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Uma ungumuntu onjengami, into yokugcina oyifunayo ukuthintwa nguzakwenu lapho nilwa. Kwakuthi uma mina nomlingani wami silwa, futhi angilule nganoma iyiphi indlela, ngivele ngisuke. Ngangiwela nezingalo zami, mhlawumbe ngize ngifulathele. Nokukhanya. Nganginokukhanya okuhle impela engakhula ebuntwaneni ngenkathi ngicasukela abazali bami.
Kepha bengilolonga indlela entsha yokulwa.
Ingozi nobuchopho beRptilian
Kunesizathu esihle sokuthi kungani sithambekele ekusukeni ngesikhathi sokulwa: asizizwa siphephile. Ngokuqondile, ubuchopho bethu bezilwane ezihuquzelayo buzwa ingozi — impilo noma uhlobo lohlobo lobungozi- kanye nezinhlelo zethu zemizwa ezizimele ziya empini noma ezindizeni. Kungani ubuchopho be-reptilia buqala lapho silwa nokuthi ngubani ogeza izitsha? Ngoba le ngxenye yokuqala yobuchopho bethu ihlelwe kusukela lapho izalwa ukuthi ichukunyiswe lapho izidingo zethu zokunamathiselwa zingatholakali. Ngamanye amagama, sizizwa siphephile lapho umama esinika ukudla nendawo yokuhlala nothando, futhi i-alamu likhala lapho izidingo zethu zingatholakali ... ngoba ekugcineni, usana lufa uma umnakekeli engazanelisi izidingo zabo. Ngokushesha amashumi ambalwa eminyaka kanye nohlobo lwesibopho sokunamathisela esinalo nomlingani wethu wezothando sikhombisa okunamathiselwe ebesinakho nabanakekeli bethu abayinhloko. Lapho leso sibopho sisongelwa, i-alamu iyakhala futhi sesabela izimpilo zethu.
Sonke siyazi ukuthi ukulwa nomunye wethu obalulekile kungenzeka ukuthi akusona isimo sempilo noma sokufa. Ngakho-ke okudingeka sikwenze ukweqa umlayezo wethu wobuchopho obuyisiphukuphuku futhi siwutshele ukuthi uhlale uzolile (futhi ulwe). Kepha lwa ngendlela ehlukile: hhayi sengathi siyizilwane ezinwabuzelayo, noma izingane ezingakwazi ukuzisiza, silwela ukusindisa izimpilo zethu, kepha ngomoya ophansi nangawo wonke lawo mandla amakhulu eza nezingxenye zobuchopho bethu eziguquke kakhulu: ikhono lokuba nothando, onozwela, ophanayo, onelukuluku, onakekelayo, omnene, onengqondo futhi ocabangayo.
Uthando nobuchopho beLimbic
Faka uhlelo lwe-limbic. Le yingxenye yobuchopho obhekele impilo yethu engokomzwelo. Yingxenye yethu ehlukanisa izilwane ezincelisayo njengeziphenduke kakhulu kunezilwane ezihuquzelayo; lokho kusenza sifune ukuba nezinja zabangane ngaphezu kwezingwenya; futhi lokho kwenza ukuthandana kube mnandi kakhulu futhi ukudabuka kwenhliziyo kube buhlungu kakhulu.
Lapho sibambana ngezandla futhi sibukana ngamehlo athambile nothando, senza inqubo enhle ebizwa ngokuthi i-limbic resonance. I-resonance yeLimbic ukuhlanganiswa kwesimo sangaphakathi somuntu komunye. Ukufundwa kwengqondo kwesistimu yemizwa-ukufunda imizwa uma uthanda. I-Limbic resonance yindlela umama azi ngayo lokho okudingwa yingane yakhe. Yilokho okwenza kube lula ngomhlambi wezinyoni ukuba undize ndawonye ... umhlambi wonke ujikele kwesobunxele kungekho nyoni ethile ephethe. Lapho sisesivumelwaneni somzimba nomuntu esimthandayo, sisebenzisa isimo sangaphakathi sangaphakathi ngokuzenzakalela.
Ukubaluleka kokufunda abanye
Kusukela sazalwa, besilokhu sizijwayeza ukufunda abantu– ubuso babo, ukubukeka kwamehlo abo, amandla abo. Kungani? Yikhono lokusinda eliholela ekuphepheni nasekuphatheni kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu, kwimininingwane yolwazi mayelana nakho konke okubalulekile kwangaphakathi kwesinye. Sikuthatha kancane ukubaluleka kokufunda abanye, kodwa futhi siyazi ukuthi labo abakwaziyo ukwenza lokhu bayaphumelela: abazali abangcono bazinakekela izingane zabo, abaninimabhizinisi abangcono bazinakekela amaklayenti abo, izikhulumi ezingcono ezinamathele kubalaleli bazo. Kepha leli khono liyakhohlakala uma kukhulunywa ngothando lwezithandani. Lapho silwa nabanye bethu ababalulekile, sivame ukubakhipha esikhundleni sokubashuna.
Lapho sikhetha ukuzivulela esikhundleni, sinethuba lokuziqonda ngokujule kakhudlwana. Isibonelo, iqiniso lokuthi kungani ngicasuka lapho izitsha zingasetshenziswanga alihlobene neze nezitsha. Kungukuthi kungikhumbuza ngendlu yami eneziphithiphithi, engcolile ngikhula ngenxa yokuphuza utshwala kukamama ... futhi kungishiya ngizizwa ngineyucky ngoba kuvusa inkumbulo endala yokuthi impilo yami yayinjani ngaleso sikhathi. Lapho umlingani wami ekuqonda lokho ngami, maningi amathuba okuthi ageze izitsha ukungisiza ngipholise isilonda esishiywe ngumama wami onganaki. Lapho siqonda ubuntu bomlingani wethu ... ukuba sengozini kwabo, imihuzuko yabo engokomzwelo ... khona-ke umsebenzi wabashadikazi uba ngowokupholisa kunokuba ulwe.
Ngakho-ke, uyakhetha. Ungalwa njengezilwane ezihuquzelayo, ulwe ngokungazi ukuze uhlale uphila. Noma ungakhetha ukuphefumula kakhulu, uthathe izandla zesithandwa sakho, ubheke ngothando ngamehlo athambile, futhi uqinise ukuxhumana kwakho nge-limbic resonance. Lapho sihlangana futhi, siyakhumbula ukuthi siphephile nokuthi siyathandana. Umfutho wethu wokuzivikela ngokuhlasela omunye ukhohliwe futhi umfutho wethu wokuba yimbuyiselo enakekela ngesisa. Ku-limbic resonance, sinekhono lokulungisa iphutha lobuchopho bezilwane ezihuquzelayo: Angikho engozini, ngithandana futhi ngifuna ukuhlala othandweni.