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- Uxhumano lwasendle olucacile
- Izimpawu eziqinisekile zokungezwani kwezocansi phakathi kowesilisa nowesifazane:
- 1. Bheka iso ngokuqonda
- 2. Yenza okuhlekisayo nokukhohlisayo, kepha yehlisa idrama
- 3. Ungavumeli isikhathi sokuncoma sidlule
- 4. Yakha ukusondela ngamadlelo ngengozi
- 5. Khombisa ngempahla yakho enhle kakhulu, dlala ngamandla akho
- Gwema leli phutha elikhanyayo ngenkathi uzama ukwakha ukungezwani ngokocansi
- Khumbula ukwenza lokho uma kufanele, kepha ungakwenzi ngokweqile
Ukuthola ukuqhuma okukhulu kwezingcindezi zocansi kungumuzwa othokozisayo, oletha phambili umnyombo wakho wobulwane kakhulu ngenkathi ujabulela umuzwa omnandi, ontekenteke wokugoqa njalo uma uzungeza lo muntu.
Ngaphandle kokushoshozela, ukuzwa ukushaywa emzimbeni, kanye nomoya ocansini phakathi kwalaba bantu ababili abakhangana omunye nomunye, ukungezwani ngokocansi kungabangelwa okungcono kakhulu ukuxhuma kwenyama. Ungase ukhethe ukwenza noma ungenzi ngokukhanga kwakho okuluhlaza, okungasendle, nokukhanga komunye nomunye.
Uxhumano lwasendle olucacile
Izimpawu zokungezwani ngokocansi zingachazwa kangcono njengomuzwa okhulisa imizwa lapho ufuna ukushayela phezulu noma ukuhamba amamayela ukubona lo muntu, ukujabulela ukusondelana komunye nomunye, futhi uze uqale ukuzizwa umuhle ngokubukeka kwakho njengoba ulungiselela phambi isibuko ekuseni.
Ukuxhumeka okungahambi kahle kwangaphandle nokuhambisana okubonakalayo komzimba kungagcina sekuqedile umhlaba, ubulili be-cathartic noma kungahlala nje kunjengoba kunjalo, njengomuzwa omisiwe womoya omile wokuzulazula isikhashana bese uphela emuva kwalokho. (Noma kunjalo, kuhle kuze kuqhubeke!)
Uma ufuna izimpawu zokufakazela ukuthi ukuxhumana okusemthethweni kwezocansi nezindlela zokugcina lokhu kuhlukumezeka kwezocansi, ungabe usaqhubeka!
Izimpawu eziqinisekile zokungezwani kwezocansi phakathi kowesilisa nowesifazane:
- Ukuxhumana kwamehlo okuhambisana nokubheka okuntshontshiwe okuhamba phakathi kwekhefu nokubuyisela - kukhombisa isimo se-sex vibe.
- Ukukhathazeka ekusebenzisaneni kwakho lapho ulwa khona nesifiso sokungashayi inkinobho yokwethuka ezungeze i-bae yakho okwamanje.
- Uzithola uphupha kaningi ngomuntu ovame ukuba sesimweni sokubalekela ezocansi, cishe njengesiko.
- I-vibe kagesi lapho ulwa khona nesifiso sokuthinta lowo muntu bese ugcina ngokumncoma kwazise awuboni iziqhumane zenzeka ngokushesha.
- Kukhona umongo wokudlala ngothando kukho konke ukuxhumana okwabelana nabo.
- Abangani bakho noma osebenza nabo, uma kuyindawo yokusebenza, basikisela ukuthi wabelane ngamakhemikhali aqhephukayo.
- Kuyathokozisa ukuthokozela kwakho njalo lapho bedlula khona. Ukuhamba kwabo, ukumamatheka, noma ukuba khona kwabo kuphela kuyisisusa sokugcina socansi kuwe!
- Ulimi lomzimba wakho ludidekile phambi kwabo futhi ama-eye-roll akho nokumamatheka okwenziwe ngenye indlela kukhona ukuze bakubone futhi bakwazi nje!
Izimpawu zezimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi ezivela kowesilisa noma owesifazane akunzima ukuziqonda. Lezi zimpawu zokuhlukumezeka ngokocansi kwabesilisa nabesifazane zikhomba ukuthi kunethuba lokuyisa izinto ezingeni elilandelayo.
Uma uhlangabezana nalezi zimpawu zamakhemikhali ezocansi futhi ufuna izindlela zokwakha ukungezwani kwezocansi nangaphezulu, nazi izeluleko zokuthi ungazakha kanjani izingxabano zobulili nowesilisa noma nowesifazane.
Izimpawu zamakhemikhali nokuthi ungazakha kanjani izingxabano zocansi nowesifazane noma owesilisa, ngaphandle kokungahluziwe:
1. Bheka iso ngokuqonda
Ukuxhumana ngamehlo okuntekenteke nokubuka okuntshontshiwe kungukubheja kwakho okuhle kakhulu ekuvaleni igebe phakathi kokuncoma buthule nokuba ngabalingani bobugebengu. Yiba nobuqili nokho, awufuni ukuhlangana nesilwane esidla ezinye.
Bheka, bamba lowo mbono ngemfudumalo engacabangi, ukhanyise ukumamatheka okufudumele okusheshayo bese ubheka eceleni ngomzuzwana.
