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- 1. Nguwe ophethe imizwa yakho
- 2. Yazi ukuthi impi imayelana nani ngempela
- 3.Sebenza usuka endaweni yelukuluku uqhathanisa nenzondo
- 4. Khumbula izindaba zolimi
- 5. Umsebenzi wokulungisa uyingxenye ebalulekile yokulwa
Akugcini nje ukuthi zonke izindaba ezinkulu zinengxabano, bonke ubuhlobo obukhulu bunakho futhi. Ngikuthola njalo kuthakazelisa lapho umbuzo othi, "Bunjani ubudlelwano bakho?" uhlangatshezwa nempendulo, “Kuhle. Asikaze silwe. ” Njengokungathi ukuntuleka kokulwa ngandlela thile kuyisilinganiso sobudlelwano obunempilo.Impela, ayikho impilo etholakala ekulweni ephenduka ihlukumeze ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo noma ngamazwi. Kepha izingxabano phakathi kobudlelwano zathola nini idumela elibi kangaka? Ukufunda ukulwa ngokulingana kungasiza ekuqiniseni ubudlelwano ngokusinikeza ithuba lokulwela amandla obudlelwano esibufunayo, kunokuxazululela amandla akhona njengamanje. Ukungqubuzana kusinikeza ithuba lokuqonda kangcono umlingani wethu, sakhe iqembu eliqinile elinamandla ekusebenzisaneni ukuthola isixazululo, futhi lisinika umkhuba wokukhuluma ngalokho esikudingayo ebudlelwaneni. Akuyona ingxabano embi ngempilo yobudlelwano, yindlela esihamba ngayo ngayo. Nayi “imithetho” emihlanu yokufunda ubuciko bokulwa okulungile ...
1. Nguwe ophethe imizwa yakho
Impela, umlingani wakho angacindezela izinkinobho zakho, kepha awukwazi ukulawula umlingani wakho, wena wedwa. Ngakho-ke zingenele. Uyazi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani? Ingabe imizwa yakho iyalawuleka futhi ingabe uzizwa ulawula amazwi nezenzo zakho? Lapho sigxekwa ngokweqile ngentukuthelo noma yimuphi umuzwa, singalahlekelwa ukusebenza kobuchopho obusezingeni eliphakeme okudingekayo ukuze silwe ngokulingana futhi sibonise ukungqubuzana ngendlela eyenza ukuthi kuveze umkhiqizo. Ngakho-ke uma uzithola ugcwele imizwa, zinakekele futhi mhlawumbe uthathe ikhefu empini; vele umazise umlingani wakho ukuthi kwenzekani nokuthi ungakulungela nini ukubuyela engxoxweni. Kulelo qophelo, khuluma ngendlela ongakwazi ngayo ukuthi uzizwa kanjani nokuthi ucabangani. Umlingani wakho, noma sebenesikhathi esingakanani bengumlingani wakho, akayena umfundi wezingqondo nokufunda izinhloso ezenzweni zabanye ezibhebhezela izingxabano. Ngakho-ke ngokuzayo lapho kuvela ukungezwani ebudlelwaneni bakho, ziphonsele inselelo yokukhuluma kuphela ngamava nemizwa yakho.
2. Yazi ukuthi impi imayelana nani ngempela
Ukubala imizwa yethu kusisiza ukuthi siqonde ukuthi kuyini ngezenzo zozakwethu ezisibangele. Kuyivelakancane ukuthi ngempela kuliwe ngokukhohlwa ukuhlanzwa noma ukwephuza ukudla. Ngokunokwenzeka, impendulo enolaka kulezi zenzo isukela kakhulu endaweni yokulimala, ukwesaba, noma ngandlela thile ukuzizwa udelelekile ebudlelwaneni. Uma usheshe wakwazi ukubona umthombo ongumsuka wenkomba yokwethula, uzokwazi ukusheshe ubhekane nezidingo eziyiqiniso ezingatholakali okwamanje. Ngakho-ke kunokuba ulwe ngemali oyichithe ekuthengeni kwakamuva, ziphonsele inselelo yokukhuluma ngomthelela wokucindezeleka kwezezimali noma odinga ukwesekwa ovela kumlingani wakho ekugcineni isabelomali. Ukwazi ukuthi impi imayelana nani kusisiza ukuthi sigweme ukwehlukanisa ubudlelwano ngokulahleka ekulweni ngemininingwane yesimo futhi kunalokho sinikeze ithuba lokuhlangana ukuze sisekele isixazululo.
