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- Kuyini ukuzithokozisa?
- 1. Sebenzisa izinsizakusebenza
- 2. Lalela iculo lakho olithandayo
- 3. Zijwayeze ukucabanga
- 4. Thatha uhambo lwemizuzu emihlanu
- 5. Khuluma ngomusa kuwe
- 6. Sebenzisa amandla e-aromatherapy
- 7. Yidla ukudla kwakho kokunethezeka
- 8. Khala
Ukuhlaselwa ngokomzwelo kungaziveza egagasini lemizwa yokudangala noma ngokwesaba nangokukhathazeka. Ukuhlaselwa ngokomzwelo kungaba yinkohliso enkulu ukuphatha – kungakhungathekisa kakhulu kumuntu obhekene nakho, futhi kungadida abantu ababazungezile.
Uma wena noma othile omaziyo ohlangabezana nalokhu kuhlaselwa ngokomzwelo, nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa zamasu okuzithambisa angasiza ukulawula le mizwa ebabazekayo.
Kuyini ukuzithokozisa?
Ukuzithambisa kuyisenzo sokulawula imizwa yakho.Lesi isenzo sokuphazamisa noma ukubeka phansi umuntu ekuqaleni kwemizwa ecasula kakhulu.
Ukuzithambisa kubaluleke kakhulu ngoba kunikeza umuzwa wokukhululeka kumuntu obhekene negagasi lemizwa ekhathazayo.
Ngenkathi ukuthola ukusekelwa okungokomzwelo ohlelweni lokusekela ngothando kusiza ngezindlela eziningi, ukuthola izindlela zokuzitholela ezikusebenzelayo kubaluleke njengokukwazi ngakho. Kuphakanyiswa ngisho nokugcina uhlu lwamasu akho wokuzithambisa futhi ulugcine lutholakala engalweni.
Nazi izindlela eziningana zokuzitholela ongazijwayela uma kwenzeka uhlaselwa ngokomzwelo:
1. Sebenzisa izinsizakusebenza
Phakathi kwezincazelo zesichazamazwi saleli gama, isisetshenziswa sithi: “umthombo wokuhlinzeka, ukusekela, noma ukusiza, ikakhulukazi ongasetshenziswa kalula lapho kudingeka.” Le ncazelo isibonisa ukuthi lo mpahla “utholakala kalula.”
Iningi lamasu okuzithambisa atholakala ku-intanethi avela kusisetshenziswa sangaphandle. Noma kunjalo, lena isebenzisa izinqubo zangaphakathi kuphela.
Ngokuya ngamasu okuzithambisa, ukuthola izinsiza kusebenza kubhekisa ekufinyeleleni kokutholakala kwengqondo yethu ukuze uzithobe.
Ukutholwa kabusha kubandakanya ukufinyelela izinkumbulo eziletha imizwa emihle, efudumele, kanye nemizwa emihle.
Ngabe uchithe usuku oluhle olwandle nomndeni wakho wonke ngenkathi usemncane? Noma wake waba nesidlo sakusihlwa somndeni lapho wonke umndeni wakho wawukhona ukugubha iziqu zakho esikoleni esiphakeme?
Izinkumbulo ezaziwa njengezihle zingasiza ukuletha imizwa efudumele nemicabango eyenza kusebenze izingxenye ezifanayo zobuchopho njengalapho udla ikhekhe lakho le-chocolate olithandayo.
2. Lalela iculo lakho olithandayo
Ukuza emsebenzini kungaba umcimbi ocindezela kakhulu – isiminyaminya, ukucindezeleka kokulungiselela umndeni usuku lwabo oluzayo, uMsombuluko - Que horror!
Kodwa-ke ngibonile ukuthi ukulalela ingoma yami engiyithandayo lapho ngiya emsebenzini kuyindlela enhle yokuqeda ukukhathazeka futhi ngacabanga ukuthi, kumele kube nesayensi kulokhu.
Empeleni, kukhona!
Ukulalela umculo kulawula imizwa etholwe ilusizo kubantu, ngisho nakubantu ababhekana ne-PTSD.
Ocwaningweni olwenziwe eSouthern Illinois, omakadebona baseMelika bathola ukwelashwa komculo. Kubasizile ukuphatha imiphumela ecindezelayo yokwethuka, ukukhathazeka nokudangala. Esifundweni esifanayo, umculo ubuye ubonwe njengendawo yokuphuma noma isiteshi esivumele ukuthi badlulise imizwa abanobunzima ukuyiveza lapho besebenzisa ulimi olujwayelekile.
3. Zijwayeze ukucabanga
Ukucabangela kuyinkqubo yezengqondo yokuletha izinzwa zakho ndawonye okwamanje.
Ukucabangela akudingi ukuthi umuntu enze okuningi, ukufunda ukuthi ungakunaka kanjani ukuphefumula kwakho sekuvele kuthathwa njengomsebenzi wokucabanga.
