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- Kwenzekani lapho kwenzeka lolu daba
- Umphumela wendaba
- Ukwelapha esiqeshini sokungathembeki
- Ungakuthatha kanjani ukungathembeki futhi wenze umshado ube ngcono kunakuqala
Kunezigaba eziningana zokululama kwezindaba ozohlangabezana nazo uma usutholile ngakho. Futhi lokhu kuzoba nzima futhi kube buhlungu, futhi kuvame ukwehlisa amandla. Kepha ukuphela kwendlela ekhona yokuphulukiswa ekuhlukumezekeni kokukhashelwa nokulimala kakhulu. Futhi kunezindlela ezimbili zokubhekana nale nqubo. Umuntu angaholela ekwehlukaneni nobuhlungu obuningi, kanti omunye unamandla okuthuthukisa umshado wakho.
Kwenzekani lapho kwenzeka lolu daba
Yinye into eyiqiniso, futhi iqiniso elingethusa abanye, futhi lingaletha ukukhululeka kwabanye. Izinto ziyenzeka. Zenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi mhlawumbe zizoqhubeka zenzeke. Umbiko kaJanus on Sexual Behavior uthole ukuthi okungenani bangama-40% abantu abashadile abake bathandana, ngokusho kokuvuma kwabo ngemuva kwesehlukaniso. Okusho ukuthi izinombolo kungenzeka ziphakeme kakhulu.
Futhi, yize kunezikhombisi ezithile maqondana nokwenzeka kokuthandana nomuntu ongaphandle komshado, elinye iqiniso ukuthi kungenzeka kunoma ngubani. Ubudlelwano babantu buyinkimbinkimbi ngokwedlulele, futhi abakwazi ukubikezela. Futhi ngezindaba, kukhona okungenani abantu abathathu abane-psyche yabo kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okudinga ukubalwa.
Umphumela wendaba
Kwenzekani ngomlingani okopelayo
Futhi uma lolu daba seluphumele obala, kuzokwenzeka i-avalanche. Okhohlisayo, noma sivame ukungakhathaleli inhlalakahle yakhe kakhulu ngalesi sikhathi, umgwaqo nawo unamaqhubu. Nazo kufanele zibhekane nezinhlungu nezinkinga eziningi ezintsha. Kumele babheke ukuthi benzeni kumuntu abamthandayo, kufanele bazibone emehlweni abo, futhi benze okuningi okusesha umphefumulo ukuze bakwazi ukusho ukuthi bazi kahle lokho abakwenzile nokuthi kungani. Imvamisa kuyisikhathi sokulahleka kwesithombe esivele sikhona. Kungaleso sikhathi lapho bephuma kwesinye isikhathi bethandana noma bejabulisa, kepha isigaba esinezingcindezi zokuthandana nokufihla, bese bengena ngokoqobo kwako nemiphumela yako.
Umlingani okhohlisiwe uzizwa kanjani
Oshade naye okhohlisiwe, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngokungenakugwenywa udlula esihogweni esiphilayo. Futhi lesi sihogo singahlala iminyaka, kepha nakanjani izinyanga ngemuva kokutholwa kokuqala. Kungazwakala kusakha manje, kepha ukwazi ukuthi kuzothatha okungenani iminyaka emibili ukuthi abakhohlisiwe belaphe kunganciphisa ingcindezi yokufuna ukuzizwa ungcono ngokushesha.
Ukwelapha esiqeshini sokungathembeki
Ukudlula kulolu daba kuyinkqubo ende futhi enzima. Kubuhlungu, futhi kuvame ukwehlisa isithunzi. Nobabili niyodlula ezinsukwini ezingcono, bese nihlaselwa ukubuyela emuva. Lokhu kuvamile ngokuphelele. Kuyinto eyinkimbinkimbi ukwedlula ikhanda lomuntu, futhi ayikwazi ukudlula sengathi uyimishini. Kepha ungalilahli ithemba. Ngoba ngisho nangosuku olubi kakhulu ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ngemuva kwendaba, usesendaweni engcono (yize ingahle ingazizwa kanjalo) kunangesikhathi owathola ngaso. Noma owenze ngaphambi kwakho.
Okokuqala, oshade naye okhohlisiwe uzokwethuka. Bazozizwa bendikindiki, bese bethukuthele, bese befana nokucasha egumbini elimnyama futhi bakhalele impilo yabo yonke. Bazozama ukuphika iqiniso bese bethola lonke lelo galelo futhi. Bazokhala, bese bememeza, bese bathula, bese bekhala futhi. Bazofuna ukuthi umkhohlisi abekhona ukuze abaduduze futhi aphendule imibuzo yabo; kodwa, umkhohlisi akaseyena umuntu ofanayo, futhi wenza izinto zibe nzima.
Ngemuva kwalokhu kushaqeka kokuqala, mhlawumbe isigaba esibuhlungu kunazo zonke sokululama kwabo bobabili abalingani sizofika, futhi lokho ngukukhathazeka. Imibuzo eminingi, izithombe ezingafuneki eziningi, ukungazethembi nokungabaza okuningi. Kunzima ukubhekana nalokhu, kepha ekugcineni kuzoba ngcono, futhi abashadikazi bangangena esigabeni esilandelayo sokululama, esihlola izinkinga eziholele odabeni. Ukufunda ngomunye nomunye. Ngenxa yalokho, ekugcineni kwalo mgwaqo onzima, uzokwazi ukudlula kulolo daba.
Ungakuthatha kanjani ukungathembeki futhi wenze umshado ube ngcono kunakuqala
Izindaba zingaphazamisa umshado noma ziwuqinise. Kuzoncika kubo bobabili abalingani. Umkhohlisi kufanele abekhona ukuphendula yonke imibuzo nokunciphisa konke ukungabaza. Abakhohlisiwe kufanele benze umzamo wokuqonda umkhohlisi futhi baziqonde.
Yiziphi izindaba ezilethayo ezingaba khona zomshado oqinile, lowo manje owakhelwe ekuqondeni okuphelele kwabo bobabili abalingani? Manje nobabili sazana kangcono kakhulu. Ongakwazi. Indlela osabela ngayo ezinkingeni ezahlukahlukene. Ubhekana kanjani ne-pan ndawonye. Sebenzisa lokhu, wakhe kabusha umshado omusha, oqinisiwe.