3.Sebenza usuka endaweni yelukuluku uqhathanisa nenzondo
Lapho udweshu lusuka ekukhombaneni ngeminwe nokusola, kungaqala ukuxazulula izingxabano. Esikhundleni sokucabanga ngezinhloso zomlingani wakho futhi ubeke umthwalo kubo ngokuthi uzizwa kanjani njengamanje, zinike inselelo yokubuza imibuzo ukuze uqonde kangcono umlingani wakho nokuthi bavelaphi. Ngokufanayo, lapho umlingani wakho ezwa ubuhlungu, buza imibuzo ukuze uqonde kangcono imizwa yabo. Ubudlelwano obunempilo buyizindlela ezimbili, ngakho-ke njengoba kubalulekile ukuzijwayeza ukuhlanganyela ngemizwa yakho nangesipiliyoni sakho, kubalulekile ngokulinganayo ukuqonda imizwa nesipiliyoni somlingani wakho. Ububele nozwela, inselelo imizwa yenzondo, kanye nenzondo kuyindlela yokuxazulula izingxabano. Khumbula ukuthi akekho "owinile" oqokiwe uma kukhulunywa ngokulwa ngaphakathi kobudlelwano.
4. Khumbula izindaba zolimi
Isisho esidala esithi, “akusiyo into oyishilo kodwa ukuthi usho kanjani,” siphethe iqiniso eliningi. Amagama ethu, iphimbo nokudlulisa kwethu umyalezo kuthinta indlela umyalezo wethu owamukelwa ngayo. Ukukhumbula okushoyo nokuthi ukusho kanjani kungenza umehluko omkhulu ekukhiqizeni udweshu. Lapho sisebenzisa ulimi olunolaka noma izinkomba ezingezona ezokukhuluma, sakha izindlela zokuzivikela ezinciphisa ukuba sengozini nokusondelana ngokomzwelo, izithako ezimbili ezibalulekile zokuqinisa ubudlelwano. Kubalulekile ukuthi ukwazi ukukhuluma ngentukuthelo, kepha intukuthelo ayinikezi ukudlula mahhala ukusebenzisa amagama alimazayo. Ngasikhathi sinye, sizwa imilayezo ngelensi yemizwa yethu, evame ukuphakama ngezikhathi zempi. Ukukhumbula emuva kumlingani wakho lokhu okuzwile kungasiza ekucaciseni ukuxhumana ngokungafanele nokuqinisekisa ukuthi umyalezo ohlosiwe wamukelwe. Okokugcina, njengoba nje izindaba zethu zibalulekile, ukuntuleka kwamagama kunomthelela omkhulu kangako. Gwema ukusebenzisa ukuthula ungaphenduli lapho uthukuthele, ngoba asikho isixazululo esingavela lapho umlingani oyedwa ebheka ukungaboni ngaso linye.
5. Umsebenzi wokulungisa uyingxenye ebalulekile yokulwa
Izingxabano kufanele zenzeke ebudlelwaneni futhi zinikeze ithuba lokukhula. Ukulwa ngokulinganayo kusiza ukwenza ukungezwani kwengxabano kukhiqize futhi kusebenze ubudlelwano, kepha kungumsebenzi wokulungisa ngemuva kwempi okusiza abalingani bahlangane futhi. Khuluma ngokuthi yini ebikusiza futhi ikulimaza kuwe ngesikhathi sodweshu ukuze nikwazi ukulwa ngokuhlukile ngokuzayo. Izingxabano zilinga abalingani ukuba banqamule, kepha uma nikwazi ukuthembela komunye nomunye kunokuba uziqhelelanise, ubudlelwano bakho bunethuba lokuqina. Zibuze ukuthi yini oyidinga kakhulu kumlingani wakho ukuze uzizwe uxhumekile ukuze ukwazi ukusebenzela ukulungisa ibhuloho elikwehlukanise phakathi kwempi. Ngokuhlonipha ukulimala okuqubuke ngesikhathi sokuxabana nokubonisa inhlonipho ngemizwa yethu neyomlingani wethu, sivumela ubudlelwano ithuba lokudlulela ngale kwengxabano yakamuva.