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- Kungani abanye bethu benabangani abambalwa ngemuva komshado?
- Wonke umngane uhlukile
- Kungani silindele ukuthi umlingani / umlingani wethu abe yikho konke kithi?
"Umngani ngamunye umele umhlaba kithina, umhlaba okungenzeka awuzalwanga baze bafike, futhi kungalo mhlangano kuphela lapho kuzalwa khona umhlaba omusha."
- Anaïs Nin, IDayari ka-Anaïs Nin, Umq. 1: 1931-1934
Kube nezifundo ezimbalwa ngokubaluleka kobungani. Iningi lezifundo likhombisa ukuthi yini okusebenza ebuchosheni lapho sinomngani ngokungafani nomuntu esingamazi. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ngisho noma umfokazi efana nathi.
"Kuzo zonke izivivinyo, ukusondelana kepha ukungafani kufana nokushayela izimpendulo ezifundeni zangaphambi komphakathi nasezifundeni ezihambisanayo kulo lonke ubuchopho," kusho uKrienen. “Imiphumela ikhombisa ukusondelana emphakathini kubaluleke kakhulu kunezinkolelo ezabiwe lapho kuhlolwa abanye. Funda iMontague, PhD, yaseBaylor College of Medicine, onguchwepheshe ekuthathweni kwezinqumo nasekubumbeni izinzwa ze-computational neuroscience, uthe, "Ababhali bakhuluma ngengxenye ebalulekile yokwazi umphakathi - ukubaluleka kwabantu abasondelene nathi," kusho uMontague.
Kungani abanye bethu benabangani abambalwa ngemuva komshado?
Ngakho-ke ngenkathi isayensi ingukuthi kunokubaluleka kwabantu abasondelene nathi, kungani abanye bethu benabangani abambalwa? Ngikhuluma nje ngabangane ubuso nobuso kunokuba ngabangane abangama-500 onabo ku-Facebook noma abalandeli be-1000 ku-Twitter.
Engikubonayo ekwenziweni kwami ukwehla kancane kobungani ngemuva komshado. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi abesifazane banakekela futhi bagcina abangani isikhathi eside kunabesilisa. Kepha kubaluleke kangakanani sibubona ubungani ngiyazibuza lokhu ngoba ngenkathi ngisebenza nabashadikazi, ngivame ukumangazwa okulindelwe ngumlingani komunye nomunye. Engiqonde ukukusho ukuthi, "uma ungithanda, uzozinakekela zonke izidingo zami futhi ube yikho konke kimi." Manje angikaze ngizwe lawo mazwi ngqo, kodwa ngiwuzwile impela umuzwa.
Umshado noma ukubambisana kungobunye bobudlelwano obuseduze kakhulu umuntu angaba nabo, kepha akusibo kuphela ubuhlobo umuntu angaba nabo.
Wonke umngane uhlukile
Lapho sibheka ubungani bethu, singabona zonke izici ezahlukahlukene abangane bethu abanazo. Umngane ngamunye usikhonza ngendlela ehlukile. Omunye umngani muhle ukubuza imfashini noma imibuzo yokwakha, kanti omunye umngane nguye okufanele ahambe naye eminyuziyamu. Omunye umngani angaba mkhulu ezimeni eziphuthumayo, kanti omunye udinga isaziso esihleliwe. Umngane ngamunye ufaka okuthile ngaphakathi kithi. Okuthile okungenzeka ukuthi akubonisanga kuze kufike lowo mngani. Uhlobo olunjengokucaphuna ekuqaleni kwalesi siqephu.
Okungiletha kulo mbuzo:
Kungani silindele ukuthi umlingani / umlingani wethu abe yikho konke kithi?
Ngiye ngabona abalingani bami bemangele ngomqondo wokuthi umlingani wabo akafuni ukuhlanganyela kukho konke. Ngabe lokhu kungumbono waseMelika wokuthi uma sesibambisene izidingo ziyabhekwa, noma zonke izinkinga zingalungiswa? Kwesinye isikhathi ukulungisa izinto kusho ukuvuma ukungavumelani. Kwesinye isikhathi kufanele uvele uye kulelo khonsathi nomngani kunokuba uye kozakwethu ngoba umlingani wakho akafuni ukuya. Kuthiwani uma ugula? Izandla eziningi zingadingeka ukuze unakekele wena, hhayi esisodwa nje. Kusinda kakhulu ukuba ngumthwalo wedwa futhi kuphela. Yebo, umlingani wakho ungumngane wakho omkhulu, kodwa hhayi owakho wedwa.
Gcina umshado wakho / ubambiswano lobungani obujulile kanye nothando lwezithandani. Phinda uvuselele ubungani bakho ukuvula umhlaba omusha bese ubhebhethekisa ubuchopho bakho. Lobu bungani bungasebenza kuphela ekuthuthukiseni impilo yakho ebambisanayo futhi.