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Into eyodwa engaguquki empilweni ushintsho. Kepha ukwamukela ushintsho akulula. Ushintsho luziletha nezimo nezinselelo ezingalindelekile esingakaze sibhekane nazo noma sihlangabezane nazo ngaphambilini. Noma kunjalo, akudingeki ukuthi kube njalo. Abazali bethu, abasinakekelayo nabeluleki bethu, ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo kusisiza ukuthi silungiselele izinguquko ezisehlelayo, basitshele ukuthi yini okumele siyilindele, okufanele sikwenze nokungafanele sikwenze.
Umshado yinto eyenzeka okungenani kanye ezimpilweni zabantu abaningi. Ushintsho olukhulu kakhulu olungaguqula izimpilo zethu ngokuphelele. Lapho sishada, sihlanganisa izimpilo zethu nomunye umuntu futhi sethembisa ukuthi sizochitha impilo yethu yonke sinabo kuzo zombili izikhathi ezinhle nezimbi.
Umshado ucacisa ukuthi impilo yethu izofezeka noma ibe nzima kanjani. Usizo oluncane oluvela kubazali bethu lungasisiza ukuthi sishade nomuntu ofanele, ngezizathu ezifanele futhi sibe nomshado ojabulisayo nowanelisayo.
Nazi izeluleko ubaba azinikeza indodana yakhe ngomshado:
1. Baningi abesifazane abazothokozela futhi bajabulele izipho obathengela zona. Kepha akubona bonke abazokhathalela ukuthola ukuthi usebenzise malini kubo nokuthi uzilondolozele malini. Shada nowesifazane ongazibongi nje kuphela izipho kodwa futhi onakekela nokonga kwakho, imali oyisebenzele kanzima.
2. Uma owesifazane enawe ngenxa yengcebo yakho nengcebo yakho, ungamshadi. Shada nowesifazane okulungele ukulwa nawe, okulungele ukwabelana ngezinkinga zakho.
3. Uthando lodwa akusona isizathu esanele ukuba ungashada. Umshado uyisibopho esisondelene kakhulu futhi esiyinkimbinkimbi. Noma kudingeka, uthando alwanele emshadweni ophumelelayo. Ukuqonda, ukuhambisana, ukwethembana, inhlonipho, ukuzibophezela, ukwesekwa ngezinye zezimpawu ezidingekayo emshadweni omude nenjabulo.
4. Uma unezinkinga nomkakho, hlala ukhumbula ukuthi ungalokothi uklabalase, ungalokothi uhlukumeze, noma ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Izinkinga zakho zizoxazululwa kepha inhliziyo yakhe ingathola izibazi unomphela.
5. Uma owesifazane wakho ame ngakuwe futhi wakusekela ukuze uqhubeke nezinto ozithandayo, kufanele ubuyisele umusa ngokwenza okufanayo. Mkhuthaze ukuthi aqhubeke nothando lwakhe futhi amnikeze ukwesekwa okuningi njengoba edinga.
6. Ngaso sonke isikhathi beka phambili kakhulu ukuba yindoda kunokungubaba. Izingane zakho zizokhula futhi ziqhubeke nemisebenzi yazo kodwa, umkakho uhlala ekhona lapho nawe.
7. Ngaphambi kokukhononda ngokuba nenkosikazi ekhathazayo, cabanga, uyayifeza ingxenye yakho yemithwalo yemfanelo yekhaya? Bekungafanele akucindezele uma wenza konke obekufanele ukwenze wedwa.
8. Kungafika isikhathi empilweni yakho lapho ungazizwa sengathi unkosikazi wakho akaseyena lo wesifazane owashada naye. Ngaleso sikhathi, cabanga, ngabe usushintshile yini, kukhona okuthile oyeke ukumenzela khona.
9. Ungasaphazi ingcebo yakho ezinganeni zakho, ezingakaze zazi ukuthi usebenza kanzima kangakanani ukufeza lokho. Yisebenzise kowesifazane owakhuthazelela bonke ubunzima bezingqinamba zakho nawe, umkakho.
10. Khumbula njalo, akufanele neze uqhathanise umkakho nabanye besifazane. Ubekezelela okuthile (nina) abanye besifazane abangakwenzi. Futhi uma usakhetha ukumqhathanisa nabanye besifazane qiniseka ukuthi awukho ngaphansi kokulunge
11. Uma uke uzibuze ukuthi ubuyindoda nobaba omuhle kangakanani empilweni yakho, ungabheki imali nengcebo obenzele yona. Bheka ukumamatheka kwabo bese ubheka ukucwayiza kwamehlo abo.
12. Kungaba izingane zakho noma unkosikazi wakho, ubancome phambi kwabantu kepha ugxeke ngasese kuphela. Ngeke uthande ukuthi bakhombe ukushiyeka kwakho phambi kwabangane bakho nabantu obajwayele, angithi?
13. Isipho esihle kunazo zonke ongasipha izingane zakho ukuthanda umama wazo. Abazali abanothando bakhulisa izingane ezinhle kakhulu.
14. Uma ufuna izingane zakho zikunakekele lapho usugugile, zinakekele nabazali bakho. Izingane zakho zizolandela isibonelo sakho.