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- Isifo sengane yendoda
- Yini ebangela i-man child syndrome?
- Ungabhekana kanjani nendoda engavuthiwe ngokomzwelo
Sibona i- Ingane Yomuntu ama-meme ku-Facebook, lawo abangani bakho besifazane abathumela ngenjabulo. Bafaka owesilisa ohlupheka kabi ngenxa yento ethile encane, mhlawumbe umkhuhlane, noma ukuthi baphakelwe amafutha agcwele kunama-latte angenawo amafutha ku-Starbucks yabo abayithandayo.
Ungahle uzibuze ukuthi yini ingane yomuntu wesilisa. Ake sibheke ezinye ukukhuluma ngezinganekwane yomuntu ongavuthiwe.
Isifo sengane yendoda
Nakhu okufanele ukufune uma ucabanga ukuthi umyeni wakho noma umlingani wakho kungenzeka abe ingane yomuntu:
- Uswele ngokweqile, kepha futhi angakufulathela futhi abande ngokweqile eze kuwe.
- Uhlala ekhononda, imvamisa ngezinto angenamandla okuzilawula, njengokushintsha kwesikhathi sokonga emini, noma ukuthi akukho okuhle kuNetflix. Konke “kuyiphupho” kuye, iphupho elibi elidalwa ngomunye umuntu.
- Akaze azihlanze ngemuva kwakhe. Noma ngabe kusulwa ithileyi lakhe endaweni yokudlela edayisa ukudla okusheshayo, noma ukuqoqa kahle ekhaya, akwenzi lokho. Njengengane, ulindele ukuthi omunye umuntu ashanele ngemuva kwakhe futhi anakekele konke ukungcola.
- Akalokothi afike ngesikhathi. Isikhathi sakho asibalulekile. Uzobonakala sekwedlule isikhathi sokuqokwa kanye nemicimbi yomphakathi. Akasoze abe lapho omdinga khona ukuthi abe ngesikhathi esimisiwe.
- Ukungathembeki. Akakwazanga ukuqamba amanga ukuze avikele futhi asebenzele intshisekelo yakhe
- I-Narcissism. Kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo: uchitha isikhathi esiningi ngokweqile elungisa phambi kwesibuko. Uyazikhathalela nezidingo zabanye, ebeka ezakhe phambili.
- Ubuvila. Akahlanganyeli nomthwalo womsebenzi endlini, okushiya unesibopho kuyo yonke imisebenzi edingekayo ukugcina ikhaya lihamba kahle
- Uzwa abanye abantu bemkweleta
- Umqondo ofakiwe welungelo
- Ucabanga ukuthi uhlala eqinisile kanti abanye kufanele basolwe ngakho konke okungalungile
- Ukwehluleka ukwamukela ukuthi kunemiphumela kuzo zonke izenzo, ikakhulukazi izenzo ezinobuthi
Yini ebangela i-man child syndrome?
Amandla okushayela ngemuva kwe- indoda engavuthiwe ngokomzwelo ukukhuliswa kwakhe. Abafana abazali babo ababasiza kusukela besebancane bavame ukukhula babe ngabantwana besilisa. Babekwenzele konke bengabafana abancane futhi balindele ukuthi lokhu kuqhubeke impilo yabo yonke.
Uma ushade nengane eyindoda, uzoba nezinselelo eziningi. Eyokuqala ukuthi uma ingane yakho yendoda yenqaba ukusebenza. Ingane eyindoda ingaba nobunzima bokubamba umsebenzi ngenxa yesimo sabo sengqondo sokungakhuli kwabanye.
Akekho umqashi oyokwazisa umuntu ongeke azibophezele ngamaphutha emsebenzini. Kwesinye isikhathi ingane eyindoda ingahlala emsebenzini ngoba imvamisa iyabukeka futhi iyajabulisa ekuqaleni (njengengane) kodwa ekugcineni, abaphathi bayabona ukuthi bayisikweletu.
