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- 1. Oshade naye akuyona into eza kuqala kuwe
- 2. Umlingani wakho uyakhohlisa / uyahlukumeza
- 3. Ukuxhumana ngokungeyikho kanye nokucabanga okungamanga
- 4. Ukungathembeki
Umshado ongcwele uyisibopho esihlanzekile phakathi kwabantu ababili lapho bahlanganiswe ngobunye futhi bahlanganiswa baba umuntu oyedwa; kukhombisa uhambo lwempilo lapho abalingani ababili beboshelwe ndawonye ingunaphakade ebubini nasebubini noma ukugula noma impilo enhle; ngesethembiso sokuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi sizoba ngasohlangothini lomunye noma ngabe izimo ziba nzima kangakanani.
Ngamagama asebenzayo, kuyisivumelwano se-ironclad esenza ubudlelwano phakathi kowesilisa nowesifazane buqinisekiswe nguMthetho uqobo, kepha ngokomqondo wawo wokomoya, uhlanganisa izingxenye ezimbili zomphefumulo ofanayo ukuwuqedela, yingakho igama elithi soulmates.
Ukugcina umshado ofanele akuvamile
Yize umqondo womshado ngokwawo muhle ebunkulunkulwini bawo, ngeshwa, sihlala ezweni elingaphelele, futhi ukugcina umshado ofanele akuvamile.
Abantu bavame ukubhajiswa emshadweni ongajabulisi nomlingani ohlukumeza ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba, noma bayangena emshadweni ohleliwe lapho kungahambisani ngokoqobo phakathi kwalaba bantu bobabili, mhlawumbe kukhona igebe elikhulu lokuxhumana phakathi kwalaba bantu abashadile noma abaningi kakhulu amandla aphazamisayo aphazamisa ubudlelwano.
Imishado ayisihle neze empilweni yangempela, futhi kule ndatshana, sizodlula kokunye ukubonakaliswa okuvame kakhulu kwemishado engenampilo ejwayelekile kakhulu.
1. Oshade naye akuyona into eza kuqala kuwe
Abangani bakho, izihlobo eziseduze, nabazali bakho bayingxenye ebalulekile yempilo yakho; babambe iqhaza elibalulekile ekukhuleni njengomuntu, futhi bakuthandile futhi bakunakekela kuqala ngaphambi kokuba oshade naye azi ukuthi ukhona.
Akungabazeki ukuthi ubakweleta uthando lwakho nokwethembeka, kepha bona laba bantu badinga ukuqonda ukuthi badinga ukuhlala emuva uma kukhulunywa ngoshade naye.
Emphakathini wethu ngandlela thile sicabanga ukuthi sinezwi ezimpilweni zomunye umuntu ikakhulukazi sibatshele ukuthi kufanele baphile kanjani izimpilo zabo; lokhu kumane kuwukucabanga nje, futhi kufanele siyiqonde imingcele yethu yezenhlalo.
Uma umatasa ulalele lokho izihlobo zakho ezikushoyo ngomkakho / umyeni wakho noma uma uhlala ubeka phambili abazali bakho, abafowenu / odadewenu, noma abangane ngaphezu komlingani wakho ngeke ube nobuhlobo obanele nowakwakho.
Noma ngabe kwenzekani umkakho / umyeni wakho uza kuqala! Uma kungenjalo, udinga ukuqala ukubuza imibuzo kuwe nakumlingani wakho nokuthi lapho umshado wakho umi khona. Lokhu lapha kuyisibonakaliso esinobuthi, futhi uzoyithola emphakathini wethu.
2. Umlingani wakho uyakhohlisa / uyahlukumeza
Zindla ngokucophelela ngalokhu bese ukhumbula okokugcina lapho ukhulume nomuntu oshade naye ngomusa ukuze nje uthole impendulo enolaka enenzondo evela kuye.
Uzobona ukuthi lesi akusona okokuqala uthola ukusabela okunjalo, lokhu kwenzeka njalo.
Cabanga ngazo zonke izikhathi lapho ubufuna khona ukwesekwa noma wabelane ngempumelelo ethokozisayo nomlingani wakho, kepha kungenzeka zikwenze uzizwe unecala ngokuzizwa ucindezelekile noma zikudilize ngokuphelele ngokuhlanganisa izindaba zakho ezinhle zikwenze ungabaluleki.