Omunye umsebenzi wokucabanga ongasetshenziswa ekuqaleni kokuhlaselwa ngokomzwelo ucindezela izithende zakho phansi. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukusondeza izinzwa zakho kumzuzu wamanje esikhundleni sokukhukhulwa yimizwa enamandla.
4. Thatha uhambo lwemizuzu emihlanu
Ukuhamba kungumsebenzi ohilela izinzwa ezinhlanu. Ukuba nobukhona bengqondo kuyadingeka ukuze uphumelele kulo msebenzi oqondile, okwenza kube inqubo ephelele yokuzithambisa.
Lo msebenzi omfushane ubuye usize ekukhipheni i-oxytocin, i-hormone eyaziwa ngokuthi "i-hormone ejabulayo." I-Oxytocin isiza imizwa emihle nokuphumula
5. Khuluma ngomusa kuwe
Izikhulumi eziningi ezikhuthazayo zikhuthaza ukuqinisekiswa okuhle ukuheha impumelelo. Uma lokhu kungenza okuningi kithi ukuheha impumelelo, kusebenza kuphela ukusebenzisa izinkulumo ezakhayo ukusibuyisela ezingqondweni zethu.
Lapho sicindezelekile, sithambekele kakhulu ekuphendukeleni kuzinkulumo ezinodlame kithi uqobo. Umgxeki wethu wangaphakathi uzwakala kakhulu. Izinkulumo ezilimazayo ezifana nokuthi: “Uyisehluleki” “Uyisehluleki” “Umubi” ziqaliswa ubuchopho bethu njengokuthi sizilimaze.
Ngenye indlela, ungasebenzisa izinkulumo zokuzixoxela ezilandelayo ukuze uzithobe:
"Ngiyakuthanda."
“Le mizwa izodlula.”
"Ngiyakukholwa."
Dala uhlu lwalemisho emihle bese uyigcina lapho ungayibona khona. Lokhu ukuzizwela okulula ukukwenza.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, sonke kufanele sibe ngabangane bethu, futhi lokhu singakwenza ngokuthulisa umgxeki wethu wangaphakathi futhi sithathe indawo yokuzikhulumela okungekuhle ngezinhle.
6. Sebenzisa amandla e-aromatherapy
I-Aromatherapy yindlela yokwelapha esebenzisa umuzwa wephunga ukuhlinzeka impumuzo. Uma ngabe uye e-spa, uzobona ukuthi basebenzisa le ndlela.
Amafutha e-Aromatherapy ngephunga le-eucalyptus (avula ama-sinus), i-lavender (isiza ukuphumuza izinzwa, ihehe ubuthongo), aphakathi nje kwephunga le-aromatherapy elivame kakhulu elisetshenziswa yilezi zikhungo futhi lokhu kungenxa yezindawo zazo zokuphumula.
Uma uzithola uhlaselwa ngokomzwelo ngaphambi nje kokulala, kungaba ukuhlakanipha ukuthenga uwoyela obalulekile we-lavender, uwusakaze emqamelweni, ukuze ukhulule izinzwa zakho futhi kukusize ukhululeke ukulala.
7. Yidla ukudla kwakho kokunethezeka
Ukudla kuthathwa njengokudla 'kokunethezeka' uma kuletha imizwa ejabulisayo, efudumele kuze kufike ezingeni lokuthi likukhulule.
Ukudla kwakho okuthandayo kungakwenza lokhu njengoba kungakhipha i-oxytocin, njengalapho senza umsebenzi ojabulisayo, okungukuthi, ukudansa noma ukuya ocansini.
8. Khala
Ezingxenyeni zokuqala zefilimu yenkolo, iFight Club, umlingisi ophambili nomngani wakhe uBob babehlangene ndawonye futhi bacelwa ukuthi bakhale bodwa njengendlela yokukhulula esimisweni sokwelapha.
Njengoba kungazuzisi njengoba kubonakala kungakhanya, ukukhala kungenye yezindlela ezisebenza kahle kakhulu zokuzithambisa.
Ososayensi bathola ukuthi imizimba yethu iphendukela ekukhaleni njengenqubo yokulawula kunokuba nje isabele nje ekuvuseleleni. Phakathi kwemisebenzi yokukhala ukuhlinzeka ngokunciphisa ukucindezeleka nokuphakama kwemizwelo.
Lezi zindlela zokuzitholela ezinhle ziyiziphakamiso zokuthola izindlela ezizokusiza ezikhathini zobunzima. Kuphakanyiswa futhi ukuthi ugcine iphephabhuku futhi ubheke ukuthi iyiphi inqubo yokuzithokozisa esebenza kangcono kuwe ngaphansi kwezimo ezithile ukuze ukwazi ukuyisebenzisa ngokuzenzakalela ekugcineni kokuhlaselwa ngokomzwelo.