisa. Kepha imvamisa sikuthatha ngokungathi sína kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma sibhekene nezinselelo. Susa ingcindezi bese ugcina amahlaya akho.
Ukusondela ocansini ngesimo sokudlala nesokufuna ukwazi kungakusiza ukuthi ube nobulili obungcono, noma ngabe uneminyaka emingaki. Zimisele ukuzama izinto ezintsha, ukuzijabulisa nomlingani wakho, nokuzihleka kuzokusiza uphumule.
Lokhu kuvame ukhiye ocansini olukhulu kwasekuqaleni.
6. Linga
Uma uke waba nomlingani ofanayo isikhathi eside, ungahle ube nenkambiso yokuzama nokuyiqiniso empilweni yakho yezocansi. Induduzo yinhle, kepha ukuzimisela ukuzama ukuzama ukusiza kungaphilisa izinto futhi kujulise nokuxhumana okude amashumi eminyaka.
Ukuzama akusho ukuthi kufanele uzibandakanye ne-BDSM noma ufake i-swing sex, ngaphandle kwalapho ufuna. Kusho nje ukuzimisela ukuzama izinto ezintsha, izikhundla ezintsha, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okusha.
Khuluma nomlingani wakho mayelana nokuthi yini eningayithanda nobabili. Cacisa mayelana nanoma yiziphi izaphulelo zedili. Ngemuva kwalokho thola indlela yokwenza lezo zinto nobabili nizimisele ukuzama ukuzenza zenzeke.
7. Thola isheke lokuphila kahle
Ingxenye enkulu yempilo eyanelisayo yezocansi iba nempilo enhle yezocansi.
Qiniseka ukuthi uthola izivivinyo ezijwayelekile futhi uxoxe nganoma yiziphi izindaba ezinjengokuya ocansini okubuhlungu, ubunzima be-erectile, njalonjalo, nodokotela wakho.
Uma uthatha noma imiphi imithi, buza ngemiphumela emibi engaba khona ocansini. Ukuhlolwa njalo kwe-STI kuyiseluleko esihle kunoma yisiphi isikhathi, futhi ikakhulukazi uma ungena ebudlelwaneni nabalingani abasha bezocansi.
Bheka impilo yakho yonke
Impilo isiyonke ineqhaza empilweni enhle yezocansi.
Ngokuyinhloko, ukuzivocavoca umzimba njalo njengokuhamba ngezinyawo kungakusiza ugcine impilo eqinile yezocansi.
Kubalulekile ukugeleza kwegazi, ngakho-ke futhi ukudla ukudla okunomsoco, ukuthatha imishanguzo oyinikezwe, ukuhlala unamanzi amaningi, nokuziqeqesha kahle impilo yakho yengqondo.
9. Hlala usebenza
Ukuzigcina usebenza ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo akukwazi ukwandisa impilo yakho kuphela kepha kukhulisa nempilo yakho yezocansi.
Ukuvivinya umzimba njalo njenge-yoga kungakusiza uhlale uguquguquka, okungakwenza uzimisele ngokwengeziwe futhi ukwazi ukuzama izikhundla ezintsha ekamelweni.
Ukuzivocavoca kwenhliziyo kuhle ukugeleza kwegazi nempilo yokuphefumula, futhi kungasiza ukukhulisa amandla akho futhi. (Njengenjwayelo, ngaphambi kokuqala noma iyiphi inqubo entsha yokuzivocavoca, khuluma nodokotela wakho kuqala.)
Ukugcina ubuchopho bakho busebenza nakho kuyisihluthulelo, ngoba kungasiza ekwenzeni impilo yengqondo eqinile futhi kuvimbele izimo zokubulala i-libido njengokucindezeleka.