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- 1. Ukucupha umlingani ngomusho wokuqala kusho
- Kunconyiwe - Gcina Inkambo Yami Yomshado
- 2. Amatshe / Ukugwema
- 3. Ukuntuleka kokucacela
- 4. Ukwethemba
- 5. Ukukhula ngokuhlukana
- 6. Ukuntuleka kokwesekwa
- 7. Ezothando nezothando
- Wazi kanjani uma udinga ukwelulekwa ngomshado?
Inkinga yokuqala ngezithandani ukuxhumana. Kodwa-ke, kunezinye izingqinamba ezingaba nomthelela ekonakaleni ubudlelwano obuhle ngenye indlela. Izingqinamba okufanele uzicabangele uma uzibuza, ukuthi umshado wakho udinga usizo.
Kunezindlela eziningi ezahlukahlukene zokuthi abantu baxhumana kanjani ngokungafanele.
1. Ukucupha umlingani ngomusho wokuqala kusho
Esikhundleni sokukhuthaza ukuqonda nokusombulula, umusho wokuqala udala ukuvimbela futhi ukusabela kokuqala komlingani ukuhlasela. Ngokushesha ngemuva kwalokho, lo mbhangqwana uqala ukuphikisana ngezinkinga ezivela esikhathini esedlule, esikhundleni salowo osesandleni.
Kunconyiwe - Gcina Inkambo Yami Yomshado
2. Amatshe / Ukugwema
Yiziphi izimpawu zomshado wakho osenkingeni? Oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani bazama ukugwema ukungaboni ngaso linye noma izingxabano ngokugwema omunye komunye. Kwesinye isikhathi, umlingani ucindezelwa yimizwa futhi adinge ukusuka kuleso simo. Lolu hlobo lwezithandani lusetshenziselwa ukugwema futhi "ukudedela" (noma ukugcina imizwa) futhi imvamisa ababuyeli empikiswaneni.
3. Ukuntuleka kokucacela
Ozakwethu bangaba nezidingo / izidingo ezithile kodwa kube nzima ukuzwakalisa. Esikhundleni salokho, bacabanga ukuthi umlingani bekufanele azi ukuthi enzeni.
Ukuba nokuxhumana okuhle kuyisisekelo sobudlelwano obunempilo. Ukwazi ukuthi ungakhuluma kanjani nganoma yini (kufaka phakathi ezezimali, ezocansi, nezinye izindaba ezinzima) kubalulekile ebudlelwaneni obuhle.
4. Ukwethemba
Ngokufika komakhalekhukhwini kanye nezinkundla zokuxhumana, kubukeka sengathi baningi abalingani abanenkinga yokwethembana. Abanye abathandi abalingani babo bekhuluma nabantu bobulili obuhlukile. Abanye banezinkinga ngokuthola ukuthumelelana imiyalezo yocansi kanye / noma izithombe zocansi ezingcingweni zabalingani babo. Ozakwethu kufanele bazibuze, “Ngabe ikhona imingcele / imithetho eyeqiwa ngumlingani oyedwa? Ingabe ikhona imithetho / imingcele ecacile okufanele ilandelwe, nemiphumela iyaqondakala uma yephuliwe?
Ukuzikhethela kuyinto enhle ukuba nayo; kodwa-ke, ukuzithathela izinqumo kuza nemiphumela elandelayo. Kepha uma kunemithetho / imingcele ecacile okufanele ilandelwe, kuba lula ukwakha nokugcina ukwethembana.
5. Ukukhula ngokuhlukana
Ngakho-ke awusekho esigabeni sokuphola - futhi awusekho esigabeni se-honeymoon. Impilo iyenzeka, kwafika izingcindezi. Umlingani ngamunye unqume ukuthi anganqoba kanjani izingcindezi zakhe nenqubekela phambili njengomuntu. Bese bezithola bekude futhi bangaqhubeki beqonde enhlosweni efanayo (okungukuthi, ukuthatha umhlalaphansi, ukuhamba, ukuzithandela, njll.) Bazizwa sengathi bayahlukana nokuthi kungenzeka bangabi naso isixazululo sobudlelwano babo.
Ngeshwa, lokhu kungenzeka, noma kunjalo, kaningi izikhathi ibanga elenzeka lapho kunokushoda kokuxhumana okuhle nalapho abalingani bakhohlwa ukwazisa konke okukhona kumlingani wabo (impumelelo yabo kanye nokufezile).
Ziyini izimpawu zomshado ohlulekayo? Lapho umlingani ezizwa enqanyuliwe futhi engenandaba nokukhuluma nomunye umlingani, umelaphi angaba isingeniso esihle salabo abashadile. Yilapho umshado wakho udinga usizo.
