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- 1) Khuluma ngakho
- 2) Sebenzani ndawonye
- 3) Yamukela ukuzimisela
- 4) Iya ohambweni lwensimu
- 5) Thola amanye amathuluzi
Masibhekane nakho; ucansi lungathola isidina kancane kwesinye isikhathi. Lapho nje i-oxytocin nama-pheromones kuguga izinto ebesizenza njengombhangqwana kungabe kusaba mnandi njengangaphambili. Lokho noma asizizwa sixhumekile futhi asenzi ucansi oluningi. Kwenzeka kwabangcono kakhulu kithi. Abanye abantu bamukela inqubo yezocansi, kanti abanye bangathanda ukuhlukahluka okuthile. Ngikholwa ukuthi zombili zingaba yiqiniso ngasikhathi sinye.
Kodwa-ke, uma uzizwa sengathi wena nomlingani wakho nisenkingeni yezocansi nazi izinto ezinhlanu ongazenza ukuthuthukisa impilo yakho yezocansi.
1) Khuluma ngakho
Izikhathi eziningi imibhangqwana iba nenkinga yokukhulumisana ngemizwa yayo mayelana nocansi. Kungaba nzima nokuqondisa futhi sitshele umlingani wethu ukuthi sithandani. Sonke siyazi ukuthi ophathina bethu ababona abafundi bengqondo ngasikhathi sinye sivame ukucabanga ukuthi bayazi ukuthi sizizwa kanjani noma lapho okuthile kusebenza noma kungasisebenzeli. Noma ngabe yikuphi ukukhathazeka kwakho (imvamisa, inqubo, ukukhathazeka kokusebenza, njll.) Kungasiza ukwabelana ngalokhu nomlingani wakho.
Okungenani, bazoba nokuqonda okungcono kokuthi ukuphi nokuthi uhlangabezana nani. Kunzima ukuthola okufunayo uma umlingani wakho engazi ukuthi yini leyo.
Khumbula ukuthi ukuxhumana kuyindlela yomphakathi. Nobabili kudingeka nikhulume futhi nilalele. Abantu bavame ukungitshela ukuthi bazigwema kanjani izingxoxo ezidingekayo nabantu ngoba "abafuni ukulimaza imizwa yabo". Gcina engqondweni ukugwema ukubhekana nezinkinga ezibalulekile ezithinta ubudlelwano bakho kungalimaza kakhulu kunokuthembeka ngakho.
Eqinisweni, sigwema ukungakhululeki kokuhlala nokuphendula kothandekayo wethu. Lokhu akuyona into elula ukuyenza. Uma kushiwo lokho, ukuthula kwenza nomonakalo omkhulu futhi inkinga ayikaze ixazululwe.
2) Sebenzani ndawonye
Ngikholwa ukuthi imibhangqwana enempilo kakhulu yenza izinto kahle ngokubambisana futhi futhi ngokuzimela. Lokho kuyashiwo, ngemuva kokukhuluma ngalokho ukukhathazeka / udaba / inhloso yezocansi okuyikho, ukusebenza njengeqembu ukubhekana nakho kuyasiza.
Lesi sinyathelo sihambisana nesinyathelo sokugcina. Imvamisa, lapho umuntu oyedwa efaka wonke umzamo ngenkathi omunye umlingani ewukhipha noma uhamba nje nokugeleza uthola imiphumela emibi. Lokhu futhi kushiya indawo yokuba intukuthelo ikhule. Woza nemibono bese wabelana ngayo. Zama ukuletha ukudlala enqubeni. Ucansi kufanele lube mnandi.
Kumele futhi kuvunywe ukuthi eminye imibhangqwana ingahle ishaye ngamandla lapho izama ukuthola izindlela zokubhekana nezinkinga ezibalulekile (noma ngisho nokukhuluma ngazo). Lokhu akubonisi njalo imiphumela emibi kepha inqubo ingasizwa uma ufuna izithandani noma owelapha ngocansi.
Lokhu kungakusiza uthole indawo evumelana futhi ubhekane nanoma ikuphi ukumelana nenqubo ezayo. Noma singathokozile kungaba nzima ukuqala ukwenza izinguquko ezidingekayo ukuze sizizwe singcono. Ukwesekwa okwengeziwe kungazuzisa ngalezi zikhathi.
3) Yamukela ukuzimisela
Kwesinye isikhathi kuyenzeka ukuthi izinjini zombili zabalingani zingavuseleli amandla afanayo wehhashi. Uma lokhu kuyisimo sobudlelwano bakho kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi akudingeki ukuthi ukhishwe wonke ukuze ube nokuhlangenwe nakho okuhle kwezocansi nomlingani wakho. Kumele uzimisele kuphela. Abantu abahlali ngaso sonke isikhathi endaweni eyodwa. Umlingani oyedwa angahlala ekulungele ukuhamba ngenkathi omunye ethatha isikhathi esithe xaxa enjini yabo efudumele.
Njengezithandani, ningeza namakhodi ahlukile ukukhombisa ukuzimisela ukusondelana. Ungaqhamuka nohlelo lwakho ndawonye, olukhombisa isitayela sakho. Ezinye izibonelo zingaba lula njengebhodi lokusula elomile ongabhala "kulo" noma "ucishe" noma ungathola ubuciko obengeziwe. Kungasiza futhi ukunikeza umlingani wakho imibono mayelana nokuthi ungavula kanjani futhi ukulungele ukuzibandakanya nabo.
Mhlawumbe udinga ukukhuluma ngendlela ethile noma ufuna ukuzizwa ufiswa ngumlingani wakho. Uma ungabatshela ezinye izindlela ongathanda ukuthi lokhu kuvezwe ngazo kungabasiza bahlangabezane nezidingo zakho kangcono.
