-Delile
Ngaphambi kokuthatha uhambo lwethu lokuthola ezinye zalezo zenzo zomshado ezilahliwe, ake sinikele isikhashana esenzweni esimangalisayo sokukhumbula. Thatha umoya ophefumulayo, uhogele kancane ungene emakhaleni akho, bamba imizuzwana emi-5 bese ukhipha kancane kancane ngomlomo wakho. Manje hlanganisa zonke izinzwa zakho njengoba ukhumbula isikhathi nendawo lapho wena nomlingani wakho nihlangane khona okokuqala. Yini oyibonile, wezwa, wezwa, wahogela, njll. Ushesha phambili usuku owamemezela ngalo umshado wakho emndenini nakubangane. Bomama, ngabe bekunomsindo ophakeme obonakalayo ophakeme ezwini lakho, mhlawumbe ukugxuma okujabulisayo okuhambisana nokumamatheka okungalawuleki, noma ngabe udlulise izindaba ngezwi elihlabayo nelisabekayo elibabaza okuthile ngomshado? Madoda, angibhekisi ngqo ekuphenduleni kwenu esibonelweni esishiwo ... cha, ngiyadlala nje. Amadoda angamemezela ngokuziqhenya ngokusho okuthile okufana nokuthi; "Leli phoyisa liyitholile intombi yalo eyinkomo."
Ngemuva kwalokhu, kwenziwa imicikilisho yomshado, ungaqabula umakoti, iwayini bese uyadla bese uya eholidini langemva komshado futhi ungene kulokho ngenjabulo, nesithandwa sakho osithandayo. Ngisho ukuthi yini okungahambi kahle. Kulesi sigaba, usezingeni eliphakeme lemvelo, eligcwele injabulo engajwayelekile.
Injabulo vs umkhuba ongahlelekile
Ngokuya ngePositive Psychology, singahlukanisa phakathi kwenjabulo ye-hedonic ne-eudaimonic noma inhlalakahle, okubhekisa kakhulu kulokho umuntu aziphathe ngakho maqondana nezimo, izimo, imicimbi, imizwa yakhe, njll. usuku lomshado kanye ne-honeymoon njengesibonelo. Injabulo ye-Eudaimonic iyinhlobo yenjabulo eqhubekayo futhi ifaka, ngokwesibonelo, umqondo ojulile wencazelo yempilo, injongo yokuphila, ukuxhumana, ubungani nobungane beqiniso. Isazi esidumile sePositive Psychology, uProf. Sonja Lyubomirsky, wethule izinhlaka zenjabulo, kanye nethiyori ye-Happiness Set point, ehambisana nomqondo we-hedonic adaptation to the world science. Lo mbono uphakamisa ukuthi amazinga ethu enjabulo ahlukile kumuntu ngamunye futhi akhiwe ngama-40% atholakala emicabangweni yakho, izenzo, nokukhetha kwakho, kanye no-10% onqunywa yizimo zangaphandle, njengomshado wakho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lo mbono uphetha ngokuthi sonke sinesisekelo senjabulo, esakha izimfanelo zofuzo ezisele ezingama-50%, lapho injabulo yethu izobuyela khona ngemuva komcimbi othokozisayo noma omubi.
Lo mbono uphakamisa ukuthi umshado wakho ungajabula kakhulu, ngokukhetha ngamabomu nezenzo ozithathayo, ukuthuthukisa nokusebenzisa amaqhinga wezikhathi ezithokozisayo, ezijabulisayo, ezizuzisayo, ezizuzisayo nezinenjongo, ukuze ulwe nalomphumela wokuzivumelanisa ne-hedonic, emshadweni wakho. Nalu uhlaka olulinganisekayo lokuthuthukisa uhlelo lwakho uqobo kanye nezinhloso zokuqinisa umshado wakho nobungane bakho.
KHULA ndawonye.
Imigomo.
Qinisekisa ukuthi unezinhloso ezifanayo ezindaweni ezithile zempilo nobudlelwano bakho. Akunandaba ukuthi ubukhulu noma umzuzu, imigomo eyabiwe ibalulekile. Gubha impumelelo nokufeza yonke imigomo ngendlela ejabulisayo nejabulisayo.
Iqiniso.
Uma ususa imizwa, ukuqonda, ukucwasa, nokucabanga kunoma yisiphi isimo, amaqiniso azoziveza wona, akunikeze iqiniso lakho langempela.
Izinketho.
Sebenzisa okufakwayo kwakho okudala nokudala kokubambisana, ukuthuthukisa izindlela ezintsha zokufinyelela izinhloso zakho. Cabanga ngaphandle kwalawo mabhokisi.
Ukuzimisela.
Ngabe unayo intando nokuzimisela ukuguqula izinhlelo zakho zibe yizenzo, ukuze ufinyelele ezinhlosweni zakho? Ukuzimisela kwakho futhi kunquma ukuzibophezela kwakho ezinhlelweni nasezinhlosweni zakho zomshado nezobudlelwano.
SMART ndawonye.
Okucacisiwe.
Yini ngempela ofuna ukuthi imiphumela yokufeza izinhloso zakho ibe yiyo? Yini ongathanda ukuyibona, ukuzwa kanye nokuzizwa njengomphumela wokuzuza inhloso ngempumelelo?
Ukulinganisa.
Uzolinganisa kanjani impumelelo nokufezekiswa kwezinjongo zakho? Thuthukisa ithuluzi lakho lokulinganisa, elingafaka izinyathelo zokulinganisa noma zekhwalithi ezizosebenzela umgomo wakho, ezimeni zakho ezihlukile, ngezinsizakusebenza onazo.
Ukutholakala.
Ngabe unemigomo efinyelelekayo, efinyeleleka ngokwamandla akho? Khomba izimfanelo ongazilawula, kanye nalezo ongakwazi ukuzilawula. Inhloso akusona isifiso noma iphupho, ngakho-ke ukugcwaliseka kwenhloso yakho akumele neze kufaka ukuncika kwabanye abantu noma ezenzweni zabo. Ngokushesha uzobona izinhloso ezinjalo lapho udinga ukufaka amagama athi "uma" nokuthi "kuphela lapho".
Ukufaneleka.
Ifanele kangakanani imigomo yakho ekuthuthukiseni umshado wakho, ubungani nenhlalakahle yezobudlelwano bakho? Ingabe kufanelekile ngokwanele ukuthi uzizwe unesidingo sokwenza kube yinto eza kuqala?
Isikhathi.
Xoxa futhi uvumelane ngesikhathi esingokoqobo ongathanda ukufeza izinhloso zakho kuso. Qaphela ukuthi lesi sikhathi esibekiwe akufanele senziwe ngephutha njengomnqamulajuqu, futhi kungenzeka singalokothi sibangele ukucindezeleka, ukwesaba kanye / noma ukukhathazeka kuwe noma kumlingani wakho. Kuyisiqondiso.
Ngenkathi umatasa ucabangisisa ngezinhloso zakho nezinhlelo ozenzayo, khumbula ukujabulelana, ukuhleka ndawonye, futhi ubonge ilungelo lokuthola umngane wakho omkhulu nozakwenu ohlangothini lwakho, ngenkathi uhamba nalolu hambo olumangalisayo, olubizwa NGOKUPHILA .