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- Ungahlali ndawonye ukufakazela iphuzu
- Khuluma nommeli
- Ungangabazi ngokwakho
- Khuluma Nomelaphi
- Ungazifihli emndenini nakubangane
- Khumbula ukuthi yini ebaluleke kakhulu
Indlela eya emshadweni wezitabane ngokusemthethweni ibikade kodwa kuwufanele umzamo, futhi abaningi babamba iqhaza ezinzuzweni.
Ngeshwa, yize imibhangqwana eminingi engongqingili ilinde isikhathi eside ukuthi ishade, njengabalingani bayo abashadile abathandanayo, nabo basengozini yesehlukaniso.
Eqinisweni, lapho ezinye izifundazwe bezikubhalise ngokomthetho, kepha abanye bengakwenzanga, eminye imibhangqwana engqingili yakhetha ukushada kwezinye izifunda, kepha amakhaya abo awazange ayazise imishado yabo, okwakusho nokuthi uma befuna ukuhlukanisa, bona angikwazi ukwenza kanjalo.
Ngenxa yalokhu, lapho isizwe sibhalisa ngokusemthethweni imishado yezitabane, eminye imibhangqwana yayilinde umthetho ukuze idivose. Konke lokho kushiwo, isehlukaniso sinzima, noma ngabe ungubani.
Emibhangqwaneni engongqingili bangase bakuthole kunzima nakakhulu, ngoba kungenzeka bangabi nabangane abadlule kukho noma baqonde yonke imithelela eyingqayizivele imibhangqwana engqingili ebhekana nayo lapho ihlukana.
Nawa amanye amathiphu imibhangqwana eyizitabane ezahlukanisa.
Ungahlali ndawonye ukufakazela iphuzu
Uma ungajabule futhi umshado udinga ukuphela, ungazizwa ubophekile ukuhlala. Ungazizwa sengathi udinga ukukukhombisa ukufakazela ukuthi ukwenza umshado wezitabane ngokusemthethweni kwakufanele umzamo.
Ungazizwa sengathi uwedwa kufanele ukuthwale lokhu emahlombe akho. Ukwenza umshado wezitabane ngokusemthethweni kwakufanele umzamo, noma ngabe kusho ukuthi akuyona yonke imishado yezitabane ehlala isikhathi eside.
Iphuzu ukuthi unenkululeko yokuzikhethela. Ngakho-ke khetha okungcono kakhulu kuwe, hhayi lokho onomuzwa wokuthi udinga ukukwenzela abanye.
Khuluma nommeli
Ungazami ukukwenza wedwa, uma ukhuluma ngokusemthethweni. Yize isehlukaniso sisho ukuthi ubuhlobo buyaphela nayo yonke imizwa ehambisana nakho, futhi kuyinqubo yezomthetho edinga ubuchwepheshe obuthile.
Ikakhulukazi uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi izinto kufanele zihlukaniswe kanjani, futhi ikakhulukazi uma izingane zibandakanyekile, uzodinga usizo lommeli omuhle ukukusiza uzulazule ngendlela efanelekile.
Futhi, cabanga ukuthi leyo mithetho iyaqhubeka nokushintsha, ngakho-ke udinga umuntu owazi ukungena nokuphuma kwale mithetho.
Vele, ukulungisa okuningi ngaphandle kwenkantolo kungasiza ukugcina izinto zizolile futhi zingabizi kakhulu, kepha qiniseka ukuthi unomuntu ohlangothini lwakho okulwelayo.
Ungangabazi ngokwakho
Ungumuntu obalulekile ofanelwe uthando. Kwakungafanele nje ukuba nalo muntu.
Futhi, ungakwazi ukuzitshela lokho, kepha ukukholelwa ukuthi kungenye into.
Ngempela ube nokungabaza okuningi ngawe empilweni yakho yonke, uzizwa uhlukile kunabanye, futhi ukuphuma kubantu osondelene nabo kukwenze wazibuza ukuthi ungubani ngempela.
Isehlukaniso singenza into efanayo. Ufunani empilweni? Ungubani?
Le yimibuzo abaningi abazibuza yona; vele uqiniseke ukuthi uphendula leyo mibuzo ngezimpendulo ezinhle. Yebo, uyadivosa, kepha akusikho ukuthi ungubani.
Khuluma Nomelaphi
Ungazizwa sengathi uphilile futhi unamandla anele okuqeda lokhu wedwa. Kepha ungazizwa sengathi “kuyadela” uma ungena ehhovisi lodokotela.
Eqinisweni, ukubona umeluleki onguchwepheshe kungaba enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongazenzela zona.
Udokotela wakho angakusiza ukhulume ngemizwelo engazizwa sengathi iyawa ngaphakathi kwekhanda lakho, futhi umelaphi wakho angakusiza ube nomqondo wakho konke.
Ungazifihli emndenini nakubangane
Lokhu kungenye yezinto ezimbi kakhulu ongazenza, noma kungahle kube okulingayo.
Ikakhulukazi uma uke waba nomndeni noma abangani abebengakusekeli kahle ukuthi ungungqingili noma ushadile, ungazizwa sengathi bazojabula bathi, “Ngikutshele kanjalo.”
Lokho kungalimaza. Kepha abantu bangakumangaza nawe!
Nikeza umndeni wakho nabangane ithuba lokukuxhasa. Uma bengenzi kanjalo, thula buthule.
Iya kulabo bangani namalungu omndeni akwamukela ngokwalokho oyikho futhi akulungele ngalesi sikhathi esinzima. Ungafihli ngasese, kepha khetha lapho kufanele.
Kuzozizwa kukuhle ukuvula umngani omethembayo noma ilungu lomndeni onakekelayo futhi onganikela ngehlombe lakho ukuze uncike kulo.
Ngasikhathi sinye, ungakhulumi nje ngesehlukaniso — yize kungenye yezinto ezinkulu ezenzeka empilweni yakho njengamanje. Ukuqumba imicabango emibi isikhathi eside akunakuba nomphumela omuhle.
Khumbula ukuthi yini ebaluleke kakhulu
Ungahle ubanjwe ukuthi ngubani othola indlu, imoto, i-akhawunti yomhlalaphansi, noma ama-knick-knacks phakathi nenqubo. Yize lokho kungabonakala kubaluleke kakhulu njengamanje, akufanele ubusuku bokulala.
Njengamanje, into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyenze ukuzinakekela. Zivocavoce, udle kahle, uchithe isikhathi uxhumana nomndeni nabangane, futhi wenze izinto ozithandayo.
Lokho yikho okuzokudlulisa kulokhu, hhayi izinto.
Impela, udinga ukuthi ucabangele ukuphepha kwakho kwezezimali nekusasa lakho, kepha khumbula okubaluleke kakhulu akulinganiswa ngamadola.