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- Udinga ukuzwakala
- Isidingo sokuqinisekiswa
- Udinga ukubusiswa
- Isidingo sothando lomzimba
- Udinga ukukhethwa
Yize kungakhulunywa kakhulu, intsha ivame ukubuza imibuzo emibili ngaso sonke isikhathi. “Ingabe ngiyathandwa?” nokuthi “Ngingayithola yini indlela yami?” Abazali bavame ukudonswa ekugxileni iningi lamandla abo ekuphenduleni umbuzo wesibili nasekungakunakeni owokuqala. Kungokwemvelo ukuthi intsha ivivinye noma iphushe imingcele ebekwe ngabazali bayo. Lapho imingcele ihlolwa, kungaba nzima ukukhumbula lokho i-WHO ungumzali ubaluleke kakhulu kune- ini wenza njengomzali. Ngamanye amagama, kubalulekile ukuthi singanamathiseli ukuzihlonipha kwethu ngendlela esizizwa ngayo ngokuba ngumzali. Uma senza kanjalo, lapho-ke ngeke sikwazi ukunikeza njalo impendulo edingekayo embuzweni wokuqala.
Iningi lentsha lihlala lilwa nezinkinga ezintathu eziyinhloko. Owokuqala uthi “ngikahle yini ngendlela engibukeka ngayo?” Lokhu kuhlobene ngqo nokuzethemba kwabo. Owesibili uthi “ingabe ngihlakaniphe ngokwanele noma ngiyakwazi ukuphumelela empilweni?” Lokhu kuhlobene ngqo nomuzwa wabo wokufaneleka. Owesithathu uthi "ingabe ngiyalingana futhi ontanga yami bayangithanda?" Lokhu kuhlobene ngqo nomuzwa wokuba yilungu. Lezi yizidingo ezintathu eziyinhloko zentsha.
Abazali bangaphazamiseka ekusizeni intsha yabo iphendule le mibuzo ngokugxila kakhulu ekuziphatheni kwabo. Ngitshele abazali abaningi kule minyaka edlule ukuthi eminyakeni eyi-10 kusukela manje ngeke kube nandaba ukuthi zingaki izitsha ezingcolile ezazisele kusinki noma eminye imisebenzi yasala ingenziwa. Okuzobaluleka ukuthi ingane yakho esikhulile izokwazi ngaphandle kokungabaza ukuthi iyathandwa ngokungenamibandela futhi unobudlelwano. Sidinga ukukhunjuzwa ukuthi alikho ithuba lethonya eliqhubekayo uma singabugcini ubudlelwano.
Udinga ukuzwakala
Kunezidingo eziningana sonke esinazo futhi ukuzihlangabezana nazo akukaze kubaluleke ukwedlula eminyakeni yethu yobusha. Okokuqala isidingo sokuzwakala. Ukuzwakala akufani nokuvumelana nengane yakho. Njengabazali, sivame ukuzwa isidingo sokulungisa intsha yethu lapho yabelana ngezinto esizizwa zingahlakaniphile noma zimane nje zingalungile. Uma lokhu kwenziwa njalo, kuvala ukuxhumana. Intsha eningi (ikakhulukazi abafana) iba engakhulumisani. Kunzima ukungazami ukukhipha imininingwane kuzo. Kuhle ukuthi uhlale ukhumbuza ingane yakho ukuthi uyatholakala.
Isidingo sokuqinisekiswa
Isidingo sesibili ukuqinisekiswa. Lokhu kufakazela abakwenzayo. Imvamisa njengabazali silinda ukuqinisa kuze kube yilapho sebekwazi kahle okuthile, benza lelo banga esicabanga ukuthi kufanele ngabe unalo noma wenze khona kanye lokho esikucelile. Ngikhuthaza abazali ukuthi banikeze isiqiniseko sokuqagela. Uma osemusha ephumelela engxenyeni eyodwa yomsebenzi, khona-ke nikeza isiqinisekiso salokho kunokuba ulinde impumelelo ephelele. Imvamisa, abantu abanikeza isiqinisekiso enganeni noma kwentsha baba ngabantu abanethonya elikhulu kakhulu. Sizwa izindaba ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi umqeqeshi othile, uthisha noma umuntu othile wegunya wenze kanjani umehluko omkhulu empilweni ngokuvuma.
Udinga ukubusiswa
Isidingo sesithathu ukubusiswa. Osemusha akudingeki enze lutho. Lokhu ukwamukelwa okungenamibandela okungatholakali ukuthi "ungubani." Lo ngumyalezo ongaguquguquki wokuthi "noma ngabe ungubani, wenzani noma ubukeka kanjani ngizokuthanda ngoba uyindodana noma indodakazi yami." Lo mlayezo awukwazi ukukhulunywa kakhulu.
Isidingo sothando lomzimba
Isidingo sesine ngothando lomzimba. Ucwaningo oluningi lukhombisile ukuthi ngemuva kweminyaka engaba yiminyaka emine abazali abaningi bathinta izingane zabo kuphela lapho kunesidingo, okusho ukugqoka nokukhumula, ukungena emotweni, isiyalo. Kusabaluleke kakhulu eminyakeni yobusha. Kungaba nzima ukukhombisa uthando phakathi neminyaka yobusha ikakhulukazi kubaba nendodakazi. Kungabukeka kwehlukile kepha isidingo sothando lomzimba asiguquki.
Udinga ukukhethwa
Isidingo sesihlanu kufanele sikhethwe. Sonke sifisa ukukhethelwa ubudlelwano ngomunye. Iningi lethu liyakhumbula ukukhathazeka kokulinda ukubona ukuthi sizokhethelwa i-kickball ukuthi ilandelane kanjani ngesikhathi sokuphumula. Ukukhethwa kubaluleke kakhulu entsheni. Lapho umuntu osemusha kunzima kakhulu ukuthanda noma ukujabulela isikhathi esibaluleke kunazo zonke abazi ukuthi ukhetha ukuba nabo. Ngikhuthaza umzali ukuthi achithe isikhathi ngasinye nengane ngayinye njalo. Isibonelo esihle sokubaluleka kokukhethwa kwenzeka ku-movie Forrest Gump. Ngosuku lokuqala lwesikole uForrest wakhethwa nguJenny ukuthi azohlala naye ebhasini ngemuva kokuthi ejikiswe yibo bonke abanye. Kusukela ngalolo suku kuqhubeke, uForrest wayethandana noJenny.
Ukufeza lezi zidingo kungasigcina sixhumene nentsha yethu futhi kuyisize ekukhuliseni ukuzethemba, amandla nokuzimela.