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- Ngabe ubudlelwano obunobunzima busho ukuthini kulaba abashadile
- Imali
- Ukwazisa
- Isimo Sengqondo
- Ukwethemba
- Chaza ubudlelwano obunenkinga nokuthi yini obenza buhluke
- Ukubhekana nobudlelwano obunzima
- Thola imbangela yenkinga
- Sebenzani ndawonye ukuthola isinqumo saphakade
- Hlanza ukungcola
Umshado uyintokozo, noma-ke siholelwa ekukholweni. Eqinisweni, abekho abantu ababili abayohlala bevumelanisa, ikakhulukazi uma uhlala endlini eyodwa. Cabanga ngezingane zakini uma unazo. Umshado uyinto efana naleyo, ngaphandle kwalapho bengahlobene nawe ngegazi.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi abantu bayashintsha. Isizathu soshintsho asibalulekile kangako. Okubalulekile ukuthi abantu bayashintsha, futhi kuyiqiniso. Kunezimo lapho abantu beguquka ngokwanele ukuthi bagcine sebenobudlelwano obunobunzima. Buyini ubudlelwano obunezinkinga? Kungaleso sikhathi lapho umbhangqwana unezinkinga eziningi kakhulu lapho ingcindezi ithatha impilo yabo yonke.
Iningi lemibhangqwana ebudlelwaneni obunenkinga lihlukana kuzo zonke izici zempilo yabo. Kuthinta impilo yabo, umsebenzi wabo, nobudlelwano babo nabanye abantu.
Ngabe ubudlelwano obunobunzima busho ukuthini kulaba abashadile
Kukhona abantu abakholelwa kumlingani oyedwa empilweni futhi abangaqhubeka nokunamathela kumlingani wabo ebunzimeni nasebubini. Akuyona into enhle noma embi empeleni, uma nizikhumbula izifungo zomshado, nobabili nathembisa ukukwenza lokho kanye.
Yonke imishado iba neminyaka emihle nemibi. Abantu abaningi abavuthiwe bayakuqonda lokho futhi bazimisele ukubhekana nesimo esivunguvungu sobuhlobo obunzima. Ngokusho kweLife Strategist uRenee Teller, uchaza ubudlelwano obunobunzima lapho izinkinga ezivela kubo zibulala impilo yakho nomsebenzi wakho.
Wabuye wanikeza izimbangela ezithile ezivamile zobudlelwano obunzima.
Imali
Uthando lwenza umhlaba ujikeleze, kepha yimali ekwenza ungaphonswa ngaphandle ngenkathi iphotha. Uma lo mbhangqwana unezinkinga zezezimali, kunethuba lokuthi ubudlelwano benu njengabantu abashadile buba nezinkinga futhi bube nobunzima.
Ukwazisa
Abantu bakholelwa ukuthi uma usebudlelwaneni, kufanele kube yinto yokuqala eza kuqala ezimpilweni zabashadikazi. Uma kukhona ukungqubuzana phakathi kwalowo mbono neqiniso, Kuzoholela ebudlelwaneni obunzima.
Isimo Sengqondo
Konke kumayelana nesimo sengqondo. Impumelelo kunoma yikuphi okwenziwa emhlabeni wangempela ithonywe kakhulu yisimo sakho sengqondo. Ubudlelwano besikhathi eside abuhlukile.
Ukwethemba
Ukwethemba, noma kunalokho ukulahleka noma ukungabi bikho kobuhlobo kungabonakalisa ngezindlela eziningi ezimbi ezingabucindezela ubuhlobo. Izinkinga ezisuselwe ekwethembeni (noma ukungabi bikho kwazo) ziyisilima futhi ziyalimaza. Kufana nokuhlala endlini noma kumakhadi, futhi uhlala uvula ifeni.
Imibhangqwana ehlala ebudlelwaneni obunenkinga ichaza izimpilo zayo ngenkinga eyinhloko enayo noma ngabe yimali, isimo sengqondo, noma ukungathembani. Kwakha izincazelo eziningi zobudlelwano obucindezelekile. Kodwa-ke, akulishintshi iqiniso lokuthi izinkinga ebudlelwaneni babo zinomthelela omubi ezimpilweni zabo zonke.
Chaza ubudlelwano obunenkinga nokuthi yini obenza buhluke
Yonke imibhangqwana inezinkinga.
Kukhona ngisho nemibhangqwana enezinkinga nokuphikisana nsuku zonke. Akunandaba ukuthi imvamisa yezinkinga, futhi akunangqondo ukusho ukuthi ayikho noma ayikaze ibe nayo. Akukhona lokho okunikeza ubuhlobo obunenkinga incazelo. Umbhangqwana usencazelweni yencwadi yokufunda kuphela yobudlelwano obunenkinga lapho izinkinga zabo zangasese zidlulela kwezinye izingxenye zempilo yabo, ngaphandle kobunzima benkinga.