Ngaleso sikhathi, bazoxoshwa. Uma lokhu kwenzeka kaninginingi, akumangazi ukuthi ingane yomuntu wesilisa iyenqaba ukusebenza. Kepha esikhundleni sokubheka ngaphakathi ukubuza ukuthi kungani engakwazi ukubamba umsebenzi, ingane yendoda izosola wonke umuntu:
“Bonke bayiziphukuphuku. Ngiyisisebenzi esihle kunazo zonke laphaya; kuyiphutha labo ukuthi abayiboni ingcweti uma iphambi kwabo. ”
Uma ushade nengane eyindoda, yiziphi ezinye izindlela zokubhekana nalesi simo?
Ungabhekana kanjani nendoda engavuthiwe ngokomzwelo
Okokuqala, yazi ukuthi awuwedwa. Izingane zamadoda ekuqaleni zingathandeka kakhulu, zikudonsele ezweni lazo. Ngakho-ke ungazibeki icala ngokungena kulobu budlelwano.
Okwesibili, qonda ukuthi kuncane ongakwenza ukuze ushintshe indlela aziphethe ngayo ngokomoya. Indlela yakhe yokuba egxilile, ibuyela ebuntwaneni bakhe.
Futhi ngoba izingane zamadoda azikwazi ukubona ukuthi indlela esebenza ngayo emhlabeni inemiphumela emibi kwabanye, abakhuthazekile ukufuna ushintsho.
Kusho ukuthini lokhu kuwe? Isu elilodwa ukungakunaki ukuziphatha kwakhe. Kepha lokhu kungaba nzima, ikakhulukazi ezintweni ezinkulu ezifana nokuthi uyenqaba ukusebenza. Zibuze: Ngabe ufuna ukuba wedwa owondlayo kulobu budlelwano? Ubudlelwano obungelinganiselwe futhi obenelisayo?
Elinye isu ukuzama ukufinyelela ukuvumelana nendoda yakho eyindoda engumyeni. Uma eyi- umyeni ovilaphayo futhi akukho nhlobo yokuphikisana noma ukuncenga ethintekile, mhlalise phansi umtshele ukuthi angaba negumbi elilodwa endlini lapho angenza khona izinto zakhe.
Igumbi elilodwa kuphela. Indlu esele “yindawo yakho.” Uzogcina ukuhlanzeka nokuhleleka kuwo wonke amagumbi ngaphandle komhume wakhe. Zizwe ukhululekile ukubeka lo mthetho ngaphandle kokumema ingxoxo. Uma ezokwenza njengomntwana, kungalindelwa ukuthi naye aphathwe njengaye.
Ukubhekana ne umyeni ongavuthiwe ngokomzwelo kungaba intela kuwe. Esikhathini esithile, ungahle uthande ukukhuluma nomeluleki noma umelaphi womshado, noma ngabe kufanele uhambe wedwa.
Akumnandi ukuphila impilo ngaphansi kwemigomo yengane yomuntu wesilisa. Wonke umuntu ufanelwe ubuhlobo obujabulisayo nobulinganiselayo; kuyinjongo yokuphila, akunjalo? Ngeke kube yinto engenangqondo ukuthi uzithole usesimweni lapho uqala khona ukuzibuza ukuthi kufanele ubushiye yini ubudlelwano.
Amakhosikazi angaphambilini ashiye amadoda awo angakakhuli ngokomzwelo athi: Uma usola okwakho isoka elingavuthiwe ikhombisa izimpawu zokuba yingane yesilisa, ungazibophezeli ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside.
Ungagxili ezintweni ngokushesha okukhulu, noma ngabe muhle ngokungaboni, uyathandeka futhi uyahlekisa. Funda ukuthi ungazibona kanjani izimpawu zesifo sengane, futhi uma ubona, ukhombisa eziningi zalezi, zisindise ekuqondeni ebudlelwaneni obungajabulisi.
Shiya uthole omunye umuntu. Kukhona izinhlanzi eziningi olwandle, ngakho-ke qala ukubhukuda futhi. Ungalokothi ulahle ithemba. Uzothola umdlalo wakho ophelele, futhi kulokhu kuzoba nabantu abadala.