-Delile
- 1. Ukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, nokudabuka
- 2. Ukushintsha kwemizwelo
- 3. Izinkinga zempilo
- 4. Unecala
- 5. Ukuthuthukiswa komphakathi
- Isehlukaniso asikona nje kuphela ukusabalalisa ubudedengu
Esinye sezinqumo ezinzima kakhulu okumele umuntu asenze kulempilo ukukhetha ukuhlukanisa uma izingane nazo zibandakanyeka enkambisweni ebuhlungu. Isehlukaniso akusona isigaba esimnandi ukudlula kuso, futhi wonke uchwepheshe uzovuma ukuthi sizohlala sinomthelela othile ezinganeni, kuya ngokuthi budlelwane kanjani nabazali bazo.
Isehlukaniso sizokwengeza ngokushesha ukucindezeleka hhayi kuzo zombili izimpilo zakho kepha nakwabanye obathandayo nabangane.
Kuzofanele uqaphele futhi uhlakaniphe kakhulu lapho futhi uma uthatha isinqumo sokushiya umshado wakho.
Khumbula njalo ukuthi imizwa emibi yokulimazeka nokudumazeka umlingani wakho akubekele yona kwesinye isikhathi ingakala okungamanga ngaphezu kwezidingo izingane zakho ezinazo. Kumele futhi ukhumbule ukuthi ukuze izingane zikhule ngendlela efanele futhi enempilo, kuzofanele abe nabo bobabili abazali.
Ngaphambi kokuthi singene kweminye yemiphumela emibi ukuqhekeka emshadweni okunayo ekukhuleni kwengane, kufanele sisho ukuthi uma ungekho ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo futhi unezinkinga ezingasingathwa ngosizo oluncane lwangaphandle lokwelulekwa, sincoma ukuthi ulungisa umshado wakho.
Sizobeka eminye yemiphumela idivosi enayo ezinganeni ezibanjwe maphakathi nayo. Qaphela ukuthi isehlukaniso uqobo asizithinti izingane ngendlela embi, kepha imiphumela yaso nezinga lengxabano ekhona phakathi kwabazali ababili.
Ngisho nangaphambi kokuthatha isinqumo, "kufanele ngihlale emshadweni wami ngenxa yezingane noma cha?", Kungcono ukuthi ubhekane nemiphumela engemihle ukwehlukana komshado ezinganeni.
1. Ukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, nokudabuka
Lapho abazali behamba ngezigaba zesehlukaniso noma zokwehlukana, izingane zizovele zithambekele ekukhathazekeni nakwezinye izinkinga zemizwa ezibangelwa yingcindezi ehlala ifakwa kuyo.
Lokhu kuzophinde kuthinte amandla abo okugxila esikoleni futhi kubonise nasemandleni abo okuthuthukisa ubudlelwano obusha nezinye izingane.
2. Ukushintsha kwemizwelo
Izingane ezincane zithambekele ekuhluphekeni kokuphazamiseka kwemizwelo futhi kungenzeka zithukuthele ngokushesha lapho zihlangana nabanye ezibazungezile. Kungaba futhi okuphambene. Izingane zingaba izethulo ezingaphezulu futhi zivaleke kude nomhlaba wangaphandle.
Ngokwemvelo izingane ziyabona lapho okuthile okuzungezile kungalungile, futhi ekugcineni, imiphumela ebuhlungu yesahlukaniso izomhlula.
3. Izinkinga zempilo
Inani lengcindezi izingane ezibekwa ngalo lapho abazali bebhekene nesehlukaniso lizibonakalisa linomthelela omkhulu empilweni yazo.
Amasosha abo omzimba azothinteka ngenxa yokuntula ukuphumula futhi nakanjani bazothambekela kakhulu ekuguleni.
Ngaphambi kokucabanga, 'kufanele ngihlale emshadweni wami ngenxa yezingane?', Kubalulekile ukuthi ucabangele inhlala-kahle yezingane zakho kanye nokuphazamiseka kwezempilo okungenzeka ukuthi bahlushwa yikho ngenxa yokungezwani okwandayo ekhaya.
4. Unecala
Izingane ezihamba ngesehlukaniso zizibuza ukuthi kungani abazali bazo behlukana. Bazozibuza ukuthi ngabe ngandlela thile benze okuthile obekungalungile, noma uma umama nobaba wabo bengasathandani.
Umuzwa wecala, uma uyekwa ukhula enganeni, ungaholela kwezinye izingqinamba eziyinkinga kakhulu. Lokhu kufaka isandla ekucindezelekeni nakwezinye izinkinga ezihlobene nempilo eziza eceleni kwakho.
Kepha le nkinga ingaxazululwa ngokuxhumana nabo nangokuzama ukubachazela ukuthi kwenzekani.
5. Ukuthuthukiswa komphakathi
Ukuthuthuka komphakathi kwezingane kuncike ekusebenzisaneni abanakho nabazali bazo.
Izingane zifunda ngokuzenzekelayo ukuzivumelanisa nobudlelwano bazo besikhathi esizayo kubazali bazo.
Lokhu kubalulekile ekukhuleni kwabo ekukhuleni nasekuxhumaneni kwabo nomphakathi esikhathini esizayo emhlabeni ongaphandle.
Isehlukaniso asikona nje kuphela ukusabalalisa ubudedengu
Isehlukaniso kwesinye isikhathi sinemiphumela emihle ezinganeni, ngeke sikuphike lokho. Umzali ongayedwa kusobala ukuthi uzozinikela kakhulu ekukhuleni kwengane yakhe. Ezinye izingane zizoba nenzuzo yokuba noKhisimusi amabili noma amaphathi amabili ezinsuku zokuzalwa.
Uma abazali besalokhu ‘bengabangani’ ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, ukukhula okuphelele kwezingane ngeke kuthikamezwe nganoma iyiphi indlela uma bobabili abazali begxila ekubhekeni kwezingane zabo esikhundleni sezinkinga ababenazo esikhathini esedlule.
Udaba lwesehlukaniso ludinga ukucatshangelwa ngokuhlakanipha kakhulu hhayi nje ngokungahleliwe sifinyelele esiphethweni. Ngaphambi kokuthi uthathe isinqumo, 'kufanele ngihlale emshadweni wami ngenxa yezingane noma cha?', Kunconywa ukuthi uqiniseke ukuthi ingane yakho inabazali bayo bobabili empilweni yayo ukuze ikhule kahle empilweni yabo yokuba ngabantu abadala.