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- Izithunzi zesehlukaniso
- Imibuzo okufanele uyibuze
- Ububi bokuthandana nendoda ehlukanisile
- Izinzuzo zokuthandana nowesilisa ohlukanisile
Ukuqomisana nendoda ehlukanisile kungazwakala kuyinto okungekho muntu wesifazane ongayilanda uma enokhetho. Kungani?
Isimo sokuqala semvelo singasho ukuthi indoda isivele yehlulekile ukuyenza ize ifike ekugcineni kwempilo yayo nowesifazane oyedwa. Futhi yilokhu yilowo nalowo gal aphupha ngaye. Kodwa-ke, indoda ehlukanisile inethuba lokuba ngumlingani ophelele, ngoba ubuhle busekuhlanganeni okuwinayo, kunokuba omunye wabalingani.
Nakhu konke okufanele ukwazi futhi ukucabangele uma ucabanga ukuthandana nowesilisa ohlukanisile.
Izithunzi zesehlukaniso
Kuyafana nokuthi awukho umshado ofanayo, isehlukaniso asifani. Lokho kusho ukuthi asikho iseluleko se-cookie-cutter ngokuthandana nendoda ehlukanisile. Esikhundleni salokho, ngaphambi kwanoma yini enye, kufanele wazi hhayi kuphela umlingani wakho omusha kodwa nomlando wakhe.
Lokhu kusebenza kubo bonke ubudlelwano obusha, kepha ikakhulukazi kulokho lapho uphola nomuntu ohlukanisile.
Ngamafuphi, kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kokuqomisana, ake sithi, indoda ehlukanisile ngoba unkosikazi wayo imshiye ngenxa yezindaba eziphindaphindwayo, ukuhlukunyezwa, noma ukuluthwa, nendoda eshiye yodwa nezingane ezine ngumkayo i-rodeo clown .
Lezi zibonelo zeqisa, kepha zilapho ukuthola iphuzu. Elinye ifulegi elibomvu ngesizathu, kanti elinye, ungabonga amazulu ukuthi ukhululwe ukuthi ukuthole.
Imibuzo okufanele uyibuze
Ngakho-ke, imibuzo okufanele uyibuze maqondana nomshado uqobo uqobo. Ngaphandle kwezisekelo, njengokuthi bashade isikhathi esingakanani nokuthi kusukela nini - buza imibuzo esondelene kakhulu.
Ngabe wake wasebenza? Lwalunjani uthando lwabo? Ngemuva kwalokho, kufanele uqonde ukuthi zavela kanjani futhi nini izinkinga. Ingabe kwakuwuthando olwaqhuma olwaqubuka, noma lwaya ngokuya luba inertia? Ngabe izinto zangaphandle zidale izingqinamba phakathi kwakhe ne-ex yakhe? Noma kwakungukuthi imvelo yabo yayihluke kakhulu? Ngabe bafike enkingeni ngokuzumayo futhi bengazi ukuthi bazobhekana kanjani nayo? Noma babeya enhlekeleleni kusukela ekuqhubekeni? Sasinjani isehlukaniso? Yini into ebi kakhulu eyake yenzeka ngenkathi kwenziwa le nqubo? Bunjani ubuhlobo bakhe ne-ex yakhe manje?
Ekugcineni, kufanele futhi uqonde ukuthi ama-akhawunti akhe wayo yonke into anenhloso kangakanani.
Yize ngokuqinisekile uzothambekela ekuthatheni uhlangothi lomlingani wakho omusha (kukho konke ukuthula kwengqondo yakho nemizwa yakho ngaye), lesi yisikhathi sokuba uhlakaniphe futhi ubekezele.
Zama ukuthola imininingwane eminingi ngesahlukaniso ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze uthole isithombe esingokoqobo sokuthi indima yakhe bekuyini.
Ububi bokuthandana nendoda ehlukanisile
Indoda eyayishadile ingazizwa iphikisana ngomshado.
Angahle aphikisane nayo ngokusobala. Ngakho-ke, ngokuya ngezifiso zakho nezinto eziza kuqala kuwe, ungahle uthande ukuba nale ngxoxo nomuntu wakho omusha ngokushesha okukhulu.
Lokhu kuzovimbela ubuhlungu obukhulu benhliziyo nobabili.
Esinye isici esingesihle sokuthandana nendoda ehlukanisile ucezu lomthwalo omkhulu ongokomzwelo ezinye zazo eza nazo. Kungenzeka ukuthi ukulungele ukuthanda futhi.
Ngokufanelekile, yonke imizwa yothando nge-ex yakhe yanyamalala ngesikhathi nobabili nihlangane. Kepha, noma ngabe bekunjalo, isehlukaniso sihlala sinengcindezi futhi simuncu. Ikakhulukazi uma kunentukuthelo enkulu nentukuthelo esalokhu ihleli enhliziyweni yakhe.
Ekugcineni, kunezinkinga eziningi ezisebenzayo ezingase zivele endleleni yobudlelwano obungenandaba. Noma kungumbuzo wokwahlukaniswa kwempahla nokwehlukaniswa ngokwezezimali, noma kungamalungiselelo okuhlala angaxazululwa kwesinye isikhathi, noma, imvamisa, izingane nakho konke okuza nazo, kuzodingeka uzivumelanise nezici eziningi zempilo yomunye umuntu.
Udinga ukuthi uqiniseke ukuthi ukulungele.
Izinzuzo zokuthandana nowesilisa ohlukanisile
Noma kunjalo, ukuthandana nowesilisa ohlukanisile kunezinzuzo ezithile zokuphola nomuntu ongakaze ashade ngaphambilini.
Amandla asobala kakhulu endoda ehlukanisile yisipiliyoni sayo.
Ushadile futhi ukuqonda ngokugcwele ukuthi kusho ukuthini lokhu. Uma ethathe isinqumo sokuphinde azimisele ngomuntu futhi, ungaqiniseka ukuthi leso sinqumo sikwazise ngokuphelele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umlingani wakho omusha uzokwazi kahle ukuthi ufunani. Uzokwazi nokuthi yini angakwazi futhi angakwazi ukuyibekezelela kumlingani wakhe.
Lokho kusho ukuthi ngeke ukhokhelwe ukuthi unakho konke akudingayo ngaphandle kwalapho kunjalo. Futhi usuvele uyazi ukuthi angazibophezela, ngakho-ke lapho ekucosha, ungakhululeka futhi ukujabulele.