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- Ukhiye owodwa ozokwenza noma wephule amathuba akho okuthola uthando
- Ingcindezi yokuqomisana, ukuthandana inkulu
- Musa ukuphola kuze kube yilapho senithokoze ngokwedlulele ngokwenu
- Ukubona izici zesithandwa ezingasoze zabasebenzela
- Futhi enye yalezo zihluthulelo?
- Ukukhipha intukuthelo kulabo ababethandana nabo
Izigidi zamadoda nabesifazane njengamanje, zifuna uthando. Isesha uthando. Futhi iningi labo lizokwenza iphutha elifanayo elenziwa esikhathini esedlule.
Noma ungazi ukuthi benza amaphutha amakhulu emhlabeni wokuqomisana.
Eminyakeni engama-29 edlule, umbhali, umeluleki nomqeqeshi wezempilo othengisa phambili uDavid Essel ubelokhu esiza izigidi zabantu ukuba zingene emzileni ofanele ukuze zithole uthando olujulile.
Ukhiye owodwa ozokwenza noma wephule amathuba akho okuthola uthando
Ngezansi, uDavid uxoxa ngephuzu elilodwa lokhiye lokwehlukanisa elizocacisa, uma ungashadile njengamanje uma uzoluthola lolu thando olifunayo noma cha. “Kunengcindezi enkulu emphakathini ukuba sithandane.
Abesifazane, ikakhulukazi, bacwiliswa nsuku zonke ngezihloko ezikumamagazini, i-Intanethi, izingxoxo zomsakazo nezethelevishini ezithi uma ungowesifazane ovuthiwe, ngaphandle kothandana naye, kumele ngabe kukhona okungahambi kahle ngawe.
Amadoda, ezikhathini eziningi, nawo angayizwa ingcindezi evela kumalungu omndeni, kanye nozakwabo njengoba beqalaza futhi babona izithandani ezibonakala zijabule, noma mhlawumbe ziqala imindeni, futhi thina njengamadoda sinomuzwa wokuthi sisemuva kwebhola lesishiyagalombili.
Ingcindezi yokuqomisana, ukuthandana inkulu
Ngakho-ke ingcindezi yokuqomisana, ukuthandana, futhi mhlawumbe nokuba nomndeni inkulu kakhulu, kangangokuba iningi lethu aliqondi ukuthi senza iphutha elilodwa elikhulu elingavimba kalula noma yimaphi amathuba okuba nobudlelwano obunempilo nobenenjabulo esikhathini esizayo .
Yiliphi lelo phutha elilodwa elikhulu, lokuthi uma singaguquki njengamanje, lizoqinisekisa impilo enhle egcwele ubudlelwano obungaphansi kwalokhu ebesikuthemba?
Musa ukuphola kuze kube yilapho senithokoze ngokwedlulele ngokwenu
Yilokhu: akufanele nanini, naphakade, sithandane kuze kube yilapho sijabule ngokwedlulele ngokwethu ukungashadi.
Yini iningi labantu eliyenzayo ekugcineni kobudlelwano? Babukeka bagxuma bangene kokunye Ukugwema ukubuka ngaphakathi.
Ukugwema ukubuka izindima zabo eziphindaphindwayo ezonakalisa uthando ezimpilweni zabo.
Ukubona izici zesithandwa ezingasoze zabasebenzela
Bagxuma masinyane embhedeni womunye umuntu, ukuze bangaziboni izici zesithandwa esingasoze sabasebenzela. Futhi izingqinamba zikhona ngaphandle kokuthi unciphisa ijubane futhi uthole indlela yokubheka phambili ngamaphutha akho adlule, futhi ngasikhathi sinye ukuthola indlela eya enjabulweni wedwa, uthando luyoba yize.
Encwadini yethu entsha yezothando eyimfihlakalo ebizwa nge- “Angel on a surfboard: A novel romance novel ehlola okhiye bothando olujulile“, sixoxa ngezinkinobho eziyisithupha ezinkulu sonke okudingeka siziqonde ukuze sakhe ubuhlobo obujulile, obunothando.
Futhi enye yalezo zihluthulelo?
Esinye sezihluthulelo ukuthi kudingeka sifunde ukuba ngabangashadile abajabule kakhulu, ngaphambi kokuba sibuyele ezweni lokuphola.
Kule coaster ethokozisayo nethandekayo njengenoveli, umlingisi oholayo uSandy Tavish, ingcweti kwezobudlelwano futhi efuna okhiye bothando olujulile okungenzeka ukuthi ubephuthelwe njengoba ebhala incwadi yakhe eziqhingini zaseHawaii, uhlangana no-surfer wesifazane osethathe umhlalaphansi muhle impela, kepha ujeke ngokweqile uma kukhulunywa ngamadoda nezwe lokuqomisana.
Ngisho nangabo bonke ubuhle bakhe, uphatha isigcwagcwa sento eyenzeka esikhathini esedlule, emgcina ekulesi simo sokukhungatheka, kanye nokuzikhohlisa maqondana nabesilisa nobudlelwano.
Ezingxoxweni zabo olwandle, uSandy wamchazela ngokubaluleka okubalulekile kokuthatha isikhathi sokuphumula, nokwenza impilo ejabulisayo ngenkathi singashadile, ukuze sihehe omunye umuntu naye ongashadile futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ajabule nabo ezweni lokungashadi .
Kuthatha ukushukunyiswa uSandy ukuthola lo wesifazane osethathe umhlalaphansi, uJenn, ebhodini nefilosofi yakhe kodwa ekugcineni kwencwadi ubona ukuhlakanipha okushunyayelwa nguSandy.
Ukukhipha intukuthelo kulabo ababethandana nabo
Kunezinye izinkinobho ezinhlanu ezibaluleke ngokumangazayo zothando olujulile esizihlola kuyo yonke le ncwadi ethokozisayo, kepha kulabo abangashadile njengamanje abafunda le ndatshana, akukho okubaluleke ngaphezu kokwehlisa ijubane, ukusebenza nochwepheshe ukukhipha intukuthelo yakho kulabo ababethandana nabo, bese sakha impilo ejabulisayo manje.
Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho sijabule kakhulu ngathi njengomuntu ongashadile, lapho singanikeza ngobuhlobo obulandelayo konke esinakho maqondana nezipho zethu, amathalente, nothando.
Ngakho-ke njengamanje, uma ungashadile, yehlisa ijubane unake le ndatshana.
Eminyakeni ecishe ibe ngu-30 edlule sengisize izinkulungwane zabantu ukuthi zilandele uhlelo esilubalulile ngenhla, futhi zijabule ngendlela emangalisayo ngaphandle kozakwethu, ukuze ekugcineni bathole lobo budlelwane obugcwalisayo obusinda iningi lethu empilweni.
Kuwufanele umsebenzi. Kufanelekile ukubekezela. Futhi kufanelekile ukungashadi isikhashana kuze kube yilapho uthola leyo ndlela ehlanganisa injabulo nokungashadi.