Ngasikhathi sinye, uma umlingani wakho ekhuluma abanandaba nokuthi basondelene kubalulekile ukuthi ukuhloniphe lokhu futhi ugweme ukuzama ukubaphoqa. Ukubacindezela kuvame ukunezela ekwahlukaneni kunokuba sikuvale. Noma ngabe nishadile noma benindawonye iminyaka, imvume yinto edingekayo empilweni yocansi enempilo.
4) Iya ohambweni lwensimu
Lesi sihloko singazwakala singajwayelekile kepha ngincoma ukuthi uhambe ohambweni ukuze ubuchopho bakho bobulili buhambe. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna ukuphunyuka ngempelasonto noma uchitha amahora ambalwa egumbini lehhotela likanokusho kwesinye isikhathi ukushintshwa kwezwe kungabangela injabulo ethile. Akuyona inketho yokubaleka ngaso sonke isikhathi kepha nokushintsha indawo olala nayo kungenza umehluko.
Zama igumbi elihlukile endlini. Uma unezingane, cabanga ukuthola umuntu ozoba ngumsizi kusihlwa ukuze ube nobumfihlo obuningi futhi uthathe isikhathi sokuhlola izingxenye ezahlukahlukene zekhaya lakho ezingaba yindawo engafakwanga ku-repertoire yakho yezocansi.
Omunye umqondo kungaba ukusebenzisa izinhlelo zokusebenza ezikuvumela ukuthi uthole igumbi lehhotela elihle amahora ambalwa. Lokhu kukunikeza indawo entsha futhi kuzokwenza leso sikhathi kube ngamabomu kepha ngeke kubulale isikhwama sakho semali. Ungafaka iqhaza lokulingisa ngokuqala kubha yehhotela futhi nenze njengalokhu nihlangana okokuqala ngqa.
Lokhu kunganikeza umfutho wokudala ngokwengeziwe ngokuthi ucabanga kanjani ngempilo yakho yezocansi nomlingani wakho. Sivame ukuba nenkinga yokucabanga ngaphandle kwebhokisi lapho sikujwayele kakhulu ukuhlala kulo. Ungahle udinge ukwenza ucwaningo ukuze uhambise uhambo lwakho lwensimu ukuze luhambisane nezidingo zakho.
5) Thola amanye amathuluzi
Kungaba usizo ukuya esitolo sendawo socansi futhi uhlole amathoyizi ahlukene abanawo lapho. Le kungaba yindlela ebalulekile yokuhlola izinto ezintsha ongathanda ukuzizama ongahle ungazicabangi. Enye indlela ukubhalisela insizakalo ekuthumela ukuhlehliswa kwemikhiqizo enabantu abadala. Lokhu kungagcina izinto zithokozisa ngokungeza ukusonta okusha futhi nobabili ningakhetha ukuthi yini enifuna ukuyifaka kusihlwa (noma ekuseni noma ntambama).
Ukuqamba amamenyu wezocansi nakho kuyithuluzi elihle. Lokhu kungafaka inombolo esethiwe yezinto ofuna ukuzizama. Ungakwenza lokhu ngezindlela ezimbalwa ezahlukahlukene. Umuntu ngamunye uza nezigaba ezinjenge-appetizers, entrees, kanye nama-dessert. Lokhu kuzohambisana ne-foreplay, umcimbi omkhulu, nangemva kokudlala. Njengabashadikazi, yabelana ngemenyu yakho futhi ukhethe izinto kuzo zonke ukuze uzame noma umangaze umlingani wakho ngokuthile okuphuma kumenyu yabo.
Enye inguqulo yalokhu ukuhamba ngemisebenzi eluhlaza, ephuzi nokubomvu. Okuluhlaza kungaba yizinto ofuna ukuzizama ngempela, okuphuzi kungaba izinto ovulekele ukuzama, futhi okubomvu kungagcinelwa ama-adventures ongafisi ukuhlanganyela kuwo. Futhi uzokwabelana ngamamenyu akho bese ukhetha izinto ngombala oluhlaza noma ophuzi ku ngamunye.
Lokhu futhi kungakhanyisa imibhangqwana. Ungahle ube nemibono ethile ongahle ube nayo mayelana nokuthi kuzoba yini ohlwini lwabalingani bakho. Le misebenzi ingasiza ukucacisa izinto. Uma amamenyu akho ehluke kakhulu kungasiza ukushintshana ngokukhetha ohlwini lwabanye. Awudingi ukwenza konke ngasikhathi sinye. Umgomo ukuzizwa uxhumeke kakhulu komunye nomunye. Khumbula ukuthi ukuzwa uxhumekile kungasho izinto ezihlukile kubantu abahlukile.
Vuselela impilo yakho yezocansi futhi wakhe ukusondelana okufanele ubuhlobo bakho
Sonke sidinga ukuvuselelwa okuncane emibhalweni yethu yezocansi ngezikhathi ezithile njengezidingo zethu zocansi futhi zifuna ushintsho. Qiniseka ukuthi ungena komunye nomunye endleleni. Kuyingxenye ebalulekile yenqubo yokukhula kobudlelwano. Khumbula ukufinyelela usizo kubashadikazi noma kumelaphi wezocansi uma ubambeka noma ushaya isnag. Lelo elinye ithuluzi okufanele uligcine ebhokisini lakho lamathuluzi. Ngiyethemba lezi zinyathelo ziyakusiza zikuqondise ekutholeni uthando, uthando nokusondelana okukufanele!