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- Yini isisusa sakho sokucabangela ukuhlola owakwakho?
- 1. Unganelisa ukukhathazeka kwakho
- 2. Ungafunda ukwethemba oshade naye
- 3. Ungaqhubeka udlule esimeni esidala ukukhathazeka
- Umubi wokuhlola owakwakho
- 1. I-paranoia eyandisiwe
- 2. Ukucela ukungathembani ebudlelwaneni bakho
- 3. Ukuthola ukuthi izinsolo zakho zilungile
- 4. Umuzwa wecala ongaba nawo uma owakwakho engenzanga lutho olubi
- Isiphetho
Ingabe ulingeka ukuba uhlole umngane wakho womshado? Wake wahlola empeleni? Ucabanga ukuthi ukuhlola umlingani wakho kungumbono omuhle? Noma ucabanga ukuthi kuyinqaba oqinisekile?
Noma ngabe uhlala kuphi, le nkinga ingokoqobo, futhi nabashade abathembeke kunabo bonke bangalingeka ukuba bashweleze ukwesaba kwabo kwangaphakathi ngokulala kancane. Kepha ingabe ukuhlola umlingani wakho kuqondile njengokuvele uzumezele noma kunemiphumela emibi ngokwenza lokho?
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Yini isisusa sakho sokucabangela ukuhlola owakwakho?
Cishe kunezisusa ezimbili ezibalulekile zokufuna ukuhlola umlingani wakho;
- Ngoba unezinkinga zangempela.
- Ngoba unezinkinga ngokuthemba abantu.
Uma unezinkinga zangempela ngoshade naye okubangela ukuthi ufune inhloli, mhlawumbe kubalulekile ukuthi ubhekane ngqo naleso simo nomlingani wakho ngaphambi kokusihlola.
Ngale ndlela uzonikeza oshade naye ithuba, athembeke, futhi uma kungekho lutho olungakukhathaza, uzoba nethuba lokuxazulula ukwesaba kwakho nokuqhubekela phambili ebudlelwaneni bakho ngaphandle kokuyekethisa okuthile okuhle.
Uma kunjalo, unezinkinga ekuthembeni abantu, futhi akusikho okokuqala ukuthi uzithole uzizwa ngale ndlela - noma akusikho okokuqala ukuthi ucabangele ukuhlola umlingani wakho, kuhle ucabangele noma ucwaninge izinketho ezingakwazi ikusize ufunde kabanzi ngokuthi kungani ukuthola kunzima ukwethemba abantu. Futhi uma ungafunda ukuthi ungasisingatha kanjani lesi simo ukuze ungabi nezinkinga ezinjalo ngokuzayo.
Ukwelulekwa ngokomsebenzi nakanjani kuzoba isu eliwusizo lokuxazulula le nkinga.
Ochwepheshe bokuhlola owakwakho
1. Unganelisa ukukhathazeka kwakho
Ngokuhlola, (ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi lapho unezinkinga zokuthi ungabathemba yini), ngethemba lokuthi uzobona ukuthi akukho okumele ukhathazeke ngakho futhi ungaqhubeka. Lokhu kungenzeka ukuthi kungenye yezisusa eziyinhloko kunoma ngubani ocabanga ukuhlola owakwakhe.
Kepha akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi, njengoba uzothola.
2. Ungafunda ukwethemba oshade naye
Uma uhlola oshade naye futhi uthola ukuthi akukho lutho olungakhathazeka ngakho kungadala umuzwa wokuvuselelwa wokwethembana - inqobo nje uma ungangeni ogibeni lokulutha lokuqhubeka nokuhlola ngoba ukwazi!
3. Ungaqhubeka udlule esimeni esidala ukukhathazeka
Esimweni esikahle, uma usuthole iqiniso ngezinto ezikukhathazayo (noma ngabe usuthole ukuthi izinsolo zakho beziqinisile noma cha) kuzokulethela ukuvalwa kunoma yisiphi isimo esidale ukuthi ubambe inhloli kwasekuqaleni - ngethemba.
Umubi wokuhlola owakwakho
1. I-paranoia eyandisiwe
Kwesinye isikhathi uma usihlola, ungathola ukuthi yini ongakhathazeka ngayo. Noma ungahlangabezana nezinkinga ngokuthembela kumngane wakho womshado ongenacala.
Ngokwesibonelo; ungabona ingxoxo phakathi komuntu oshade naye nomngane wakudala wesikole engenacala, kepha akubonakali imsulwa emqondweni wakho wokuhlanya.
Kwezinye izimo ukuphambanisa kungakwenza ukuthi uphakamise umbono wakho ngandlela thile noshade naye, kuphela ukugqamisa kubo ukuthi ubulokhu ubuthongo nokuthi awubethembi!
Kwezinye izimo, ungahle uthambekele ekuhloleni oshade naye futhi ukhathazeke kakhulu ngezinto ezincane kakhulu. Okungeke kukhuthaze ubudlelwano obunempilo!
2. Ukucela ukungathembani ebudlelwaneni bakho
Ukuhlola kungakha isiprofetho esizigcwalisayo, lapho ukungathembeki kwakho kungadala ukungathembeki kuwe okuvela kumlingani wakho.
Ikakhulu uma besola ukuthi ubekade uzihlola!
3. Ukuthola ukuthi izinsolo zakho zilungile
Uma uthatha isinqumo sokuhlola umlingani wakho, kunethuba lokuthi ungathola ukuthi izinsolo zakho zilungile. Okusho ukuthi-ke unenkinga entsha ekuthathweni kwesinqumo sokuthi uzoxazulula kanjani le nkinga nomlingani wakho futhi wamukele amaqiniso owembulile.
Uma usebudlelwaneni obunzima, lokhu kungadala ubuhlungu obukhulu benhliziyo nezinkinga. Futhi uma bekunethuba lokuthi ungabakha kabusha ubudlelwano ungaba nezinkinga ezingeziwe njengokuthola kube nzima ukuzivimba ekuhloleni oshade naye ngokuzayo nokucela ukungathembeki ngokombono womlingani wakho ngoba bazokhathazeka ukuthi wena Ngizobahlola futhi ngokuzayo.
4. Umuzwa wecala ongaba nawo uma owakwakho engenzanga lutho olubi
Uma uhlolisise oshade naye futhi uthole ukuthi bathembekile, ungaba nobunzima bokuzixolela ngokwazi kwakho.
Ungase ulingeke nokuba utshele oshade naye ukuthi usuthathile - okungadala uqhekeko ebuhlotsheni bakho.
Umuzwa wecala ongase ube nawo esikhathini esizayo ungaba namandla kakhulu ukubhekana nawo futhi kungaba nzima ukuba umngane wakho wokuxolela.
Isiphetho
Ukuhlola umlingani wakho kuyisinqumo esingavela nemiphumela eminingi engahle iqhubekele phambili ekusaseni lakho kunokuba ubona. Futhi umjikelezo ononya oza nezingozi eziningi. Impela kungenzeka kube khona ithuba lokuthi ufakazele ukuthi owakwakho ukopela noma wenza enye into okhathazeke ngayo kepha kuthiwani uma kungenjalo?
Ungakwazi yini ukubamba ukushisa uma ukuhlola umlingani wakho kuthola okubi?