6. Ukuntuleka kokwesekwa
Imibhangqwana ingahlukana ngaphandle kokungasekelani; kubalulekile ukubalula ukuthi abalingani abangasekeli izinqumo zomunye abalingani bangadala isimo esinobutha ekhaya labo. Ngezinye izikhathi, oshade naye angazizwa sengathi akukho ukuxhaswa kwezezimali komunye umlingani.
Ngezinye izikhathi, oshade naye angazizwa ukuthi akukho ukuxhaswa ngemisebenzi yasendlini noma ukukhulisa izingane. Kwesinye isikhathi abantu bayahlukaniswa ngaphakathi komndeni wabo bese bakhohlwa ukwakha ubungani nokunakekela ubudlelwano bomndeni. Ukuba nomuzwa wokuba ngowomhlaba ongaphezu komndeni kubalulekile kuwo wonke umuntu.
7. Ezothando nezothando
Isibikezelo esihle kakhulu sobulili obukhulu siba nobulili obukhulu kaningi. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi abantu bazithola bengene ocansini (1-2 times ngonyaka noma ngaphansi) emshadweni.
Ingabe umshado wakho udinga usizo? Uma umshado wakho uhlushwa ukuntuleka kothando nokusondelana, kusho ukuthi usenkingeni yosizi.
Ukuntuleka kothando nokusondelana kwenzeka hhayi kuphela ngokungabi bikho kokuxhumana nokwejwayelekile. Izwe lanamuhla lilimaza ezothando nokusondelana. Imboni yezithombe zobulili ezingcolile isanda ngamandla. Kwakungakaze kube nesikhathi esingcono sokukhiqiza i-porn, ngoba cishe yonke indlu / umuntu ngamunye angayithola esebenzisa ifoni noma amakhompyutha (abanye baze basebenzise amakhompyutha abo omsebenzi ukubuka izithombe ezingcolile).
Ukutholakala kanye nalokho okushiwo yizithombe zobulili ezingcolile kuyalimaza ubudlelwano emazingeni amaningi ahlukene. Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zisetshenziselwa kabanzi ukushaya indlwabu.
Abesilisa ikakhulukazi bayehla (ngokushesha okukhulu) ngokubuka izithombe ezingcolile ezingcingweni zabo noma kwikhompyutha, kanti abesifazane bakhala ngokungabi nandaba kwabesilisa kubona. Lolu udaba olukabili: abesilisa babika ukuthi “kungumsebenzi omningi ukwenza ucansi nomlingani wakho” futhi “ukuhlangana kwethu ngokocansi akufani nocansi lwezocansi.” Kubukeka sengathi abesilisa bayayeka ukuya ocansini nabalingani babo.
Enye indlela uthando nokusondelana okulimala ngayo embonini yezocansi ukuthi abesilisa abaningi abasebasha kakhulu bavela ehhovisi likadokotela ngokungasebenzi kahle kwe-erectile (ED). Lokhu kufaka nabalingisi be-porno futhi.
Inani lamacala e-ED lenyukile eminyakeni engama-30 kuya kwengama-40 edlule, kanti iminyaka yobudala emaphakathi ebikwe ngezinkinga ze-ED yehle kakhulu (kusuka kuma-50s kuya manje 'ama-30s).Abesilisa bebelokhu begwema ukuhlangana ngokocansi nomlingani wabo, ngoba banenkinga yokuthola nokugcina ukwakhiwa isikhathi eside.
Wazi kanjani uma udinga ukwelulekwa ngomshado?
Uma umshado wakho uhlupheke ngalokhu okungenhla, khona-ke ukwelulekwa kwezithandani noma inkambo yomshado kungaba yithuluzi elibaluleke kakhulu lokuvuselela ubudlelwano bakho obuphukile.
Ngabe ukwelulekwa kwezithandani kwenzelwa imibhangqwana eshadile kuphela? Akunjalo ngempela.
Uma usebudlelwaneni obubucayi futhi ubheka ukukhulisa impilo yabo ende, ngakho-ke noma ngabe ushade nomunye noma cha, kufanele ufune ukwelulekwa kwezithandani ukuze uzuze.
Kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa imibhangqwana ukuthi izimo / izingqinamba eziningi ezibalulwe ngenhla zinamathuba okuxazulula ngaphandle kokuchitha ubuhlobo bazo. Imibhangqwana kufanele ihlanganyele ekwelashweni kwezithandani nochwepheshe wokwelashwa kwemishado / imibhangqwana futhi izibophezele ekusebenzeni ngezinkinga zayo, kanye nokuqhubeka nokubandakanya amandla abo njengabantu abashadile. Okubaluleke kakhulu okudingeka ubuze, ngabe umshado wakho udinga usizo?