Ukushada usemncane. Bese wehluleka. Lokho ukucabanga okujwayelekile akunjalo? Ikakhulukazi uma ufaka isipikili esingeziwe ebhokisini lomngcwabo. Shada usemncane kothile ku- ezempi. Bese wehluleka. Leyo yinkambo ecatshangwayo lapho imishado emincane yezempi ibheke khona kepha akulona iqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi. Imishado yamasosha emincane ingenza okungaphezu kokumane isinde, ingakhula futhi ime isikhathi eside njenganoma yimuphi omunye umshado. Bangaze bagcine beqinile futhi besondelene kuneminye imishado. Nazi ezinye izinto ongazazi ngomshado osemusha wamasosha:
1.Nikhula ndawonye. Lapho ushada usemncane ebusosheni uma ufuna ukuthi usebenze, unenketho eyodwa nokukhetha okukodwa kuphela futhi lokho kufanele khula, khula masinyane. Inqubo yokuvuthwa ingaba nezinhlungu ezithile ezikhulayo, ikakhulukazi lapho kuvela ukungena kwezinto eziningi nokuhamba, kepha into yomlingo ukuthi uma usinda kubo ukhulela ndawonye, wakhe isibopho esikhethekile esikusondeza nakakhulu. Bangaki eminye imibhangqwana eshadile esho ukuthi bakhule ndawonye?
2. Uyazi ukuthi bathini abantu. Ukushada usemncane akukwenzi unganaki umhlaba wonke. Uyazi ukuthi kukhona labo abahleka usulu ngokungathi sína kokuzibophezela kwakho emuva komhlane wakho futhi bethola izimpande ngokumelene nawe. Uyazi ukushada nentsha kubonakala kuhlanya, kuyahlanya kancane, kodwa kanjalo nothando lwakho ngomunye nomunye futhi kukwenza uzimisele nakakhulu ukunamathela kukho.
3. Yuyazi ukuthi uzoshintsha. Awunalwazi ... Ok, mhlawumbe uyisidididi esincane; kufanele ukuthi ube ungazi lutho futhi unamehlo anezinkanyezi ukuze ushade nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Kepha niyazi ukuthi nobabili niyoshintsha eminyakeni edlule. Abantu bashintsha ngaso sonke isikhathi, ikakhulukazi lapho besebancane, futhi ukushada nabancane akuyimisi leyo nqubo, ngakho-ke kunalokho funda nje ukushintsha ndawonye.
4. Uzijabulisa kakhulu. Iminyaka yakho yokuqala yamashumi amabili kufanele ibe yiminyaka emnandi kakhulu, emnandi kakhulu empilweni yakho. Ukushada usemncane akukuyekisi lokho. Usaphuma, usaphuza kancane kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi, uyazi nje ukuthi uzobuyela nobani ekhaya ekupheleni kobusuku.
5. Kungaba nzima. Kwesinye isikhathi zonke izinto abazishoyo ngomshado osemusha wamasosha ziyiqiniso. Kungaba nzima. Awazi ukuthi wenzani. Kwesinye isikhathi kuzwakala kungenakwenzeka. Kepha uyayihlanganisa futhi udlulele kulezo zikhathi ngoba umthanda oshade naye kakhulu kangangokuba ubashade nazo zonke izingqinamba futhi uzimisele ukushaya lezo zingqinamba.
6. Ungene kuwo ukuyinqoba. Ukushada usemncane ebusosheni kuyahlanya kancane, kepha kanjalo nothando lwakho ngoshade naye. Ubashade usemncane ngoba ufuna ukukhula nabo, ufuna ukulwa nabo, futhi ufuna zonke izinsuku zokuphila kwakho ube nabo. Kungenzeka ukuthi ushade usemncane, kepha ukuyo isikhathi eside.
U-Ashley Frisch
U-Ashley uyintombazane yaseCalifornia, owazalelwa wakhulela eSan Diego, eCalifornia. UnguParalegal emini futhi ulandela intshisekelo yakhe yokubhala ebusuku. Ubuye achithe okungenani impelasonto eyodwa ngenyanga evolontiya iHabitat for Humanity, okuyisizathu asikholelwa kakhulu kuso. Washada nomyeni wakhe, osebenza emkhakheni weNavy, ngemuva kokuthandana iminyaka engu-7 ngo-2014. Njengamanje bahlala eCalifornia benempahla yabo eyonakele ngokweqile. kanye nokubuyisa okumnandi ngokwedlulele kwegolide.