Lapha kukhona umlingani onobuhlungu ozonda wena ngaphakathi noma ozizonda yena ezingeni elijulile.
Ingabe oshade naye uyakushaya bese kuthi ngandlela thile akubeke icala ngakho?
Ingabe ukusola ngokungakwazi ukusebenza kwakho futhi akwenze uzizwe sengathi uwena ongenamandla? Ingabe bakubhekisisa kabuhlungu noma bakugxeke ngokufuna impindiselo ngokuthi nje ungumuntu onguye uqobo?
Uma kunjalo, ngakho-ke kuliqiniso elisobala ukuthi awujabuli cha hhayi nakancane, uminyanisa kule ngxube engazelelwe engokomzwelo nengqondo ebizwa ngomshado. Khathala ukuthi nawe ungaba ngumlingani. Qaphela ukuthi abesifazane ikakhulukazi banolaka ngenkathi abesilisa bevame ukukhetha ulaka lomzimba.
3. Ukuxhumana ngokungeyikho kanye nokucabanga okungamanga
Ngabe umshado wakho wakhelwe ngokukhululeka phezu kwezinkathazo, amathemba amabi nokucabanga okuyingozi?
Ake sithi umyeni wakho uthola umlayezo wombhalo, kuthi ngenkathi exoxa nawe, akuphendule buthule bese engena engxoxweni futhi. Uzwa sengathi ukhuluma nomuntu okhethekile ocingweni lakhe, kanti akakuthandi; manje yazi ukuthi lokho kucatshangwa kuphela, hhayi iqiniso elingokoqobo okungenzeka ukuthi uvele walithumela ngomyalezo othi "Ngiyakuthanda" kumama wakhe.
Kuthiwani uma ubona umkakho ekhuluma nozakwabo wesilisa futhi usola ukuthi akathembekile kuwe, ebe ebuza ngamafayela amacala akusasa.
Nobabili anikhulumi futhi nithule buthule ninenzondo, nilimalelana, futhi niyasolana, nizizwa nikhohlisiwe futhi nikhohlisiwe futhi niqhubeka nizihlukanisa noma ngabe ninikezana ihlombe, noma nikugcona ngomlomo nihlasela oshade naye ngento abangayenzanga ' ngenza.
Lokhu kuvimbela kuphela ibanga phakathi kwenu kujule futhi kunishiya nobabili nididekile futhi nicindezelekile, okungaqeda umshado wenu.
Sicela uthembe futhi uhloniphe abalingani bakho futhi nixhumane nanoma yikuphi ukungabaza noma izingqinamba eningaba nazo; banikeze ithuba lokuthi basebenze kuzo.
4. Ukungathembeki
Leli fulegi elibomvu elikhulu lingahamba ngazo zombili izindlela; ukukopela akukhona okomzimba kuphela, kodwa futhi kungokomzwelo.
Ake sithi unomngane osebenza kahle ehhovisi lakho, futhi awukwazi ukuzibamba kodwa ukhangwa nguye; uphuma uyophuza ikhofi futhi ube nengxoxo emnandi, futhi uyikho konke ongakucabanga ngakho noma ngabe ukundoda yakho.
Ngemuva kwesikhathi esiningi lokhu kuba yinto oyithandayo, futhi uchitha isikhathi nomyeni wakho, lokhu kungenzeka futhi ngokufanayo.
Awukhohlisi umuntu oshade naye ngokomzimba, kepha ngokwesilinganiso esingokomzwelo, futhi kuyinto ebuhlungu kumyeni / kumkakho.
Zibambe ngekhola bese uzibuze ukuthi kwenzekani ngempela; ngabe kungenxa yokuthi awujabuli kulo mshado noma kungenye yezici ezithile ngomlingani wakho ezikududulela kude nabo?
Ukugoqa
Ungakushiyi lokhu kuzenzekele uma wazi ukuthi kunenkinga epharadesi. Sebenzani ngazwi linye ekuxazululeni izingxabano emshadweni, uma nibona lokhu kuqhekeka ebudlelwaneni benu.