Ngale ndlela, ubenza bazibuze ukuthi ngabe ububahlola yini, noma bekuwukubheka okudlulayo okungasho lutho. Ukuphusha nokudonsa kanye nesimo sokungaqiniseki kunganikeza isisekelo esikhulu ekuqaleni kokwakhiwa kwezocansi okujabulisayo.
2. Yenza okuhlekisayo nokukhohlisayo, kepha yehlisa idrama
Esikhundleni sokwenza amadlingozi ngokweqile, noma ukwenza ukuphishekela kube umsebenzi wokuphila kwakho, gcina izinto zilula ususe izihibe zezinkinga noma imiphumela yesikhathi esizayo.
Yenza amahlaya uzungeze, hlakanipha, futhi ube nomdlandla kepha ungangcolisi. Futhi, kugcine konke kunenhliziyo elula, ungenzi into yakho ehehayo njengendawo yokugcina ekugxilwe kuyo. Ukunaka kwakho okuhlukanisiwe kumuntu kungabenza bazizwe becwaswa futhi begijimela ikhava! Ngaphandle kwalokho, awufuni ukuhlangana nomuntu oswele, ongenantshisekelo.
3. Ungavumeli isikhathi sokuncoma sidlule
Uma ukuchoboza kwakho kubukeka kukuhle ikakhulukazi noma izinwele zabo, iphunga elimnandi, ukumamatheka, noma izicathulo - noma yini ikuthakazelisa, yeka ukuncoma. Awudingi ukuqondiswa ngekhono lokuncoma. Khumbula ukusebenzisa ithuluzi elinezici eziningi zokuncoma ngobuqotho.
Ukuncoma okucabangayo, okunenhloso enhle kungaba yisiqalo esihle sengxoxo nokukhuthaza imizwa yomuntu okuhehayo.
Hlala isikhathi enkulumweni enesikhashana, inkulumo eyize ngemuva kokuba ubathandile futhi ubambezele okuhle kwakho.
Makube sobala ukuthi awujahile ukudabula ukubuyela kulokho okuyikho, futhi njengokuvimba ukuhamba.
4. Yakha ukusondela ngamadlelo ngengozi
Ukwelusa ngengozi kunguhlobo olulula kakhulu lokudlala ngothando.
Benze bazizwe bethanda ukunyuka kwengcindezi yezocansi ngokudla ngengalo yakho ngengozi noma ngokubathinta kancane emhlane wabo ngendlela ebonakala ingenacala kakhulu. Khumbula ukubhala phansi engqondweni yakho noma yiziphi izimpawu zokuphindisela noma ukungaphatheki kahle.
Sebenzisa lezi zenzo ezijwayelekile njengabakhi bezifiso zocansi ezithandekayo.
5. Khombisa ngempahla yakho enhle kakhulu, dlala ngamandla akho
Yiba nesibindi ngaphandle kokuhlangana njengengane eyondliwe ushukela.
Ukuzijabulisa kuyaheha. Faka umdlandla engxoxweni yakho. Qiniseka ngokubukisa ngomzimba wakho noma ukumamatheka kwakho okukhazimulayo ngomuzwa wokuzethemba.
Gqoka ukuthokozisa ngokwabela isikhathi esithile ngenkathi ugqokele umsebenzi uma kwenzeka ukuthi ozithandayo ube ngumuntu osebenza naye noma ngabe kungumuntu othile ekilasini lokuzilibazisa. Ngeke nje kukhulise izinga lakho lokuzethemba kepha kuzophinda kuthathe izinhlamvu zamehlo kulokho okulindele noma mhlawumbe nakwabanye ozobambisana nabo.
I-Flashy ayikhangi. Ungumahluleli ohamba phambili walokho okuhamba phambili ngokuziphatha kwakho. Nyathela ngokuqapha.
Gwema leli phutha elikhanyayo ngenkathi uzama ukwakha ukungezwani ngokocansi
Ukuxoxa ngocansi ngeke kuyinqume uma uzama ukwakha ukungezwani okuyisisekelo kocansi!
Abesilisa nabesifazane, bobabili bathanda ukulindela lapho beyinto yokuyengwa. Izinkulumo zocansi ezisobala zingukubhidliza kokugcina futhi zisusa ekwakhiweni okuklabalasayo kwejubane lamahomoni. Kungase futhi kukwenze uhlangane njengoswele futhi onwabuzelayo.
Kubulala uzungu!
Khumbula ukwenza lokho uma kufanele, kepha ungakwenzi ngokweqile
Yenza ucingo lokwahlulela ukuthi uyafuna ukuphuma, noma phuma.
Noma ngabe uzodala ukungezwani kwezocansi phakathi kwakho nomuntu, makugcine kufe ekugcineni, noma ufuna ukukuyisa ezingeni elilandelayo - cabanga ukuthi uzimisele ukukususa kude kangakanani.
Ngaphambi kokusebenzisa lawa macebiso ukwakha nokusimamisa ukungezwani okukhulu kwezocansi, yima kancane ukuthola ukuthi ufunani.
Noma ngabe ukhetha ukuyigcina iyikhiye eliphansi, imfihlo egcinwe kahle noma ukuxhumeka kocansi kubonakale ngesikhathi esibi kakhulu ndawonye phakathi kwamashidi, khumbula ukunambitha umzuzu ngamunye wale vacy vibe ongeke ukwazi ukuyibeka ngamagama!
Isihluthulelo ukusijabulela ngenkathi sihlala!