Kuya ngabantu abathintekayo. Abantu abane-EQ ephezulu kanye nokuqina ngokomzwelo bayakwazi ukuqhubeka nomsebenzi wabo nezimpilo zansuku zonke noma ngabe banezinkinga zobudlelwano. Kukhona abanye abahlukana ngokuphelele ngenxa yempi elula engasho lutho nabalingani babo.
Umbhangqwana onenkinga yobudlelwano akusho ukuthi unobudlelwano obunzima, kepha umbhangqwana onobudlelwano obunenkinga nakanjani unezinkinga eziyisisekelo.
Inkinga uqobo lwayo ayisebenzi. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukusabela okungokomzwelo komlingani ngamunye. Ngokuya nge-contentthinking.com, kunokusabela okuhlukahlukene okubanzi kokuthi abantu babhekana kanjani nezinkinga zabo. Ubudlelwano obunobunzima benzeka lapho ukusabela kwakho ezindabeni eziseduze nempilo yakho kudala izingxabano ezintsha ngaphandle kobudlelwano.
Akunandaba nokuthi imbangela ivela ngaphandle. Isibonelo, ngokusho kukaRenee Teller, imbangela yokuqala yobudlelwano obunzima yimali. Izinkinga zezezimali zidala izinkinga nomlingani wakho futhi zona, zona, zibangela izinkinga ngomsebenzi wakho, zakha umbuthano ononya.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ubunzima obufanayo bezezimali benza ubudlelwano bube yinkinga, kepha wena nomlingani wakho ningabuvumeli buthinte ezinye izici zempilo yenu, (ngaphandle kwalabo abathinteka ngqo yimali) lapho-ke aninabo ubudlelwano obunzima.
Ukubhekana nobudlelwano obunzima
Inkinga enkulu ngobudlelwano obunenkinga ukuthi banenkambiso yokwakha umphumela we-domino nokwenza inkinga ibe nzima kakhulu ukuxazulula. Njengombuthano ononya esibonelweni esingenhla, ungadala izinkinga zawo uqobo, futhi ekugcineni uzodlula umkhawulo weningi labantu.
Kungakho izimo ezinobuthi ezinjengobudlelwano obunobunzima zidinga ukusingathwa ngokushesha okukhulu. Nazi izeluleko ezimbalwa zokuthi ungazikhipha kanjani emkhubeni.
Thola imbangela yenkinga
Uhlu oluvela kuRenee Teller lusiza kakhulu. Uma inkinga ivela ngaphandle njengemali, izihlobo, noma umsebenzi. Ukuhlasela inkinga ngqo njengezithandani.
Uma inkinga ihlobene nesimo sengqondo, ukwethemba, neminye imibono, bese ucabanga ukukhuluma nomeluleki noma wenze ushintsho oluhle empilweni yakho.
Sebenzani ndawonye ukuthola isinqumo saphakade
Umbhangqwana onobudlelwano obunenkinga kufanele bobabili basizane. Kuliqiniso ikakhulukazi kulokhu ngoba kuthinta ngqo bobabili abalingani. Xhumana futhi uthathe isinyathelo ngesinyathelo, cela usizo kubangani, umndeni, noma ochwepheshe abanamalayisense.
Kukhona futhi amacala uma ubudlelwano uqobo bunobuthi, ukuthi isixazululo ukubuchitha. Konke ukukhetha kuzoba nemiphumela emihle nemibi yesikhashana. Okulungile yilapho izinto zizoba ngcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi ukubuyela emuva kumane nje kuyizinkinga zesibili.
Hlanza ukungcola
Ubudlelwano obunenkinga ngokwencazelo bungumthombo wezinye izinkinga. Lezo zinkinga zamahlumela zidinga ukuxazululwa zodwa, noma zingabuya zibuhlukumeze ubudlelwano futhi.
Kungakhathalekile ukuthi ngabe nigcine nihlangene noma nihlukene phakathi, qiniseka ukuthi ubhekana nezinye izinkinga ubudlelwano bakho obubuhlungu obudalwe kwezinye izingxenye zempilo yakho.
Ubudlelwano obunamabala bungezinye zezinto empilweni okungafanele zinganakwa. Ezinye izinkinga ziyaphela uma ungazinaki. (njengenja yakwamakhelwane wakho ekhala ubusuku bonke ikwenza ungalali) Uyabajwayela, babe yingxenye yesizinda sakho. Ukuphila kuyaqhubeka. Ubudlelwano obuqinile abufani nalokho, udinga ukubulungisa ngokushesha, uma kungenjalo bazokuqothula sonke isiqu sakho.