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Ukuphulukisa ngemuva kwendaba kuyinqubo eyenzeka ngezigaba. Akuyona neze inqubo esheshayo, esheshayo, noma elula. Uma uthola ukuthi umlingani wakho ubethandana, kungenzeka ukuthi usuyakubona lokhu. Futhi mhlawumbe ushaya phakathi kokuphika, intukuthelo engachazeki, intukuthelo echazayo (futhi evame ukuzwakaliswa), nokudabuka okungachazeki. Konke okujwayelekile. Ungesabi, uzodlula kukho. Nazi izigaba ezine sonke esidlule kuzo ngaphambi kokuthi singene emhlabeni ngaphandle kobuhlungu futhi.
Isigaba sokutholwa
Usuku owathola ngalo (impela) ngale ndaba kungenzeka lube ngolukhuni kunazo zonke ongalukhumbula. Kepha, futhi yisikhathi lapho uqala ukuphulukisa khona. Ozakwethu abakhashelwe bavame ukuzwa umuzwa wamathumbu, mhlawumbe baze bathole nezinkomba ezithile, mhlawumbe bazame nokwenza umlingani okhohlisayo avume. Kepha, konke lokho akukaze kukulungiselele ukutholakala okuqondile.
Lesi yisigaba sokushaqeka. Kunjengokungathi ubhekene nengwe enamazinyo enama-saber. Umzimba wakho wonke ulungiselela ukusinda engozini eseduze. Futhi ingqondo yakho yonke igxile kuleyo nto eyodwa, umhlaba wakho wonke uncipha uze ufike kulawo magama athi "i-affair". Futhi-ke imicabango yakho iqala ukugijimela ukubuza yonke imibuzo, isigidi semibuzo onethemba lokuthi izoletha ukukhululeka okuthile.
Okuhlobene: Ungabhekana Kanjani Nomkhohlisi
Kwabaningi bethu, ukutholwa kulandelwa ngokushesha intukuthelo engachazeki. Sizizwa sifutheka ngendlela engakaze ibonwe ngaphambili. Futhi kuvamise ukushintsha phakathi komlingani wethu, nomunye umuntu- ongenayo. Kepha, ukufutheka akuyona yonke into esibhekene nayo kulesi sigaba. Kukhona nokuzithemba, ukuzisola, ukwehla okungazelelwe kokuzethemba, futhi kuhle kakhulu yonke imizwa ebangeni.
Isigaba sosizi
Isigaba sokuqala semizwa eshubile futhi esishintsha ngokushesha, ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile, sishintshana ngesigaba esihlala isikhathi eside kakhulu. Kuyisigaba sosizi. Hhayi ukuthi usizi aluhambisani nazo zonke izinhlobo zeminye imizwa, futhi sizovame ukuzithola sikhumbula izinsuku zokuqala zobuhlobo bethu obusha.
Ukudabuka kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokwelashwa kwethu. Ngoba akukho okungcono ngaphandle kokuzivumela ukhale ngalokho okulahlekile, futhi ulahlekelwe kakhulu, noma ngabe budlelwane noma yini ngekusasa noma okwedlule. Ngokuqomisana, imvamisa umhlaba wakho wonke uyawa. Izinkolelo zakho, ikusasa lakho, kanye nesikhathi sakho esedlule, konke sekuyinkinga manje.
Okuhlobene: Ungasinda Kanjani Ukucindezeleka ngemuva Kokungathembeki
Yize kubuhlungu, kufanele uzivumele uzizwe usizi. Uma ungenakho ukusekelwa okuvela kumlingani wakho okopelayo ngalesi sigaba, kungahle kube nzima, kepha kusamele unakekele izidingo zakho manje. Khala, umemeze, ulale, ukhale kakhulu, kufanele ubhekane nakho konke ukudabuka kwakho futhi ukusebenzele, ngakho ungazibambi. Thola ukwesekwa uma ukwazi, kubangani bakho nomndeni wakho, noma ku-inthanethi ngokungaziwa.
Isigaba sokwamukela
Ngeke sikuqambele amanga. Ukuthola indaba kungathatha iminyaka. Lokhu sikukhomba ngoba iningi labalingani abakhohlisiwe livimbela ukwelashwa kwabo ngokulindela bona ukuthi badlule ezintweni ngokushaya kwenhliziyo. Ukungasho ukuthi mhlawumbe unomuzwa wokuthi ngeke usakwazi ukubekezelela ukulimala. Kepha yiba nokukholwa, njengoba izinto ziba ngcono usuku nosuku, noma zingabonakali zinjalo.
Okuhlobene: Ukuphinda Uthenjwe Ngemuva Kokungathembeki
Uma usuphila kuyo yonke intukuthelo nosizi lwakho, kancane kancane uzoqala ukwamukela okwenzekile. Lokho akusho ukuthi uzomxolela umlingani wakho. Noma ukuthi uzocabanga ukuthi lolu daba belungeyona into enkulu leyo, cha. Kusho ukuthi uzoba nokuthula nesikhathi sakho esedlule, nezinguquko, futhi ufunde ukufaka lokho okufundile kumuntu wakho omusha nasempilweni yakho entsha. Ngamanye amagama, uzosebenzisa le ndaba ukuze ube yinguqulo engcono yakho.
Isigaba sokuxhuma kabusha
Kwabashadikazi abathatha isinqumo sokusebenzela ebudlelwaneni babo, ngemuva kokuphulukiswa komlingani okhohlisiwe, okulandelayo kulandela ukuxhuma kabusha. Manje bazohlangana futhi, njengabantu abasha. Eyodwa engasenazo izimfihlo (noma engakwazi ukufihla lokho abakwaziyo ukukwenza, okungenani), naleyo ekhule ngobuhlungu obukhulu futhi yafunda ukuthi uthando lunamandla kunalokho.
Okuhlobene: Ukubhekana Nemiphumela Yokungathembeki Ndawonye
Kepha, noma ngabe ungeke uzame ukuvuselela ubudlelwano bakho, isigaba sokugcina senqubo yokuphulukisa kwakho siphinde sixhume kabusha. Ukuxhuma kabusha ngokwakho, nokuzimela kwakho, izindinganiso zakho, nothando lwakho ngokwakho. Futhi ukuxhuma kabusha nabanye. Nabangani bakho nomndeni wakho, futhi, mhlawumbe, nothando olusha olungaphambili.