Ngenkathi isethembiso somcimbi womshado sibalulekile futhi sidinga ukucatshangelwa nokuzibophezela (ngaphandle kwalokho kungamagama nje nensizakalo yezindebe!). Akudingeki zigxishe, noma zingenzi ubuntu kini njengombhangqwana. Izifungo zakho zomkhosi womshado zingaba ezihlekisayo, ezimnandi, ezothando, izinkondlo, noma ezingokoqobo - noma yini iyahamba. Kepha yize singeke sikutshele ukuthi wenzeni, kungakuhle emshadweni wakho wesikhathi esizayo uma lokho obukwenza ubhala emcimbini wakho womshado izithembiso zikhethwe ngenjongo yazo futhi - noma kungabonakali ezivakashini zakho.
Isibonelo, uma kwizifungo zakho uthi "Ngiyathembisa ukuthi ngeke ngilale uma ukhetha i-movie kuNetflix" ingahle ihleke futhi ungahle usho lokhu ngokomqondo wayo ongokoqobo. Kodwa-ke, okushiwo ngemuva kwayo kungasho nokuthile okunye kuwe. Njengokuthi, uthembisa ukuhlonipha izinqumo zomlingani wakho, noma uqiniseke ukuthi uyatholakala ngokwengqondo kumlingani wakho ngezikhathi lapho ezokwazisa khona, futhi uzizwe ubalulekile uma wenze njalo.
Ezinye zezifungo zomcimbi womshado ezincane, ezihlekisayo, zingasebenza futhi njengesikhumbuzo sokuba nomusa nokubekezelelana komunye nomunye - ngokungavumeli izinto ezincane ebudlelwaneni benu zakhe zibe yinto enkulu nengadingekile.
Empilweni ejwayelekile yansuku zonke, ezinye zezinselelo zethu ezinkulu ebudlelwaneni kungaba yizinto ezincane, ezinjengokungahlambi izitsha, ukukhetha izinzwane zakho, ukuhlala uphuze njalo. Ukungakwazi ukwenza okuthile okungabonakala njengomsebenzi olula kumlingani wakho.
Noma ngabe yiluphi uhlobo lobudlelwano onalo nomuntu ozoshada naye, kuzoba nezifungo zomcimbi womshado, ukuthi (yize zibonakala zihlekisa, noma izinto ezincane) zingakhula zize zifike lapho uzokhumbula khona izethembiso zomkhosi wakho womshado, futhi uzikhumbuze ukuthi uzibophezele ekwamukeleni noma yiziphi izici ezi-quirky (nezici ezicasulayo) ongaba nazo umlingani wakho.
Nazi izifungo zomkhosi womshado ezi-6 ezithokozisayo, ezibonisa lezi zingqinamba ezincane nezikhathaza ngezikhathi ezithile-
"Ngiyathembisa ukuthi ngizolalela njalo, noma ngabe uyaphithizela"
“Ngiyathembisa ukuthi ngeke ngisidle isigaxa sakho sikamaskandi, noma ngabe ngicabanga ukuthi uthathe isikhathi eside kakhulu ukungena kuso”
"Ngiyafunga ukwenza sengathi nginentshisekelo ngomdlalo wakho wevidiyo wakamuva (faka umdlalo wokuzilibazisa ofanele) ukuthatheka"
“Ngiyathembisa ukuthi ngiyakuthanda, ngisho noma ungatholi lutho wedwa”
“Ngiyafunga ngisebenzisa iresiphi njengomhlahlandlela lapho ngilungisa ukudla”
"Ngiyathembisa ukuthemba wena noma siphambuka ohlwini lwethu lokudla, ukuzulazula nge-GPS noma izinjongo zempilo"
Kunezikhathi futhi empilweni lapho singaba matasa kakhulu ngempilo, ngokusebenza, ukuba ngumzali, umsebenzi wokuzilibazisa - futhi nokuphila kobuqu bethu uqobo kunokuhlala ebudlelwaneni. Lezi zikhathi ziyinselele ebudlelwaneni, futhi ziyizimbangela ezivamile zezingxabano.
Nazi ezinye izifungo ezibonisa le nselele futhi zisikhumbuza ukuthi sikhumbule lokho esakuthembisa lapho senza izifungo zomcimbi womshado, noma ngabe umlingani wethu esiphatha kabi ngokungabi khona-
"Ngiyathembisa ukukhumbula ukuthi akekho kithi ongaphelele kepha kunalokho ngiphokophele ukuzikhumbuza ngezindlela esiphelele ngazo komunye nomunye"
"Ngiyathembisa ukukukholelwa uma ungincoma, nokuthi ngizosebenzisa ukubhuqa kuphela uma kudingeka"
“Ngizokuthanda ngisho nangezinsuku engingakuthandi ngazo”
“Ngiyathembisa ukukhuthaza uzwelo lwakho ngoba yilokho okwenza uhluke futhi umangalisa”
"Ngiyathembisa ukuwondla amaphupho akho ngoba ngawo umphefumulo wakho uyakhanya"
“Ngiyafunga ngiyawazisa amahluko wethu njengalokho esivumelana ngakho”
"Ngizojabula ngezigemegeme nezinselelo zethu eziningi"
Ekugcineni, esinye isigaba sezifungo zomcimbi womshado esifana nezethembiso ezicacile, ezinikezwe ngendlela yokuthi wonke umuntu azoqonda incazelo yangempela (uthando, inhlonipho, umusa nokubonga).
Manje, lezi zithembiso kungenzeka zingahlekisi njengezinye, kepha bazoqiniseka ukuthinta ngisho nezinhliziyo ezilukhuni. Futhi izokusebenzela ukukukhumbuza, ngezikhathi zokuswela, noma ukubonga ukukhumbula ukuthi uthembise ukuthi uzomphatha kanjani umlingani wakho.
Nazi izibonelo ezinhle kakhulu zalezi zinhlobo zezifungo, ezikhishwe kuPinterest-
“Angiziboni lezi zifungo njengezethembiso, kodwa njengamalungelo, njengoba nje nami ngibona impilo yami nawe njengelungelo - hhayi nje isithembiso”
“Ngizosebenza nawe njengozakwethu, hhayi ukuthi nginawe kodwa ngisebenza nawe njengengxenye yakho konke”
“Bengiqala ukungakholelwa kwabalingani bomphefumulo, kodwa ngilapha namuhla ngoba ungenze ngakholwa”
“Ngizohleka nawe, hhayi wena”
“Ngiyathembisa ukuthi awusoze wadabuka, futhi awusoze waba nesizungu nokuthi uzongidansa njalo”
“Ngithembisa ukukuthanda njengoba unjalo, hhayi njengomuntu ebengicabanga ukuthi uzoba yikho”
Futhi owamanqamu wethu, kepha a intandokazi isifungo - mhlawumbe ngoba sisondelene neqiniso lesi sifungo somcimbi womshado:
“Ngiyathembisa ukuthi ngiyakuthanda, ngiyakuhlonipha, ngiyakweseka futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke okunye qiniseka ukuthi angikumemezi ngoba ngilambile ”